Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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New one!

All dating related gumph here.

Bantam, it doesn't sound good. Even if it's a joke, it seems a very strange thing to make a joke about... What have you said in reply?

Things are still ongoing. There's only so much you can take at face value from an IM chat. It loses a lot in facial expression, ironic tone of voice, slamming the hand on the lectern at the rally, that kind of thing.

bant. You just cannot have any sort of relationship with someone that spectacularly ignorant. It's indicative of a really nasty side, hell...it is a really nasty side.

Ugh. Not acceptable.

O you want to think the best of her, of course you do. Next date, cocktails in Peckham. See how that flys.

no, we did discuss this on date one. She's a lib dem supporter, likes paddy ashdown. I think it's just an inappropriate joke. Right. Nuff said.

She's a lib dem!

ok I've changed my mind about the Safrican. Text!

Casual racism is everywhere, its horrible that people think they can just come out with it and it's going to be accepted.

christ, I'm picking it up off you lot. Before I joined this forum I'd just wander into whatever situation online dating offered, get hurt or wonder what the hell had happened. Now I'm second guessing IMs with you before realising actually it wasn't what it sounded like at first.

Not that I don't appreciate the feedback, it's just that I was used to stumbling along on my own, and then there's you lot to share it with, and it's really lovely. It's nice to give my opinion, and really nice to hear yours. But it's tempting to throw in a comment/question before the issue at hand is actually clarified and then I have to dig myself out of a question I shouldn't have asked. If that makes sense.

bantam but if you yourself describe someone as a nazi sympathiser...well of course there will be reactions...would you have described as someone making a dodgy joke...well sounds different...sorry for barging in

of course, citizen - I think someone you don't know very well making a joke in bad taste can also be seen as someone making a comment you don't agree with. And then when you read back, it can actually seem to be not what you thought it was in the first place, in context - but the whole - 'oh my god - so and so said X!' is an easy thing to happen. And yes, not the best taste, but given that I thought back to what her politics were and it wasn't that at all, I'm sorry for jumping to conclusions.

But maybe we all do that a bit? Put our preconceptions on stupid things people say? The thing here is that we post before we've had time to consider them in full?

bantam

Phew! good news

okay all better now. Offish joke, and now we're discussing belching contests. All is well in the world of Bantam and CuteNurse

Hey bant I made a worse mistake .. I told my mum (who I am staying with at present) before considering ..and then went on another date so she was VERY disapproving!!

I think we are all trying to learn from each other's mistakes so we may be too quick to judge perhaps??

Oh god, I joined POF today which may have been a huge mistake. I've had a million messages, none of which contain more than 3 words!

Sponge, I'm so pleased things are looking up for you!

History teacher has texted a couple of times today, perhaps I should give him a second chance? But he was so short (claims 5'6'') and very shy. But he communicates better in writing, I just don't know.

Pixie if it's a bit overwhelming you can hide your profile and then just message the ones you like the look of.

snape did you watch the second half of the Derren Brown thing? Is it worth watching?

Pixie, as Yoga says you can hide your profile for a bit if POF gets a bit much.

Re the history teacher, how do you feel about his height? I couldn't date anyone shorter than me, but I have dated men only an inch taller. Is it the height or the shyness which is the main factor? I'd say if you're really not sure .give him one more date and see what happens - he may be much less shy next time once he feels more comfortable with you.

I've just had a text from LC 'Cant wait to see you tomorrow. goodnight, sleep well'

Quick stupid question, when meeting for a coffee do you actually go in and wait for them or wait outside for them? Really not used to this dating malarky!

Sponge good luck with lc, hope you have a great time tomorrow

tess

As far as I can tell, the usual etiquette is for the woman to arrive 5-10 minutes late, quoting women's prerogative if needed, and the man arrives early or on time. That's just my experience of course. Waiting outside doesn't make much sense so if they're not there when you arrive then grab a table visible from the door

Bant [grins] glad i can use my women's perogative and be a bit late. Thanks for the advice, i'm new to all this..can you tell

Bant [grins] glad i can use my women's perogative and be a bit late. Thanks for the advice, i'm new to all this..can you tell

Oops sorry for the double post. Stupid phone!