Bacon sarnies in suspenders, jacket strokers, coffee with a small 'c' and LOTS of Coffee with a capital 'C' it's dating thread 32

[lulubellaboozle]

Thought I take the liberty of starting us off again ...

Bant go on the date, just be upfront about your plans. You never know, maybe she'd make a good FWB.

XH just asked me if he sends through divorce papers will I sign them. Of course I will but can't quite decide how i feel about it. I think I'm just a bit meh but feel like it should be a bigger deal...

Glorious scuba diver has just checked out my OKC profile.

Am talking to a 29 yo who I was chatting to before who is after a fwb. I think a fwb is all I can manage at the moment given the complexities of life...

Bant I have had a couple of long distance relationships, I spent a lot of time on planes and it takes a lot of advanced planning with DC, work and domestic stuff. On one level it suited me as I could concentrate on my life in between visits and it did mean we made an effort to spend quality time together when we could. It is possible to do it.

Update on Mr Vague. He sent a message saying he waited for me and had we missed each other, I replied saying I hadn't heard from him so... Anyway, he has suggested we re-arrange. I'll see if he keeps his word but what is it with middle aged men and the jacket stroking.

Cafe I know exactly what you mean re guys who are not that interested versus the overly keen types. I've started to realise that if someone wants to get under my skin the only thing they have to do is act like they want nothing to do with it!

Debating at the moment whether to throw dignity out the window just for a serving of coffee with someone who is lukewarm in a damned appealing way.

just out of interest, I googled "leather jacket stroking" to see if there was some reason behind it. Of the top 10 results, 9 were porn. The other was Grey's anatomy.

So, make what you will of that.

lulu was the bestest christmas present. More than once a year

Just catching up again. Things move on so quickly on this thread

I haven't written to Boring Engineer yet and said thanks but no thanks. I think I ought to. Tempted to put it off until tomorrow.

Sugar Daddy called this evening and we chatted for ages again. We talked about all sorts including the fact that he doesn't want to rush into a sexual relationship too soon. He says he really wants to get to know me and his concern is that the sex takes over and blurs things. Views?? I am seeing him tomorrow evening.

What was the Grey's Anatomy link? There are some very hot doctors in Grey's Anatomy...not that has anything to do with anything. Just saying.

Snape - a 29 yo FWB? Could be very hot fun.

Poppy - there could be several honourable reasons behind Sugar Daddy's comments. I can think of several less honourable ones however. It doesn't mean anything really. Nothing he says until you've known him for weeks can be taken as a good or a bad sign, all you can do is get to know him well enough you don't have to ask us.

Honourably, he could mean exactly what he says - that sex takes over and blurs things. Less honourably, it could mean he has a performance issue and wants to get to know you better before he admits it. It could - more likely - mean it's something he knows will make women go 'aaaah, lovely, he's not just after sex' at which point he's more likely to get sex. Cynical approach, but it works.

He has a very florid beard.

He also looks a bit like josh homme

Poppy agree with Banta, it's hard to tell this early on exactly what he means but there are the honourable and the less honourable explanations. Personally, and I know this isn't necessarily a view shared by all, but ..... if I don't fancy someone, I'm not sleeping with them, full stop.

If I do fancy them, and get that lovely can't keep my hands off you feeling then I want to sleep with them, I don't see that as "blurring" anything. I would be quite put out if there was a mutual physical attraction and a guy was saying to me, hold off now, I don't want to "blur" things.

Hello all.. placemarking...

I have a date WITH A 29 YEAR OLD.

What do we talk about? Pokemon cards?

I've been thinking about this whole move-to-another-country part time thing. And basically, as far as meeting anyone goes, I'm screwed.

I'm going to be spending almost 3 weeks a month over there, I'm getting a flat sorted out fairly central and everything. The other week and a half I'll spend back in the UK, and I'll have my DC with me for most of that time, when not working from home. That gives me a couple of days a month when I'm in the UK to meet up with friends and or FWB.

In Budapest, however, there are over 50 women on english language dating sites, with english profiles. That means finding one of them, or more, who fancy me, like my jokes, are okay with the fact I have kids and want at least a couple of years with someone before I may want any more, and who I fancy, like, and want to spend time with. And who may be open to the option of leaving the country in a couple of years if things work out.

The company is 80 or so people, mostly hungarian, only one other Brit and he's really not my type. But, that guy, who was trying to persuade me to take the job was saying that Budapestian women will fling themselves at a guy in a suit with a british accent. So maybe I can meet a local and learn how to make goulash.

bant, sweetie, are forward and over-thinking and worse-possible-case-scenarioing. You don't know what might happen. It's an amazing opportunity.

Frankly, I've contemplated relationships with people before (tour manager major band) when the kids were a lot younger because they're not under my feet the whole time, I can get that nice, easy email, text, phonecall thing while getting on with my own life and hook up for a semi gular shag when he was in town. Sounds ideal. I reasoned with myself that he looked like te back end of a tour bus tho', so it came to Nowt

Hello :)

I am marking exam papers again. It is just as dull as it was 6 months ago. But I have to combine them with Christmas at this time of year .

Need to mark a few more before doing household type things such as hang up washing and unstack dishwasher.....

Snape woo hoo! 29 is young enough to be hot but old enough to be a grown up mostly.

Poppy No way to know exactly where the comment was coming from til you get to know him a bit better. As a stand alone comment it doesn't sound like a major red flag. If you decide you really fancy him and then still feel he's putting the breaks on you can worry about it then.

Bant What snape said - you're over thinking this. It's an amazing new opportunity with lots of unknown possibilities. The fun will be in finding out what they are. However, just in case, here's a handy little Hungarian phrase you might want to learn: "Hagyja, hogy a kolbász lásd a tekercs"

Snape good.

Poppymy first thought was it's either a mechanics thing or,given that he called himself a Sugar Daddie, a rather skewed view about sex. It is also, as Bant says, a tried and tested technique. Otoh he could have the best of intentions, only one way to find out shag him.

Bant no you are not screwed. More likely you will be a star attraction to a range of Hungarian women who see you as an excellent prospect, which I'm sure you are of course .

I'll also have you know that it's not just leather jackets that I've been invited to feel. The last one was some weird Los Angeles version of Italian tailoring. I'm a woman who attracts a wide range of fabric fetishists.

btw I have 'known' real Italian tailoring and was never invited to stroke any of it or his 42 work shirts.

Am I the only person who has put what Yoga said into google translate?

no you're not. I was trying to find a hungarian appropriate equivalent. Unfortunately, 'let the cabbage see the roll' just doesn't quite work.

Thought I'd say hello and bloody hell, you guys are hard to keep up with, lol!

Let the Cabbage See the Stuffing?

Let the Goulash See the Pork?

or......

Are you by any chance a gymnastic dentist?

"Let the Goulash see the Pork". That may go down in history as the unsexiest thing anyone has ever written anywhere in the world. Ever.