Bacon sarnies in suspenders, jacket strokers, coffee with a small 'c' and LOTS of Coffee with a capital 'C' it's dating thread 32

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Thought I take the liberty of starting us off again ...

Not I think I love Mr Oz. His age and the no kids bother me ALOT

Evening all. Skyman is possibly popping round later for Coffee, depending on time. Looking forward to it, I haven't had a cup since last new years eve! After that, I am calling it quits with him. I like him, first guy in 2 years I could see myself actually having a relationship with, and pretty sure he knows it. But I don't hear from him often, I saw him on POF at the weekend looking for a relationship, he has mentioned before he's a settling down kind of guy, just obviously not with me . Quite down about it, but I'll enjoy one last time tonight, then clear off before I completely fall for him.

48 Yes perhaps. It makes me feel uncomfortable to have somebody be nice to me. Almost as if I don't deserve it or there has to be a catch.

It also makes me miss my ex even more. God knows why, it's not as if he was especially nice to me most of the time. I really wish I could get past this ridiculous feeling that my life's over now that he's not in it. I know it's bollocks yet I persist in thinking it.

Break Far be it for me to get in the way or anybody getting there's but maybe him coming round isn't a great idea? I've been there myself and once the post shag high wears off you feel dreadful about yourself for at least a week.

Oh and take no notice of his relationship gubbins. Men like that usually mean "I want a relationship, as long as she looks like a supermodel, never expresses an opinion I don't share and enjoys giving blowjobs 24/7"

Break I agree with milk, be kind to yourself and do what's right for you.

Milk it will get better in time, it really will. Do you think you are looking at your relationship with your ex without seeing the crap bits?

Milk, I suffer from that too, not knowing how to behave when someones nice to you. A leftover from the psycho ex. It's actually probably the reason it didn't go anywhere much with Skyman the first time- he was the first guy after the ex, it freaked me out meeting someone genuinely nice.

He actually is a nice guy looking to settle down, he would be happily married with a bunch of kids by now if he had his way in life. It probably would be wiser not to have him round, but I'm determined I'm not going into the next year as a born again virgin . At least when I clear off I'll have something to remember with a smile.

notthegrinch Even when I think of the very worst bits it doesn't make it any easier. I loved him and I still love him. Pathetic but true. People say it will get better with time. It's a year this week since I last saw or spoke to him. So that's constantly on my mind. I am a tough cookie though and I will be fine.

Yes Break please do be kind to yourself. A man just looking for a leg over isn't going to have your best interests at heart so please be careful.

Break Agree with Milk sounds a right charmer arsehole

He honestly is a nice guy unfortunately. It would make it a lot easier if he wasn't! The Coffee is completely up to me, it was me who brought up the idea in the past- he would quite happily have me as a friend. He is the type of guy I could ring if something was broken, he would come fix it the next day.

Finding it very hard being single at the minute. All of my friends are attached, so no nights out. Work in a female based environment. POF is full of dickheads. So where the hell do you find someone?

So, I got a message today from man off pof thanking me for the picture I sent of my pussy ( not cat). Anyway I said I hadn't sent one but was interested in the back story to this gem! Turns out he had received a picture of a woman's vagina who he has never met and never will. And being single he gladly receives such pictures.
I don't think I could look at a picture of my own nether region!

Please slap me. One man I've been messaging I asked about job etc. turns out he is unemployable as he has a host of anxiety disorders and a bad back. Yet he was painting his ceiling yesterday. Another says he can't drive as he only has one leg and would go round in circles. Yet I know you can get hand control everything on a car. Fact. Am I being too picky?

Fireman wants to go to the cinema but he lives over an hour away.

Oh Scatty, such lovely stories, almost makes me shed a little tear to think of all the complete nutters and fuckwits lovely men I'm missing since deleting my POF profile!

Western - just...yay.

Milk - hi, glad all still good with the man boy.

Break On your terms, puts a different slant on it.

scatty Do you reckon Pussy man sends that message to lots of women? Ever hopeful

Meet Fireman halfway? He has at least a fully functioning body.

Okay I caved. I'm off out in an hour or so to meet ???Girl. I'll come up with a name for her if the date goes okay. Haven't talked online enough to come up with a witty nickname yet.

a year older than me, no kids but says she doesn't want them on her profile (and when looking for a man she says she wants someone who doesn't want them or isn't sure)

Attractive, seems nice although no huge spark in the emails. Don't know if that's a bad thing or not?

Good luck Bant! Fingers crossed for big sparks, emails mean naff all.

Scatty...honestly...its just flamin pants..or not in this case...

Have a good time Banta Spark or no spark

Really delighted that it is all coming together for you, OWW.

I have been following your story - and, I was afraid some time back that you were in danger of pushing too hard to progress things.

We are all great at spotting other peoples' reluctance to allow things to evolve at perhaps a slower speed.

There is a lot to said for some old fashioned courting.

Banta very exciting, good luck

Oh and Banta Mr R&R kept calling me Babe in bed. Put me off my stride

you stride in bed? Maybe I've been doing it wrong

Maybe

bant на добър час na dobŭr chas!! :)

break enjoy. Do it like it's the last time. I fucked my ex one last time having decided it was the last time (he was having an affair and didn't know I knew) :)

bant I'd say just be straight about the job/location thing. If so, fine to date as you both know the score.

Yeah it's only right to be honest with her. Even if the artist didn't have her scary tendencies, there was no way she would have been relaxed enough to see me once a fortnight. This girl, maybe.

Hahahah! That was Hungarian for 'good luck'. Tsk!