This is.. the dating chat thread, number 38

[lubeybooby]

All dating related chit chat, as usual... in here

off we go! :o

Snape how lovely!

Whooooooooo Whoooooooooooooooo Snape! Snape! Snape! Go giiiiiiirl. (ike resumes normality) Hey sounds like time well spent, fab news...

Oooh!

LM has been, brought me some stuff over, been lovely to the dcs, been particularly lovely to me, and gone. Nothing has gone wrong, in fact probably the opposite. He said he just wanted to see me. Probably be next week now but at least for now I feel okay and not whittly about that.

OWW ..I understand that underlying sense of unease...when on the surface things seem fine. Allow yourself to just feel comfy with yourself, now, in this moment...whatever happens in the future well ...not for us to guess.x

Hi everyone. I might not be posting loads at the moment but I'm still checking in with everyone's updates.

for lubey and I know we're not like real people on here but I think we make good listeners.

To all those with dates.

As for me, seeing geeky girl tomorrow for date 4 in what is a pretty slow burner. She's nice, we'll have a good time. Just need to figure out how to get some momentum. No other sweet trolley action to speak of. Moon girl (long time messer abouter) sent the occasional text, PC (mutual crush at work) looking cute and giggling whenever we walk past each other (which helps the day pass).

It's a positive whirlwind on here at the moment,

Lubey, you seem like a hugely sensible person, any conclusions you come to will be the right ones for you and your dd.

Flipper ( are you Fayster ? ) - congratulations, it almost makes me feel broody, almost but not quite.

Velvet, good luck with Cuthbert and his positively glaciation speed romancing, I hope he realises what a catch you are and gets his arse in gear.

Kirsty, hope kicking his arse to the kerb isn't quite as fraught as it might be.

Snape - ooooooh that's so exciting ! You deserve something lovely.

OWW, hope you're ok and that LM comes up trumps again - you're another one who deserves all the luck going.

Ike, I'm glad you're sounding more content than you were.

Hello everyone else - frantic waving.

Sunday's date with Mr Software still on, I can feel the icy fingers of panic creeping along my spine ...

I'd like to thank everyone who suggested I go no contact with my ex LM. It's been strangely liberating.

he texted me! he texted me!

he's safely home & thank you for such a fun evening...

well what the fuck is that susposed to mean!? it means he's home & thank you for such a fun evening

Snape sounds fab. I hope you hear from him very soon :)

Nomore I'm really not overly invested in Cuthbert. But equally I dont have a heart of stone. I have been doing this a very long time, and never got beyond a first date til Cuthbert. Not one man in 4 years who had any interest in me. So it would be nice for once if something came of this. I'm realistic enough to see thats unlikely, and I'm not prepared to settle for seeing him so infrequently ad infinitum, but I'd like to hope for a good outcome.

Juliette it is isn't it. Doing it helped so much for me, first with the big bad break up and then with BC.

KinNora thanks

Snape :o oooh I think that is a good sign. And yes it means he had a fun evening, would like to thank you for that, and he is now home [wetanchovy] reply woman, reply!

KinNora get out there girlfriend and shake your money maker!!!(Trying to be uber encouraging) You will have at the very least an interesting time that you can tell the rest of us, at the best ...a fab new relationship...what is not to like???

snape, I saw your synopsis of your date and thought "awwww, how wonderful", then I saw your update "He texted me! He texted me!" and I think I have some dust in my eye. All the best, you are amazing.

OWW, sounds like you have a decent one there, hope that he continues to be lovely, you deserve it.

Go KinNora, enjoy yourself. And you Velvet. :o

I think oh myyyyyy barely the momentous stuff on this thread right now.

Flipper great news!

People with dates??? Not only that, but repeaters and lovely rip clothes off with teeth type dates ... oh myyyyy

Am still having fun with the lovely FWBs, but as for dating Its a damn good think I'm so busy that I barely have the time to think, let alone screen, screen and screen some more ...

Oh & lubes may the right decision come to you without too much more angst and agonising.

Way hey Snape!!! He's keen. He's hot. He likes you. Life is good.

Nora the date will be great. I am just fizzing with positive vibes here.

Do you know, I've actually had a conversation with a man and said what my hopes and fears are for the relationship, and nothing awful has happened! I know it sounds so stupid, but horrible ex would not entertain that type of conversation at all at all and if I ever tried it would not end well so I just stopped. I feel quite liberated! And I've seen him tonight, he was super lovely. He's actually genuinely bothered about how I'm feeling. This is another amazing thing for me. I know it sounds stupid, but I was with horrible ex from my early twenties for over seventeen years, and that's had a huge impact in shaping what I thought relationships were and how i should behave. If i was ever upset the best result would be that he would turn and walk out of the room or sit and watch me cry no comfort, no hugs. So to get that off a man feels really good to me and I think that I am finally just starting to break free of all that conditioning. Thank god I found a decent bloke who will put up with a bit of this sort of stuff and understand some of what's going on.

And thank you everyone here, all of you, for putting up with me and caring enough to help. . There's probably a way to go yet but I do feel pretty encouraged tonight, and times like this are becoming more frequent and the other shit less so.

OWW that is just lovely, really really lovely. Its entirely heartwarming and makes me believe its worth all the shite we go through. You've done good my dear, you and your lovely man ... I'm sending very positive vibes at you both for your future, together.

Excellent OWW...!!

Right t'en now Snapes ....what's the scores on the doors then lovely???

Did you text him Snape?? C'mon, update!!

Nora (yes), Juliette, Nicholas, Libby, Dog, Pixie, OWW, and anyone I've missed(sorry), thank you all for your lovely kind thoughts and congratulations. I'm only 5 1/2 weeks, but I have short cycles so I found out a couple of weeks ago. Given my age, and the fact that I miscarried at 10 weeks a couple of years ago, I'm trying not to get too excited. Mr Walking was fine about it, he knew the risk, wants to be involved (though it's 'too soon to think about anything'), and seems more bothered about being dumped than the pregnancy. I feel like I've been given the most amazing second chance.

Yay yay yay, Snape! I'm super excited for you! Sounds like a brilliant date and a prompt follow up is always a good sign!

Kirsty, how did it go?

OWW, I'm relieved all is good. I know it's hard to trust that someone is genuine when you've been let down so badly before, but until you learn how, you're running the risk of going through this over again. I have a feeling this one's a goodun, though.

Velvet, sounds like you've got the measure of Cuthbert, look after yourself.

Lubey, how's the Berry White? Whatever decision you make, it will be the right one.

Mr cheeky basically argued against everything I said .. But he couldn't argue against me when I told him that I did want a relationship .. Just not with him.. I felt horrible saying that to him but it was the only way he was going to get the message.. He now thinks I should think more about it and that I must be crazy when he makes me laugh and we have great sex and I want to end it

snape and OWW fab news

Well Flipper...all that is left for me to say is......CONGRATULATIONS!!!! XXXXX

Cross posted my massive post with everyone. OWW, that's exactly what I meant. And thanks, Joyless.

Forgot to say, I am, for obvious reasons, confined to the sofa. Hope you all don't mind if I hang about though.