This is.. the dating chat thread, number 38

[lubeybooby]

All dating related chit chat, as usual... in here

off we go! :o

Watch that's really great :)

Almost gives me hope. Which as I've been on the verge of cancelling tomorrow all day is no bad thing.

oh, he just called to say how really great today was, and how he would like to carry it on and see me lots.

:)

and that its not about sex. and how cool i am.

:)

how amazing is that?

velvet, why are you cancelling?

Oh velvet how come? are you ok?

and ahh watch that's so nice to hear for a change!

I've not definitely decided to cancel, but I have been thinking of it. I've had a crappy day, been really disappointed in someone I thought was a friend (and has proved they're not) and I just get the feeling everyone but me thinks Cuthbert is utter bullshit anyway so why am I wasting my time...that kind of thing.

velvet, fuck everyone else, you do what you want and feels right for you.

You like him, you know the score, he wasnt in a great place for dating, that might have changed, that might not have, and thats ok. dating does not have to lead anywhere, its perfectly fine to just enjoy it for what it is. There are far worse things to do than to spend the evening with a man whos company you enjoy.

Lubey - sure is nice. makes a change. no game playing.

velvet how would you feel about going to meet Cuthbert, having a good night but casting a critical eye to see if in the cold light of several weeks you think he measures up. That might give you more of an idea about whether you'd like something with him or to keep him as a friend?

Its always nice to go out for a meal Velv ....Torso and i had lunch yesterday (I know he would like more but...) it was just a lovely thing to do in itself. I like food, I like conversation, you do to...so why not go for that alone?

...it may lead to something else or not...live for today?

Ike I don't eat in front of men!

If I go, it will be the pub and drinking until we are tipsy pissed.

I don't want him as a friend, I have enough friends, plus every male friend Ive ever had ends up upsetting me one way or another. I've already made my mind up that if he cant/wont agree to see me more often than once in a blue moon every 6 weeks, then I won't see him again.

I'm just in such an awful mood that it's making me overly negative about Cuthbert I think.

Watch,

Ok, Velv, your choice.

My friend doesnt eat in front of men either....but she would give em a damn good seeing to....strange that.....(ike ponders)...

velvet that sounds like a plan

Watch, sounds fantastic I am very jealous!

Velvet, I think you have a great grasp on this situation. Glad you are going, hopefully Cuthbert will surprise you

I have had an interesting day with MrCM through texts. I felt him cooling off so called him on it. Basically said I won't be bothering if he can't be bothered and it's obvious as his texts are shorter and taking longer to come through.

He said he thought he was ready for a relationship but now isn't sure he can handle being with someone and my bull in a china shop method (I am forward and have let him know I was up for IE) had scared him. I pointed out he contacted me on an intimate encounter profile, which I read as he wanted casual. He finds me very attractive but he hasn't been intimate with anyone for over 4 years, his wife was the last one and he doesn't think he can do casual. Fair enough, have told him happy to be friends, go slow or whatever so long as every one is honest and there are no games. He agreed

I was surprised how honest he was and if we have time we will have a drink over the weekend. So, am a bit in limbo but I actually feel ok about it. What will be will be

date is moved forward a few hours, after another phone conversation. Maybe plans for sat too.

this isnt even red flags, because i feel like i want to keep talking/ see him as much as i can.

weird/ exciting all at the same time

Velvet I think your decision is sensible and admirable. That way you have been more than understanding and accomodating with his slow pace, but at the same time are refusing to accept it dragging out endlessly and not really getting anywhere, namely not accepting something you don't want.

Good for you - I hope it goes well though.

I can highly recommend ben and jerrys berry white for the bad mood!

There are a few couple of men I wish had never eaten in front of me. I actually finished with a man who was funny, clever, chatty but did all that whilst eating with his mouth open

Flipper, I'm so sorry. Really hope the inevitable doesn't happen...

I think I will go tomorrow. Just need to cheer up a bit between now and then :)

Flipper, sorry today has had you worried, hopefully everything will be ok and you can continue being happy about your situation

Flipper my fingers are crossed for you. X
Velv...go you daft bugger...

flipper take it very easy then, what will be will be, pain and bleeding isn't always significant

flipper - sorry, tons of crossed posts there. hope you are ok and its not the worst.

i like eating in front of men. im a eat with hands, feed each other bits type person. if they dont like this, then they arent going to be for me. i cant be with somone prissy about other peoples germs.

mrsc, urgh, well, hope the drink goes well. i do think most men like the idea of ie, but when it comes down to it, cant. or dont.

Everything crossed for you flipper ((((hugs))))

Oh flipper I'm so sorry. Do get checked out properly though, cramping can be normal and expansion rather than mc.. and I had quite a lot of spotting with dd. Do look after yourself (((hugs))))

Flipper, I'm really sorry, another big un-MN hug.

Velvet, as others have said, what the bloody hell does it matter what anyone else thinks of Cuthbert ? You enjoy his company. You just need to do whatever makes you happiest.