This is.. the dating chat thread, number 38

[lubeybooby]

All dating related chit chat, as usual... in here

off we go! :o

Have looked. Are you OK? Do you want to talk about it?

Not sure what else to say but am around to be a listening ear if you'd like one

Oh my good God Lubey - how do you feel?

Ive seen your other thread now - a good thing is that you've tested early so you've got more time to think about what's best for you to do.
And I don't care if they are non MN but you can have some

I have nothing at all personally against hugs especially today! Thanks

Feeling a bit blue today, DS is worrying me as he is getting very angry and tearful over quite minor things, he is 14. I think it all masks a deep unhappiness at everything that has happened over the last 8 months and seeing his step dad who he looked up to, abuse me mentally and physically and then being abandoned by him without a backward glance. He won't talk to me, just says he is fine, I think he is trying to protect me from more worry. Have spoken to his school today and they are going to tactfully try and talk to him. It's so lonely parenting on your own with no one to support you.

Taken on a new role at work which is quit challenging and more hours as I need the money, so finding that stressful to.

Then preparing for a mediation meeting with STBXH, was form filling and had to detail his bad behaviour, where do I start ?!? Bought back horrible memories and I know he will be awful when he gets to read it.

And finally, really wonder with all of my shit why Mr ExArmy would want to be with me? For some reason after staying every night for a week and having a great weekend with the kids he is not here for 2 days and that adds to my paranoia.

So spent most of the day snivelling and feeling sorry for myself!

OMG Lubey, are you OK?

Scrazy, yeah, just very bewildered and wtf? Head absolutely chocka full of questions going around in circles.

Lulu from what you've said before he does seem a goodun and if so then he's likely to be looking past all the 'shit' as you put it. It's early days still and you can't be together 24/7... relax

Lubes....erm ...gulp...gosh, ok let us know if we can help! x

You will have loads of support here lubey goes without saying (((hugs)))

Lubey what a shock, wtf indeed. More ((((hugs))))

Thanks all. I need to do another thread in relationships I think to keep it off here and try and get some clarity... it will be under a namechange though . I'll post here when it's done.

Oh god lubey - sending you hugs and handholding.

Oh goodness lubey didn't see your post! what a shock, hugs too!

Lulu sounds like you have a lot going on at the moment (understatement).

This time last year I was preparing a statement for court about my ex. Incredibly difficult, but when I had done it I found I could actually let go if a lot of stuff so it ended up being a form of therapy in a strange way. I was very nervous about his reaction though like you, but don't let that stop you from telling the truth.

Hope your ds is okay. Bad times here with my dd so I can sympathise. Hope the school can help, or is there someone else in the family he might talk to? My dd is very close to my mum and will often tell her stuff she won't tell me

I was thinking about you and Mr EA yesterday and hoping everything was good. And it is, you know. All the other stress sets you up for the anxiety to be worse, especially the stuff about your ex if you're like me. But he's spending loads of time with you and very obviously wants to be with you. Chin up love.

Thank you western it just all feels overwhelming today and I find it so hard to actually open my mouth and tell him how I'm feeling, it's like I just clam up. I have just sent him a text to say 'I've had the most shite day today and feeling down!*. I think that out of the hundreds of texts we have exchanged that is the first time I've sent anything approaching a negative .... I'm always the resident little ray of sunshine normally, I just think he wi think less of me for being needy! Crap I know! comes from adapting yourself to please someone else for so many years.

Bloody hell, Lubey, that must have been a huge shock, I hope you're ok and allowing yourself a little kindness.

Lulu, sorry, that all sounds shite, as I've said before with regard to my own experience, I think teenage boys can have such a lot of anger inside them that it can be terribly hard to understand and deal with, he will know that you love and support him.

Lubey sending you my best & have hugs from me (((hugs))).

Oh my god, Lubey, it's you! I've just posted on your other thread!

For everyone else's benefit, I'm having the same problem. Been in shock for the last two weeks.

I am not the Artist, but in a similar position in life and willing to take the same risks she was when asked .

Oh my god! Have a hug from me, is there something in the water? feck!

Lulu, sorry you're feeling low. I'm sure Mr ExArmy will come through, he sounds like a good sort, and will understand that not everyone is chipper all the time.

Omg Lubey - big hugs. Don't know what more to say xx

Flipper hope you're alright. What a shock for you too. Lots of hugs. Did you decide to tell him?