Residual Parenting Commitments, The Last Turkey In The Shop, Boiled Bunnies, Men With Fish and Stolen Condoms. Dating Thread XXXI.

[FlorentinePogen]

Get on with it, daters.............

Aww, 48, sorry you're missing your boy.

Mr Walking Date has taken to texting/emailing/fb messaging several times a day, which I find a bit unnerving. Partly because I never know where the next message is coming from, but also because he sent a text checking I was ok because he hadn't heard from me all day (first text at 9.30, second at 5 - I was at work!). He also called me from the car with his teenage son there. This makes me feel uncomfortable, we've only had three dates, surely that's too soon to be telling your kids you're seeing someone?

Snape, sorry it was bad news, did they give any useful feedback?

Bant, let her get it all out of her system, don't reply to what she's saying. It doesn't matter that you know you weren't two-timing her, she needs to believe that you were. She'll hopefully have had a good night's sleep and have movedon this morning.

You were in two minds about the Artist from the beginning, both Yoga and I commented that something was making you hold back. Learn to trust your spider senses.

yoga I just loathe shopping. When I shop I prefer to do it alone. In and out. Job done!

Yoga, you should come to the Ikea or Homebase near me - I've never seen a couple or family that I've felt envious of!

Ooh, forgot to say well done to Kirsty for her charitable endeavours! Where do you find the time?

Fayster Mr Fucked up (has a man had so many names involving fuck before) was relentless. I wonder if he was trying to cram in as much intimacy as he could before he got scared and ran. He couldn't get why I wouldn't allow him to my home. Hello I hardly know you. My teenage daughter is still at home.

Not saying Mr Walking is the same. It is difficult trying to work out what the hell is going on in their heads though.

I love shopping - doesn't matter what for, clothes, books, paint... I was never going to be one of those women to drag an unwilling & sulky partner along - that I didn't envy! If he really doesn't want to be there leave the poor bugger at home. But to have someone who actually wanted to wander round the shops with me - I'd love that. :)

fayster I don't have a teenager yet but I do wonder if it's different when your kids are teenagers. If he's open with his son that he's dating, that's he's phoning someone he's seen a few times, maybe that's not such a big deal? I don't know, just a thought.

yoga My daughter knew everything, she is 17. For me though a few dates are just that, no need for my daughters life to be directly affected. That was part of the problem with the bombardment of contact. I do have a life.

quick! Over here!

Lovely MNers are 'my single friending' their eligible lovely male friends!

fayster the charity stuff was through work so they give me the time to do it

Clears the decks for snape

it's a lovely thread. Love the idea that there are all these lovely slightly lonely people that could be brought together by the power of MN. There's one in Glasgow.... just saying...

Ok quick update from me. Date 2 with the geeky girl was planned for next Friday but we actually ended up on an impromptu date last night. She was out, I was gigging, she popped in near the end and we had a drink afterwards. Somehow ended up back at mine for Coffee.

So all seems to be going quite well at the moment. Someone earlier on posted about how nice it is when you find yourself up all night talking, well we did that (not quite al night but most of it). She's nice, and I'd like to see where this goes.

Oh, and morning Coffee too. She's just left

Went to type replies but have such a stinking hangover can barely focus and I feel slightly sick with every movement and .... god it's hot in here!!

So will sit and just read today! can't face coffee let alone Coffee!

Thanks for your perspectives, Yoga and 48.

Bill

sounds like you had a good time, Lulu.

Did you say there was one in Glasg....

sodding lodger hasn't paid the rent again. his £300 deposit is now gone with rent arrears. for fucking fuckssake! gRRRRRRRRRR!!

yes! there's a man in Glasgow and he's single and his friends DW/DP is a MNer! fly! Fllllllllly! my pretties fly!

Snape, so sorry about the job. I just can't believe how much bad luck you're having. Surely things have to change in 2013 and lots of amazing things will happen to you to make up for it.

Yoga, congratulations!

Santasapunk, great post - completely agree with you.

Well, I went out with Mr Coffee last night, and had a great evening/night (similar to Bill by the sounds of it!) Feeling very tired and happy today.

Hello to everyone else.

48 must be hard to have your boy so far away. Sounds like he's doing really well, though.

Scatty one missing at the side is alright. Not Shane McGowan territory anyway. Sounds promising ...

And Bill wow! You're not hanging about! Good stuff.

Libby too. Glad it's going welll.

Fay have you told him it's getting a bit full on? If he's good in other ways, it's probably worth having a conversation and then seeing if he reins it in.

Christmas shopping done. Have got some bits and pieces for LM although we've not talked about whether we'll get each other anything.

Very excited about tomorrow! Babysitter sorted so we're on.

Bill Beats a cheese sarnie

So, haven't posted for a while, various reasons. Wasn't even sure if I would again but wouldn't mind some opinions on the following (btw, it's Sponge, I have namechanged to something equally PeepShow related but more cheery...)

I saw Cuthbert on Thursday. This was much delayed date 3, some 5 weeks after date 2. Anyway he stayed over, there was no actual sex but other stuff (which he said was the best thing that had happened to him in years, he is not usually so effusive so I think he genuinely meant it), and lots of cuddling. Yesterday morning he left in a bit of a rush, we both overslept, and asked me to text him later.

In the event he text me first, about 5, saying thank you for a wonderful night, etc. I replied and said thank you too (we are ever so polite :)), would be nice to do it again and when was he free. To which he just replied he'd like to see me again soon and we'd sort something out.

Which I am a bit 'meh' about if I'm honest. He's not on the site anymore, he isn't seeing anyone else, I know with work and children (he has DC from 2 previous relationships he sees separately) he doesn't have much free time but I really don't want to be waiting another 5 weeks for date 4....

spoon (that feels weird..)

Do you like him, do you want to see him again? Did his other life 'stuff' get in the way a bit (I can't remember, is he depressed?) you wouldn't necessarily wait another 5 weeks, might be a lot sooner. :).

Did you reply to his text saying he wanted to see you again soon and you'd sort something out?

I do like him rather a lot . I'd see him tonight if I could (he has youngest DC this weekend).

Yes, other stuff (from what was said, he's not been diagnosed with depression but does have spells of feeling low/overwhelmed/not able to be around people) did sort of get in the way. He did apologise for that several times. It might not be 5 weeks (I really hope it isn't) but I would feel more comfortable with knowing now when it would be!

I haven't replied to his last text yet, wasn't sure what to say. And feeling slightly peevish that he didn't say 'are you free next Wednesday' or some such.

Spoon. Love the new name. I was hoping something good had happened when I saw your FB. It sounds really good.

I don't think you'll be waiting five weeks for date four ...

Hi Velvet /Sponge, I remember you posting about Cuthbert previously, really pleased for you that the 3rd date happened and it appears it went well .

I think I would feel the same as you, and bearing in mind you have obviously been very patient and understanding in the last 5 weeks to get to the 3rd date stage, I would want to feel that he was making up for that 5 weeks and showing that he was keen to get things on track.

How about saying to him in a jokey way - "well I waited days for date 2 and weeks and weeks for date 3, how about date 4 we go for a more regular timing, what do you think?" or "I don't want to rush things, but if we start having 5 week intervals between dates I will be in danger of forgetting what you look like!"

I'm a really organised person and if I want to do something I make plans to make sure it happens, some people just aren't like that, their intentions are completely genuine but they just don't think in a "planning" sort of way - he could just be one of those people.

I don't know, it's not an easy one.

Spoon, I think he likes you.

On the other hand, you've said how much he enjoyed the date, but what about you? Do you want to see him again?

If you do, then why not try and arrange it, and see how it goes?

Glad you came back, by the way.