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What was this?

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Mollydoggerson · 08/12/2012 22:44

Husband and wife visit husband's relatives for an overnight stay, the related person keeps popping in and out, while the spouse of the related person keeps pouring alcohol. Eventually the wife realises she is really drink and plods off to bed. The following morning the wife realises the husband joined her shortly after and had sex with her. The wife was more drunk than the husband as she had been drinking rose wine whereas the husband had been drinking beer.

Wife has no relocation of anything beyond plodding off to bed, but knows there was sex as husband confirms same the following morning and it is obvious the following morning.

Is this wrong or just a weird thing that happened?

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ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 02:00

and that is fair enough amazon and it will duly be deleted.

I don't really do hugs agent, what about a handshake.

Never did i pull anyone up on their view on this thread, i just will not have the fact that the OP was uncomfortable about her husbands advances belittled.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 09/12/2012 02:08

No one belittled them Clipped.

Theres just certain ways to go about supporting someone. And jumping on your soapbox and declaring your opinion isnt the way to do it.

I reported a post of yours too. Because I am worried about how much you are projecting on this thread, and I am worried about the effect your posts will have on the OP.

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 02:13

What is this "projecting" thing? i gave my view, it wasn't a wishy washy one granted, I'm not a councillor, I'm a person with a strong view in the right direction actually. I also never profess to support.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 09/12/2012 02:14

Well then get off a thread like this were someone needs supporting.

AgentZigzag · 09/12/2012 02:15

I don't either in RL Clipped

I feel bad about coming on the OPs thread and not focusing on her (because the advice she's already got sounds spot on mostly), but as we're both here right now Clipped, are you alright?

(and there isn't any after that, I'm asking genuinely)

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 02:16

In amongst all the "support" why should my view matter really? Why is everyone getting up in arms about my views? I dont have that power. If i sort of hit buttons in people then I do.

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 02:19

Im laughing here. I have very direct views i guess. Im not ill Grin

rhondajean · 09/12/2012 02:19

Your view matters

But here now in this instance it isn't about you having your day, it's about the op and what she needs to help her. If you read the archives, there are plenty of cases of people giving it straight and ops becoming defensive and disengaging which would be damaginibg for op.

It doesn't discredit your view, just the when and how you out it over.

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 02:20

well my back hurts in the morning and i have a bit of a cough come to think of it

AgentZigzag · 09/12/2012 02:20

It's unusual for you to not be able see why Clipped.

Maybe you don't have that power, but the subject you're talking about does.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 09/12/2012 02:22

Glad someone is amused Hmm

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 02:27

if the subject has the power i dont, i just say what i say with the power that the subject allows

AgentZigzag · 09/12/2012 02:28

'Are you alright' isn't asking whether you're physically (or mentally) unwell.

Laughing is an unusual response to people saying you may be coming across as upsetting or offensive.

It's just not funny.

And it makes me wonder (even if it's an inappropriate place to do it) what is going on in your mind to be writing such posts.

The fact that I know I shouldn't be so concerned about some Internet Random (sorry Clipped Grin) is overshadowed by the concern I actually feel for another person at reading those posts (trying not taking anything from the OPs situation).

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 02:28

its not about being amused wanna. Its about humour no matter what

wannabedomesticgoddess · 09/12/2012 02:32

Humour? You think thats appropriate here? On this thread?

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 02:35

Well yes wanna, homour helps everything, if you can't laugh then what? It's the most healing thing ever.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 09/12/2012 02:39

I have had enough now.

You are nothing but self centered and rude.

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 02:40

oh ok, goodnight and sleep tight.

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 02:42

get rid of the domestic bit in the goddess

horrible bitch that i am

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 02:46

humour by the way Grin

AgentZigzag · 09/12/2012 02:52

Apologies if I'm banging on Clipped, and it has been known (Grin) but with the sheer number of posts it does look like you have something to say (apart from the obvious in your earlier posts).

And it's got nothing to do with how humerous a person you are, unafraid to call it as you see it.

(I know I should zip it, but like you I just can't for some reason)

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 03:04

do you want to get into my phsychie here agent?

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 03:06

phsychie ? that was a bit like a lychie gone wrong with the spelling Grin

ClippedPhoenix · 09/12/2012 03:07

i will agree as long as you dont put those funny things on my head.

AgentZigzag · 09/12/2012 03:13

You don't have to say anything, even though I've been badgering you loads a tad.

It's not because I'm being nosey or wanting to muscle in on some MN action or anything.