Once we were married Coddy - yes! During the week we were too tired with work, so we were left with the weekends. Sometimes we could get carried away, mostly when we were drunk, which is how dd came to be!
DL tell your dw not to knock it till she's tried it - Mumsnet I mean! Although I think I would be a bit miffed if dh was discussing our sex life with a bunch of men online. I would never tell him what I discuss on here, I think he would be horrified if he knew of the things I had said about our relationship! So maybe telling her isn't a good idea, she will only get all defensive. Try listening to what she has to say and take all that onboard - without jumping to your own defence! Then tell her how YOU will try to change things and then tell her, without getting accusational, what you miss in your relationship and ask how you can get it back. If you come across as a listener, she is more likely to be reasonable. Whereas if you say "You don't do this" or "you always do that", it's not a discussion, it's a confrontation and she is not likely to respond to that well.
Pour her a glass of wine tonight, throw away your grudges and see if you can have a real discussion. Whatever happens try not to storm off or sulk or raise your voice. Be reasonable and calm at all times, she is then more likely to back down and your attitude will rub off.
I've asked this before, but will we see you next Saturday or does your silence on this indicate that you'd rather not? I'd completely understand that given that you've revealed so much of yourself on these threads lately.