Onwards and upwards we go, still sniggering at the sausage seeing the roll Dating thread 26

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All dating related gumph here.

I've joined gsm. Interesting, more who can string two sentences together. Has anyone hidden anyone as the profile is too depressing to look at?

Woo alert (sorry Bantam)

So, what would you think if, during the course of a vaguely sensible conversation about visiting a medium to get in touch with your deceased father (both of us seem to have done this), you were told that along with a whole pile of things that have come true, the medium had also told the person that they were going to "fall madly in love", which fact they saw fit to convey to you?

(Brought him back for "coffee" - no children woke up thank goodness but we were very very quiet).

sponge hope it's brilliant tomorrow. DATE. TWO!!!!!

Oh and if said person also referred not once but twice to you being "stuck with him" (I know,I know, we are so eye-wateringly romantic round here), apologised for failings over past week re going quiet and invited you over to his as soon as ever he's feeling human again after minor op next week?

I might have to start believing he likes me before too long ...

Cynic alert (sorry West)

I actually saw a medium/psychic several years ago at a friends dinner party, where she'd hired this bloke to read us all individually. It was a change from pictionary, anyway. And he told me stuff from my past that were true, but he also told me stuff about the future which didn't. Not one thing about the future came true, and he was quite general about some of it - I even have the tape recording somewhere.

And one of the things he told me was that I'd fall madly in love, which I haven't since then, and it's been going on for 10 years. I'd been madly in love before, not since (except with DC obviously which I don't think counts)

It's very nice he conveyed it to you though. Bodes well. Hope the coffee was good

west - one I met with in the summer told me when he was tipsy that he was a medium and came out with a lots of things I know I hadn't told him as it involves my dc (don't laugh but my ds insisted when he was younger I wasn't his real mum and his db wasn't his real db as his real db had gone to heaven - he said this when he was about 3.. and still goes on about weird things) I never tell anyone for fear if them thinking I have a looney son!!! BUT he knew. it kind of freaked me out. and then he started going on that we would have a daughter in 2 years time etc etc.. needless to say I've not seen him for a few months.. got to love od!!

West, I hope the 'coffee' was strong

Yes, more interested that he told me the falling madly in love bit!

Coffee was strong and very hot

Ooh sponge lovely, I'm so excited for you!

Tess if you're me, you attempt to arrive "fashionably late" because you hate to be the one standing around looking nervously for some stranger and still manage to arrive early.

faintheart I had good luck on GSM for a while - met two lovely men through it. One was just a bit of a fling (that was what we both wanted) - he was an environmental planner. The other was Mr60 who I saw for a while this summer. They can pretty much all compose a sentence and are less likely (in my experience) to send cock pics. Of course they may still have their 'ishoos' - the Frenchman was still living with his ex-wife and admitted he was worse than his kids at losing important things. There's also far less traffic so unless you're in a big city there may be slim pickings. Good luck with it though!

Western I wouldn't think anything of it. But I would believe what was right in front of me. (he likes you, he likes you....)

Glad you were able to have "coffee" quietly!

glad the back to yours went ok western :) the woo, no, i dont believe in any of that kind of thing... so. meh.

sponge - today is the day, bet you are going to be a whirlwind of excitment.

bant - ha, if you told it in context it might help...... mind you, it depends on your sense of humour. I never find jokes like that funny in any context. Nor ones about murderers/ topical ones about jimmy saville or the latest god awful thing/ sexist ones, but thats just me. So, i would still dump on the basis of a very mismatched sense of humour.

spoke to ywk for a few hours. stood my ground. Told him i now wasnt going to see him at all, till he sorts his shit out. She dumped him, it wasnt the other way round. Told him i wasnt about to be a rebound for him and he said that no, im way better than that. But in any case i expect they will sort it, so none of it is of any consequence anyway. he said if they didnt sort it, he didnt want to date anyone for a while.... so again, i said i wouldnt see him while this is the case. Essentially im just not going to see him. He understood. We spoke about the flat/ furniture issue again and he applogised lots, explained why, but i told him that that was it for me and i could never trust him. I dont know, i feel good ive conveyed my position so strongly.

I also have a date friday. I may or may not go, probably depending on the weather... ;)

Morning all!

Sponge good luck with LC later :o

Western :o

So, dating grammar pedants and text speak haters - I think mumsnet is onto something here www.mumsnet.com/info/accessibility

If I am ever OD again I'm point out to txt spk users and the 'hai howz u hunnniii bbz' brigade that they are being discriminatory as well as bloody annoying

Watch well done re: ykw!

watch - I'm glad you told him exactly where you stand...but it still sounds like he uses you to deal with his emotional shit. His gf dumps him and the first thing he does is phone you. just doesn't sound right...sorry.

i know, i am proud of myself.
yoga - he said as much. he likes me being there for him, and vice versa.
he wants to see me, but doesnt want to date and hes lonely as he doesnt know anyone where hes just moved. I told him i wasnt his stand in friend, and i wasnt going to be used as one. There is far too much water under the bridge for all that.
He saw my point.

he does use me to deal with his emotional shit, but to be fair, i do with him too. Anything happens and hes one of the first people i speak to ( if im talking to him)

like i said, its a weird thing.

sponge good luck for your 2nd date today :-)

I am finding POF pretty terrifying ... I had loads of messages since signing up yesterday .. And apart from 3 who sent quite interesting messages the rest were basically 'hi ur lovely' etc with 'hi .. I bet you taste better than a chocolate digestive' really taking the biscuit

Got a date with a guy who lives near me to our local tomorrow but not sure if I fancy him but seems nice enough

This morning at 6am I logged on to look at the overnight messages and started getting hit with more so I am now a bit scared to log in!!!

Kirsty hide your profile for a while so you don't get loads of nonsense all week. You can search for guys you want to message or you can strategically unhide it when you are bored/have a bit of free time for biscuits!

watch ok, i think i get it. Actually, it doesn't matter if i get it, what matters is that you feel ok about where you're at with it so well done on that.

sorry, did that sound patronising? I really didn't mean it that way. All I meant was, none of us can really know what's going on for someone else. hope that makes sense. x

No, its fine. Essentially we are now virtual/ phone friends.

Its always going to be a tiny bit loaded, so i refuse to see him in person because that would be too hard and i think all the old feelings would come rushing back. It wouldnt be good for him either tbh. Which is why he ended up agreeing with me.

Its nice to have someone you can brain dump onto and who knows you. So it benefits us both that way, though he is more dependednt on that than me.

Kirsty, i hide and unhide all the time too.

Good morning!

Kirsty - I am having the same issue with POF, literally every message is either "want 2 chat" or "ur gorgeous" and most of the men who send the messages are awful!

Sponge, good luck! Re. History teacher I think it is more his shyness than his height that's bothering me. I think I will give him a second chance (assuming he even asks me out again!)

Just had my first message from a married guy who is a bit bored

How do I hide my profile and how do I block people??

Morning all

Watch - well done for telling ykw the score. He spent his time chasing after you whilst with the now ex, bad news. Steer clear!

I am a bit of an emotional wreck today, my best friend has finally gone into labour and I am so excited for her and meeting my god baby it's also my wedding anniversary and whilst I in no way regret leaving stbxh I think with my mate in labour it's just reminding me of my own labours and marriage etc it's also my much loved nieces birthday so busy old day, plus signing up for Mount Kilimanjaro today and going to watch the fireworks with NL whom I have totally given up on trying to pretend its all cool and fun and am actually getting a little bit smitten FFS.

Phew. Going to lie on the couch and breathe can't seem to do anything but keep checking my phone to know baby has arrived safe and my mate is okay!

fate - aw, thats lovely. Lots of people seem to be having babies right now, i must admit its made me a bit wistful, but it wasnt to be, so.... but i know what you mean. Anniversaries are weird too. my first one was awful, second not so bad, because i knew i wasnt going to have a good day, and then i kind of forget it, and sometimes dont remember till days after.

and indeed, thats what i said to him as well, and said he needed to sort his shit out. Doesnt much matter really, i dont mind the odd chat, but its never going to be more than that.

Deleted my okc this morning and hidden my pof ( only came out of hiding for an hour yeasterday) also having a major wobble re fridays date, so its most likely i wont go.

Good luck for later Sponge!

Yoga any tips for gsm very welcome. It's been a bit of a relief revelation and I'm getting more messages than on pof at the moment as I'm new on the market.

Kirsty I only went on pof this weekend, yep scary.

Western glad your coffee was to your taste

I think it's just sadness that the whole married with children thing didn't work out for me, nostalgia maybe. I guess I feel I have had my chance if that makes sense. I just hope my mates have and keep what I couldn't! Anyways, I am not one to dwell! Looking forward to the fireworks tonight, I am a big kid!