This is.. the dating chat thread, number 38

[lubeybooby]

All dating related chit chat, as usual... in here

off we go! :o

Velvet I couldn't do every 6 weeks either. He brings new meaning to the term slow burner.

A woman has needs

Ike My eldest sister has had 'fillers' didn't rate it at all. She then went the whole hog and had surgery, just eyes. Very happy with results, but recovery was longer and more painful than she expected.

Any ex smokers on here. I am thinking of going cold turkey

Mr R&R doesn't smoke. It can't be very nice for him, so now seems a good time to bite the bullet.

Try one of those electronic cigarette pens I have seen them work well. And just dont see it as a long term thing, break the abstinance into small chunks...hr by hr then day by day...that way it is not too daunting.

48 I am a smoker again now (started again when the big bad break up bombshell was dropped) but my most successful attempt (lasted 8 months) was sort of cold turkey.

I used patches, highest dose, for 4 days, then just stopped using them. I chewed a lot of sugar free gum - not nicotine gum though as the idea with cold turkey is it's easier with all nicotine out of your system (takes four days apparently)

I think because I'm quite a heavy smoker the patches got me through the shock of it then cold turkey from that point was good. Then you're looking at 3 weeks before the mental side of it/habit subsides. I replaced each cigarette with either gum or a cuppa or just going off to do something else (walk, bath, housework etc)

Velvet - yay for date 4! I really hope you can arrange something a bit more regular, or sort out the 5th date while on date 4. It would be lovely to see that work

Yeah its all aout fooling yourself iyswim 48. Good luck!

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48 I am a failed ex smoker. I quit 22 months ago cold turkey, just decided I wasn't going to the shop and did it. It was great, I got slight anxiety for 3 days then a raging temper for a couple more. 5th day is worse, try and just sleep through it. With CT they say the first week is hell week, the second is heck week then you are OK.

I started again just before Christmas, although the slippery slide started before than when I was sneaking the odd one when out drinking with smokers. I have to quit again very soon. I am mentally preparing to. Might start Sunday, if you fancy a quit buddy.

I've been thinking about giving up too 48. I know I need to.

The trouble is, when DSs leave for school in the morning and I have 10 mins before leaving for work, I make myself a 'proper' coffee and have a cig leaning out of the kitchen door and it's something I really look forward to. Also, I drink far too much wine and the 2 go hand in hand.

In a parallel universe I go running every morning and am a teetotal vegan.

I've heard good things about e-cigs? quite tempted to try them myself even though I dont smoke, I'm sure nicotine (on it's own and without the other stuff in ciggies) is actually quite beneficial and good for the brain:o

No news news update from me, as usual.

I find it very hard to make the first move online but this week made a real effort to send two messages (yeah pathetic eh, big deal for me though), proper messages too, perfect spelling, referring to their profile content, more than two or three sentences, etc.

One guy ignored me completely and the other one just wrote back 'thank u' and that was it.

So, literally the only two people I liked the look of out of several hundred options - neither of them are remotely interested!

My most recent messages were from a bloke who calls himself 46 but looks approximately thirty years older (no exaggeration) and a handful of guys who are all around a foot shorter than me (slight exaggeration there...but not much).

(On the smoking topic, I've given up several times in my life (do love it actually but don't do it, because of DS) and always go cold turkey. Keep busy and distracted and get out of the usual fag routines, mine was always with a coffee after breakfast. Also try not to walk past local newsagents/cornershops, too easy just to nip in and buy a 'last packet'.)

Latest from my inbox:

"Hello Ms, am Yummy from m*. I guess my is a bit similar n hope I am qualify to say Hi to an angel?" (pretty sure for various reasons this guy is looking for a UK passport)

"I know what you mean about spending Christmas suffering with the cold I,ve been ill the last three Christmas,s and plan on cancelling this years" (never spoken to this guy and there is nothing on my profile about 'suffering with the cold')

"do you like sister wendy" (latest from a quite overbearing guy I don't fancy whose messages I have never replied to)

Poor you Tamoo

There is nothing like getting your hopes up when you know you have a message from a potentially hot prospect, only to be faced with the likes of

I've been exchanging messages with a guy on POF and have taken the enormous step of giving him my mobile number (my suggestion to chat offsite). If by, say, Thursday he hasn't suggested meeting up, I will take the bull by the horns. Tired of faffing around.

tamoo Its all too common. The sister wendy thing is a bit odd though. ffs.
I get hi which is such a minute introduction its barely readable.
'what you looking for hun?' is also common.
last night swapping messages with someone about artists. all going well then he suddenly changes his profile and becomes 10years younger.
another deletes his profile half way through. bizzarre.

Back on the smoking theme, I got a message saying 'I would really love to take you out if you gave up smoking'. From a potato with no redeeming features that I could see. So no incentive really!

I also did my first POF block with someone whom I was potentially going to meet - who not only lived within a 5 mile radius but was actually a 6' 4" hottie. He gave me his mobile no., we swapped texts, he was supposed to call to firm up and didn't, he texted late to say he'd call the following day (day before date) and didn't. Why bother swapping numbers? Or perhaps he was being polite in the extreme and didn't want to offend me by saying 'feck off, no chance?'

who knows why he didnt phone smoothieoo. i had arranged to meet someone tomorrow night. that was a few days ago. zilch since. he was doing the asking as well. its v odd

I sent him a lighthearted email on the Sat Scatty (the day we were supposed to meet) along the lines of 'You swine, you've condemned me to a Saturday evening watching zombie films with my son'. I didn't expect to hear anything back but got some sheepish excuse about having been out unexpectedly with work the night before and feeling delicate. Arse.

Actually I really enjoyed 'Shaun of the Dead' so it was no bad thing in the end!

It seems that manners are on the decline since I last did OD with all these men who don't follow through or show up. I once had a no show but everyone else made an effort to meet me when they asked.

smoothie that's weird, he gave you his number though so must have been keen at some stage? I'm pretty sure a lot if not most of the vanishers must be involved already or in otherwise complicated situations.

I messaged a guy who'd (apparently) said he wanted to meet me (a 'thing' on pof), he never replied at all.

Tamoo and Smoothieoo I saved all of my messages once for a couple of weeks. Many of them were the "hi sexy,lets meet" variety or "are you up for some fun/whatever". I then sent them all a message asking if they had met anyone or had any dates from OD or had any dates lined up. Pretty much all of them had not been on a single date. Slightly suprisingly most said they were only doing the online stuff to "chat" and had no intentions of meeting.
Since then I consider very few want to meet. OD is a handy veneer to hide behind, they can "chat" and maybe even send pictures or text messages...but never meet.

Quite a few ideas for giving up the fags. Thankyou.

Sunday is going to be day 1. Going out saturday night with a load of smokers, will probably drink too much, so set myself up to fail.

Have given up half heartly before, with the patches Lubey always started again, but I did live with a smoker.

Think I will get myself an electric ciggy. Had a puff on one, just asked a random guy in a pub if I could have a go on his it was ok.

Scrazy Sunday it is

Oh no