Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

[lubeybooby]

New one!

All dating related gumph here.

what do you mean by 'move'?

Uh Kirsty just hope it's not the same surgeon I told to get lost on Saturday!

the problem with coffee dates, is that coffee is nice enough - I drink loads of it. But it's a first date thing. We're British, we've been raised to only let our guard down with people we don't know when we're either on a holistic retreat or more likely when there has been some alcohol involved. If Mr Coffee is so called because that's all you've had, then the barriers may come down slowly, but it's going to take a long time for him to be bold enough to make a move.
Or at least, that's my point of view. Alcohol on both side makes me brave enough to kiss, if the chemistry is right, your face is raised just so when he's looking down at you.. etc etc

Well ... I always seem to fall into the friendship trap, where I meet up with someone, have a good evening, but nothing physical happens. I read about so many dates on here ending up with snogging, but that never happens with me - even when it turns out later that we both fancied each other! So I guess what I mean is, do you put your arm round someone or kiss them if you're interested? Or do you expect them to do that first? Just wondering where I'm going wrong.

Aaaagh, I sound like a teenager. No wonder I'm single!

Libby don't know about the man's perspective but personally if I made it clear I liked someone and they hadn't tried to kiss me after 3 dates I'd probably either lose interest or be pissed off.

So have exchanged quite a few good messages with the Engineer so far - nice and chatty, learning a bit about him, he's asking all the right questions....
Plus also started to chatting to someone I'll call the Gingerbread man cause his photo features a gingerbread latte (ugh we'll just have to agree to disagree on that). No word from the other two which means there probably won't be.

Sorry, x-posted - thanks! We did have one alcoholic date, but still nothing happened. It's weird because, although I'm shy, he isn't. But yes, I think ultimately alcohol (and more of it this time) will be the way to go.

Well, what generally happens at the end of the evening, if there's been a bit of a spark, is that you say all the that's been a lovely evening stuff, there's a significant pause, you both look at each other in a "Should we?" kind of way and then you're either having a bit of a kiss or you can step back or turn away if you're not up for it. Kind of a mutual move .... But you can definitely encourage this during the date if you want to by flirting a bit, touching him gently on the arm when you're talking and see what signals you get back. I'm not an expert by any means though so feel free to disregard!

aww. It's like mills and boon on here..

Kirsty do it anyhoo! Sorry some people are having a bad day.... Can I ask...talking to a couple of blokes on POF. Is it normal for them to be all talk and no action? Ie, lots of talk, but stalling on actually meeting? Players or married, or muppets?

Libby if I liked someone after a first date and I was preeeeety sure there was a spark I would aim for the mouth for a goodnight kiss but have my wits about me for time to switch to cheek if it looked like they were horrified. Only happened once thank god

I prefer having the move made on me though.

Hurtling towards a new thread again, we'll surely be on a new one for the update from sponge!

Oh and yes alcohol is always helpful ...

Sorry all, posted, and I'd missed a few posts. This thread moves fast!

Parsley possibly a variety of all three!

Something I used to clear up quite soon when exchanging messages was that I didn't like to talk endlessly and take ages over meeting. Always seemed to be met with agreement.

quick, someone - new thread title!

Parsley I agree with Lubey - if they're actually stalling with good reason (out of the country for work, although that's questionable, or childcare issues) then maybe give them more time. It's more likely they're just enjoying the attention and their wife is in the next room though

PoshBoys, Surgeons, nurses and coffee addicts

Any of the following words....muppets, willy pics, engineers, coffee-stallers, nazi-nurses....

That's what worries me Bantam...

Needs to have the memorable expression "bizarroville" in there somewhere too.

Yes, definitely something about coffee - very big fan of ahem coffee at the mo.

Ok here we go

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1605133-PoshBoys-Muppets-Surgeons-nurses-coffee-addicts-and-RL-dating-thread-27

Oh bugger yes bizzaroville - I'll report the thread and get MNHQ to add it in if they will be so kind.

Ooh, isn't it some kind of bad luck to start the new one before this one is done?

I'll just have to post....

2 more messages then.