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Kissing

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Dadslib · 08/01/2004 12:46

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Northerner · 08/01/2004 12:50

Married people don't kiss do they?!

lilibet · 08/01/2004 12:52

no ideas, but loads of sympathy, i love kissing and being kissed and have found someone with whom I 'match' perfectly. Must be very strange not to match.

turnupthebass · 08/01/2004 12:54

Try to be the kissee?

Twinkie · 08/01/2004 13:08

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Dadslib · 08/01/2004 13:16

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lilibet · 08/01/2004 13:17

How do you do 'non sweaty sex'???

Northerner · 08/01/2004 13:19

How do DL! - ROFL!

Your problem seems to have stumped us all, I can only think of flippant and sarcastic answers and I'm sure that is not helpful.

You could try kissing areas other than her mouth.

codswallop · 08/01/2004 13:22

Dl do you sometimes feel you are "flogging a whatever horse"

You know? Is there really hope if life has becomethis analytical?

lilibet · 08/01/2004 13:23

Don't take this the wrong way dl, but how could you imagine spending all of your life happily with someone who you don't enjoy kissing?

codswallop · 08/01/2004 13:25

Do you tthink thew magic has just gone. perhaps (runs upastars to rescue baby)

turnupthebass · 08/01/2004 13:26

She wants 'dry kisses'?
Hmmm. very difficult and not that enjoyable I would have thought?

You're right Northerner - struggling here.

I can only wish you every sympathy Dadslib and hope you find an answer to this problem. Has it always been a problem? or was it a problem you could overlook before thats now become a bigger issue?

Dry kissing? Still pondering that one!

Tinker · 08/01/2004 13:27

How do you get together in the first place with someone you don't enjoy kissing???

motherinferior · 08/01/2004 13:27

I'm still stumped by non-sweaty sex...

Actually DL is your partner a bit, well, odd about things like food? She doesn't sound as if she likes bodies much.

Batters · 08/01/2004 13:27

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M2T · 08/01/2004 13:31

DH and I never snog anymore! Unless we are drunk. I just don't fancy doing it. We kiss on the lips every day..... but NO TONGUES!

We are married afterall.

No ideas how to help DL.

aloha · 08/01/2004 13:32

DL, I think that's the single most dispiriting post I've ever read on Mumsnet. I think you have really tried to change etc and think that's great, but if you don't actually like kissing each other, I don't know where to start.

Isn't 'moist' a perfectly hideous word though?

aloha · 08/01/2004 13:33

You don't just jump her and stick your tongue down her throat though? That would be a bit grim.

M2T · 08/01/2004 13:35

DH and I both don't mind not kissing. And surely if you both don't particularly want to do it.... then it's not a problem?? Is it?

Enid · 08/01/2004 13:36

Have to agree with coddy, dadslib...I understand you have a baby son and want to stay together for his sake but there seem to be so many negatives about your relationship and not a great deal of positive...surely discussing every single aspect of your likes and dislikes can't be that good for your relationship...I mean I'm sure there are some things that dh doesn't like about me but I wouldn't want to hear about them in any detail...

Tinker · 08/01/2004 13:36

Think it's usually a sign that you don't fancy each other any more.

M2T · 08/01/2004 13:37

Do you Tinker??? Well I hope not! I have never really been THAT into full on snogging.

lilibet · 08/01/2004 13:38

Would you like M2T, both be happy with stopping full on kissing?
this is your life dl, this is how you have to live for the rest of your life, you are trying really hard, but do you want it all to be like this?

turnupthebass · 08/01/2004 13:40

M2T I think the difference is it sounds like you're both happy with things as they are?

DL, is it more you than her thats unhappy about this?

Tinker · 08/01/2004 13:44

Well, I know I can't kiss someone once I've stopped fancying them. That might be just me though.

Northerner · 08/01/2004 13:46

I love a good old snog actually, but dh can't just snog and leave it at that. A snog means a shag in his opinion.