This is.. the dating chat thread, number 38

[lubeybooby]

All dating related chit chat, as usual... in here

off we go! :o

Still feel anxious and tearful about it Juliette! Horrible inner voice is telling me I've cocked it all up, he won't like me any more, should have kept quiet, need to apologise and appease (did a bit of this earlier, oops. He kept saying there's nothing to apologise for). But I'm fighting it, it will be okay.

OWW I am meeting him in a pub near the train station .. he wanted me to go and talk privately in a hotel room .. eh no!

He is hoping that he will be finished for 6 - he said he has had a rubbish day so I told him it isn't likely to be getting any better :(

Kirsty have you planned what you want to say?

His behaviour at the do sounds really, really odd. And afterwards as well. Did this come out of the blue?

I'm off to the date.

my thighs look fat.

[wetfish to self]

Goodness, I feel all nervous and queazy just reading about everyone's trials and tribulations and potential dates. Meanwhile in the boring world of chez Ike I went for lunch with Torso Rubber which was nice and bumped into lovely male friend from college (who now has a girlfriend-boo, who lives abroad-hooray!). I am quite enjoying life at the moment in a quiet but fun way,spending too much cash tho.

Was hoping to see Django Unchained but I think the ex might have unexpected work to do so I am supposed to drop all plans and accommodate (but I love my gorgeous kids so I dont mind).

Good luck y'all in my thoughts.x

Snape I'm sure you look stunning, now go and see if he is good enough for you

OWW I am going to say the same that I have said by text .. that he let me down, I don't want a long term thing and now the L word it is out of the bottle it can't be taken back , there is just too much drama for being 2 months in , and my gut has been ignored before and has never been wrong and the sinking feeling I got when he said he was in love with me told me all I needed to know.. the abusive texts deserve a mention too!!

He is complaining that I said I liked him a lot and really fancied him and I've gone from that to being an 'ice maiden' over the weekend - he says I must have lied about liking him and fancying him before if I can change so quickly .. I didn't lie .. but all the stuff ^^ has killed of any warmth I felt for him

Hear Hear Juliette .. you'll knock him dead snape

You are in the right Kirsty, do what you have to do and don't be drawn in to his ridiculous argument. Just don't reply even if he goads you

OWW Sorry - the behaviour out of the blue question .. well I know (from what he tells me anyway) he can't afford to rent his own place and stays with a pal because his marital home hasn't sold and he's paying £1.4k per month to cover (the full) mortgage, maintenance for 2 kids and council tax .. but he has been separated for 4 years and they have not sorted out ANYTHING! He did a lot of OT over christmas and apparently that going into the bank made them decide to review his account and shut down his overdraft

He is a total disorganised disaster zone .. He never chases his estate agent despite the house being on the market for nearly 3 years ... leaves it to his ex who I'm sure is quite happy to be staying in her home getting everything paid

Can you see why I wasn't interested in him as a long term prospect??

Kirst the recent info puts a whole different context to it. Nah ...time to move on. And and ubusive texts too ... wave byebye.

Another one here who hasn't posted in ages, sorry

Lubey - good luck with your decision - MN helped me through the worst time of my life when I found out about ex's shenanigans, I hope it will be a good sounding board for you too.

Flipper - congratulations!

Snape - enjoy the date, I'm sure you look fab.

Velvet - sending you positive vibes for this Friday!

It seems a lot has changed since I posted a few weeks ago - some people are missing, names have changed, I'm struggling to keep up! I'm still with Mr Tall and things are going very well - I'm utterly smitten! I can't believe that POF of all places introduced me to someone so wonderful!

So much going on!!

snape hope it's going well!! He is bound to just live you because you are you!!

velvet I know easier said than done but might be best not to invest too much in Cuthbert. He doesn't sound like a great long term prospect

kirsty kick him to the kerb! For sure!! No hesitation. Love your style! You are sooooooo strong.

western you are sounding more in control. It's good, keep it up!!

Sorry for everyone I have forgotten!!

Well for me - had text chat with mr complicated on Monday. He was quick at replying but really that isn't a huge deal! I am so busy work work, babies, divorce etc at the mo i deserve to have a relationship that is easy. it eould never be easy to be with him so i have mentally wrote him off. feel wuite empowered. he may have turned out to be a bit me, me, me. Was super sexy though and before my weight loss and image transformation would have been way out of my league. His baby had op yesterday. I text to ask if it went okay but I didn't get a reply. Would have been nice toget one because I was jut beig polite but I didn't so he has firmly nailed that particular coffin down. Not sure if I have energy for od at the mo. although I would love to meet someone, would like it to just happen and me not have to go through all the rollercoaster that is involved in od. Hey ho! Can't have it all!!

Sorry for typos I'm on phone!!

Yeah I agree No More...that is why I am giving it a bit of a rest at the mo...it was getting me agitated and restless...dont need that! Concentrate on work, home and mates for a bit ...meyabe see Mr C for the occasional lunch or something.

Good decision Nomore. If you're feeling a bit jaded with OD then have a break for a while and concentrate on other stuff you've got going on. Or you could decide to really go for it - I didn't like the whole OD process really so I decided to get it over and done with as quickly as i could. I'd have at least one date a week til I met someone, often fitted in a weekend daytime one as well. Started end of July, came off in September when I started seeing LM properly.

he is absolutely gorgeous. we had two cups of tea, which took three hours. no idea if he fancies me, but I looked at him a couple of times & just thought 'rrrrrrrr!' I want to rip his clothes off with my teeth. he is also cultured, charming & funny & therefore clearly wont be even remotely interested in me.

& he checked out my tits when I took off my coat. all is well. I spent three hours with a genuinely lovely hottie & I'm currently happy with that. good date. would do him it again. if not all equally well.

Wowzer snape I'm smiling for you!! What's next steps then?? How was it left??

nomore I love your post at 19.16. FAB attitude! :-)

Such a creature actually exists??!!!

So glad it went well - he sounds gorgeous. I want one too - just to look at when I'm bored of the telly, you know. I bet he thinks you're just as hot.

Ah snape there's you saying lovely things again!!

Yay Snape that sounds fab. I'm glad you had a good time... three hours for two cuppas sounds like you hit it off pretty well as well as fancying him.

when we were walking back to the station, he said it was 'lovely' meeting me & asked how i thought it went as a firat date... (i said it had been great & i'd been a bit nervous/reluctant because i'd really enjoyed speaking to him online & didnt want it all to go horribly wrong, but i didnt think it had gone wrong, i'd had fun!

then a hug and a kiss on the cheek at parting, he said 'we'll talk soon?' I said 'yes, great!'

I will not make first post-date contact. oh no!

SNAPE!!

OMG. I am now even more tense waiting to see what might happen next! I bet he thinks exactly the same!