Ginny pigs prove the options are of limited quality - Dating thread 28

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New one - chit chat all dating stuff here.

Off you go! :o

Evening all

Question sorry to hear your date wasn't as anticipated. Like the others said, chalk it up to experience.

Bant for you with SurreyGirl.

Pain there's loads of advice on here about what sites etc, I'm sure someone will be along soon enough with some more :)

Sky yeuch, that can't be pleasant. Is your profile hidden?

In other news, my date is now on Monday after being unable to find a mutually convenient time this week.

Also found out today that with my Christmas temping job I'm going to be paid monthly in arrears lovely and all that, but how the fuck am I supposed to survive 6 weeks on less than £100?

Bantam about SurreyGirl. Are you thinking of waiting or heading back into the OD foray?

Kirsty at least you've checked him off your list.

snape hope it isn't too long! It's a constant battle! DD1 needs help at school, I get exhausted battling the LEA and an unsupportive system , had a letter from school today about one piece of non-completed homework that had me spitting feathers, going to be an angry phone call into school in the morning!

Not sure whether to do it before or after my c/Coffee date

Morning.

Snape. Thinking about you. Hope you have a reasonably peaceful weekend.

Question. I feel annoyed on your behalf. If you met someone cool, savvy and interesting who happened to be in a wheelchair, ok. But you met a twat in a wheelchair. Wheelchair aside he is an idiot, he should have told you and he disrespected you. Don't let it put you off.
I've met men who have left me feeling ugh due to their lack of vroom. I think it's a natural feeling.

Bantam. Never mind. Surrey girl can sort herself out. Meantime get busy.

So, date from tues text me last night asking how my dog sitting was going. I replied. No reply. It's a non starter. I'm not bothered as I had to push the conversation when we met.

Hoping philipino bodybuilder who is half Spanish will arrange something soon.

Watch, fab on your house and job. Mr crush must make the day go faster.

Any dates for the weekend?

Morning all!!

Well I messaged TheLecturer last night and said nice to meet you but we didn't hit it off .. He replied that he felt the opposite!! He was nice enough about it though

Anyhow he has been replaced on the list now by a super cute soldier

TheAuditor now thinks I'm 'perfect' .. Is that a red flag??

Meeting (not yoga's) engineer today for coffee. .. He's a bit of an unknown quantity as doesn't message much so I can see

Happy Friday !!!

I've got a 2nd date on Sunday night.
He's the only OD I've dated so far but I did like him so I thought I would leave looking around until after I had decided about him.

bant sorry to hear about Surrey. Echoing someone else's question, how long has she been separated from STBXH? Sounds to me like she's yet another of those who have been trying OD too soon.

SG split at the beginning of the year, not sure exactly when. Still in the process of sorting out the house etc.

I said I'd basically give her a buzz when I was down that way, and she had my number to call if she needed to vent, needed a shoulder to cry/lean on, whatever. Sod.

So. Lesson learned. It's not me, it's not even her, it's just timing. Don't get into things before you're ready.

coffee Date with Venezuelan girl on for next week sometime and there's someone else messaging me too who's a bit far away but nice enough to meet for coffee. She's funny, at least.

If neither of those look promising I'm going to retire to the sofa for a bit and just post the occasional 'you know what really annoys me' comment about profiles. Not being able to spell 'intelligent' being one of them at the moment.

Thanks everyone for the kind words! Have cheered up now! No I didn't give him any encouragement - the second time he tried to kiss me I said no please don't do that then ran off to the loo!!
Oh god it was dreadful!!

Question - yes it sounds like you met a twunt. Wheelchair or not, he was invading your personal space, coming on too strong and obviously had issues with the truth. Sorry, your radar for these things does get better with time..

You're the only one who can decide whether you're ready to do OD or not. The first few conversations and dates can be a liberating experience after the end of a LTR/marriage, and some can make you realise what you've been missing for years. But it can be scary and disheartening if you have a bad experience to begin with.

nature - tell us about 2nd date

Kirsty - the 'perfect' comment could be a red flag possibly, or he could just be enthusiastic. And correct, obviously :) I've never described someone on a date as 'perfect', I normally don't go any further than 'pretty damned fantastic' - but that's not a manipulative thing I just say it as I see it.

Ok...
I haven't been single for long, I went out with a group of friends late in October, one of them is also single. She said 'don't bother trying to find someone all men our age are messed up (!) and OD is a waste of time'.
So obviously I went home and had a look at some OD sites (I was a bit tipsy) but didn't see anyone I liked.
The next morning I looked on Match again, saw this one man I liked, joined that minute so I could talk to him I didn't have a photo on there or anything.
He asked for a photo, I sent him one we emailed briefly, he was going abroad with work for 3 weeks the next day so we met there and then and got on like a house on fire, loads in common, kissed.
The past 3 weeks while he's been away we've been messaging, Skyping, sending photos (nothing nekkid just photos of where he is and his work, what he's doing etc).
He's back on Sunday and we've got a second date on Sunday evening.
Very excited.

Morning all, just checking in pre-date. Feeling tired and pretty low about the job stuff so hopefully date will cheer me up. Kirsty we can compare notes later.

I think the time it takes to be ready to date again is different for everyone. I waited about a year after XH and I split which was right for me. Mr Nice got into things rather sooner but seems to be OK. Is tricky to try and be supportive to someone that you don't know very well. And whatever stage you're at sometimes surprise things can make you realise that the end of an old relationship can sometimes hit you unexpectedly.

Am on my last day for this week of marking exams in London - suitcase is here with me and will be going back North afterwards :) Had to talk to XH last night about DSs birthday next week and he showed almost concern about how I'd get back from the station. I pointed out to him that I did have someone who was quite excited to see me

Good luck Yoga! :o

Bantam - that sucks re: SG. Good luck with Venezuelan though!

Natureslaw good luck to you too, sounds good so far

Question - he was a wrongun. You poor thing - I second what bantam said

Hope date number 2 goes well yoga .. The engineer I'm seeing is. 54!! At the total upper limit for me so we will see TheAuditor has been texting this morning and wants to call later .. He is quick witted and v fit so I may just stick with him a while and see how that goes

But let's compare notes later

Morning all! Lots of dates/2nd dates over the weekend.

I have quite a bit of RL stuff to deal with this weekend, more budgetting and running kids around.

I was thinking of changing my last name to something else once divorce finalised, but can't think of a name that:

1. Sits well with my first name, and;
2. I like enough to make the hassle worthwhile.

A BIG solo walk planned for Sunday 3 hours, on my own, packed lunch and a flask.

I'll be watching this thread though.

Bantam timing is a tough one, good you have left the door open. At least you met a woman you had that spark with although it must feel like your on the dip of the roller coaster right now. Maybe this is one of those if it's meant to happen, it will happen things. You're one of the good guys so deserve the whole package, who knows what's around the corner.

Question what an entitled arse, how dare he paw at you. I totally understand you feeling so flat after this, its a shock. Again, he was an arse.

Kirsty first he had his list and now says you are perfect, it could just be his turn of phrase but I'd listen very carefully to what he actually says at this stage.

I agree with Juliette. Is it horribly un-pc to have 'arses in wheelchairs' in the next thread title? Might attract controversy, but someone that much of a w*nker almost deserves to be live on in infamy.

Kirsty - the 'perfect' comment may just be off the cuff, but combined with the list it may be a flag. There's a thread about those somewhere but don't know if there's such a thing as a definitive list. One thing itself may not be a bad thing but taken in combination.. Just keep an eye out for more without becoming too pessimistic is the best thing, I suppose.

at arses in wheelchairs.

Happy to have a giraffe in there too.

Afternoon all!
So sorry about SG bantam
snape I found that when my DD2 had bullying problems, a CAHMs referral forced them to take it far more seriously. I think no longer just being an internal matter help focus their minds.

Date last night was awful! Met at around 7.10, was home by 8, including 15min travel time. Not really sure what happened, we chatted ok, didn't seem too disappointed when we met. But he drank his half pint of lager, refused a second and left with a handshake!

And to think I could have been with mushroom man, telling me how lovely I am! He texted at 8.30 to ask if we were still meeting!

Argh! That was a garbled mess. What I meant snape is that the school were forced to take it far more seriously when outside agencies became involved

I fear "Arses in wheelchairs" may be a step too far. Although we would be all secretly giggling away at the in joke!

Question Sorry to hear you had such a horrid first OD experience. I have to say you've been very unlucky. They aren't all that bad (honest) Don't let it out you off trying again. Even if you want to take a bit of time out first. There's no need to rush into anything.

Bant Sorry it didn't work out with SG. Sometimes timing is indeed everything. I think you've definitely done the right thing by taking a step back for the time being.

I am ill with a cold and sore throat today. I went to the London Dungeons on Wednesday and on one of the rides I got loads of water thrown over my head & ended up soaked. I'm not even sure it was pure water actually as it made my eyes sting & water so much that all my eye make up ran! I know colds etc are caused by viruses but I've convinced myself there's a connection. I'm going to sue!

there you go. 'Giraffes in wheelchairs, FunGuys' and we have another 200 or so posts to come up with the third thing.

Sorry about the date service - seems like a waste of an evening - but it got you out of the house I suppose. Was there much build up in terms of texting/emailing? Or was it just a quick introduction and meet?

Secret How jaw droppingly bad mannered! He could of least have stayed for a few drinks if you were chatting OK. I honestly believe that some people think that because it's an OD that basic good manners can be dispensed with. Arses!

Did you meet mushroom man after? You don't seem that keen on him from what I've read during my lurking.

Hi all

I too have a second date on Sunday. But has anyone else experienced, along with the excitement of a date, guilt? STBEx-H left in early summer which was a shock but he wanted to be free to see other people and didn't want to do anything behind my back. That's his story and he's sticking to it. I can't really think of him as a complete twunt because he was, and continues to be, a great (if mostly absent) dad and was just a crap partner.

I can't work out if the guilt is to do with meeting someone else while I'm technically still married or whether it's the thought that it may upset my boys if they knew I was seeing someone. I just dunno. I've probably rushed into the whole OD thing too soon but it has given me a much needed boost.

Sorry... it's just one of those days today. I'm off to get a big bowl of Pret soup and some crisps. That should help.

Today, I have mostly been eating- cherry pop tarts.

Secret - sorry your date was so odd! Remind me what was going on with mushroom man prior to the 'call me' text?