Calling his wife a cunt under his breath

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• [Message from MNHQ: This thread was started in 2012. Just saying...]

Please give me advice.

My friend called me in tears just now. She and her husband had had an argument - but she said it was nothing major. He went off into their bedroom and called her a cunt under his breath.

Not the first time he's done this apparently.

She told him she'd heard and he wasn't apologetic - just said he was speaking to himself.

I think this is terrible. Is it emotional abuse? I just don't know what to say to my friend...

I have a particular fondness for the word cunt. I used to mutter it under my breath at my last partner, usually when he'd finish screaming at me, or gas lighting me, or when he was curled up in a ball sobbing because of something I had supposedly said or done. It was my little victory.

Anyhoo, I think if you carried out a random survey of people's opinions of the world, very few of them would say that they used it because it was abusive towards women. I just did one here in my sitting room, my DP says he's never thought of the word like that and the dog was strangely quiet, although I'm sure I just heard her mutter something under her breath as she was kicked off the sofa. Not sure if it was cunt thought.

What I do find really shocking is the abuse on this thread, people calling each other dense and 'minimisers of abuse'. Now that's rude.

A lot of women don’t think twice about treating their husbands like forgetful oafs, calling them lazy, dick, asshole...
But, if a man calls us a cunt, we run crying to our friends or mothers.

I know plenty of women who don’t even bother to leave the room or try to say it under their breath. Most women are happy to treat their husbands like children in front of their friends.
Personally, I’ve never treated or spoken to my husband that way and in turn, he’s nicer to me than anyone else.
Maybe you should take a step back and try to see how you emotionally and verbally treat him that would make him feel he has the right to say that.
The woman isn’t automatically innocent in all things when it comes to relationships.

Generally, I would agree it's an insult too far. But you have to also consider the context......

If the wife took the husbands brand new Audi without his knowledge and slammed it into a wall, ( By accident ), and wrote it off......

It would be hard not to give the husband some slack.....

Whether cunt should be just another genetalia based swear word and shouldn't have particular 'power' or not .. Fact is at this time (outside of jokey interactions) .it's the worst, harshest and most derogatory word someone can call someone else. He used it for that reason. Under his breath or not, he was being as nasty, verbally aggressive and detogatory as he could be.

The poster who suggested subs he was somehow calling himself a cunt on some kind of soliloquy .. For real?

He's nasty, he's disrespectful to her, she'll only get more of it in the marriage I'd guess.?

6 years old ZOMBIE ffs

Time to archive this ridiculous thread

Totally agree *
ImJustMadAboutSaffron*

Axemeanything clearly has issues.