He's just been to a nude lap dancing bar :(

[RunnyBum]

H just back from nude lap dancing bar, he has been on stag dos before and he knows I hate it. I'm gutted, he says I should forget this one "mistake" as he (allegedly) didn't has a private dance as he knows I would hate that. He claims he was just curious (inspite having been before and knowing all about it!!) Being in front of a naked woman that isnt me, for kicks just feels like cheating on some level. Oh and he wasn't on a stag tonight just out with a friend.

Found out as I Where's My Iphone'd him as he was meant to just be in our town, and I thought he'd be heading home.

We're meant to be going away on a romantic break in a few weeks, but a the minute I don't want him near me :(

How would u deal with this?

[Doha]

I wonder why he turned his find my I phone app off, Probably because he doesn't want you to find out just what he is spending family money on. lapdancers and gambling--what a loving family man NOT

You had better look out for yourself ad your DC's OP....

[olgaga]

Yes that's an interesting point, re the spending of family resources on strippers.

RunnyBum please come back to explore your options. You do have options, you know. Hopefully your next thread won't be derailed by men wanting to pursue an agenda.

I and others would sincerely like to help you.

[Offred]

Meh, not sure that's very fair olgaga, there have been more female than male apologists on this thread. I know it is larry you are meaning, he's bad because of his fundamental beliefs not because he is a man.

[Offred]

And I've been arguing just as much as him so derailing of the thread shouldn't only be blamed on him.

[Offred]

Larry - should be means something different from are.

[olgaga]

Well I was arguing too, until I got reported but the thread definitely got derailed on Tuesday morning when some people decided some other people needed to be corrected. Hey - I was there!

[larrygrylls]

"derailing" is in the eye of the beholder, who in this case is the OP.

General discussion around the issue may actually be more useful to someone than immediate snap judgments and instructions as to how she should feel.

I have one rule I always stick to. If the OP asks me to leave or tells me my input is not useful, I refrain from posting any further. There are plenty here who continue on threads after having been asked to leave by the OP...

[Offred]

Ironic larry, ironic...

[Offred]

Did you read the op Kerry? He didn't tell her this time or the other times he has probably been either. What is your point? That she shouldn't complain or he won't tell her? What's the point of that?

[ledkr]

Have to just quickly say that I do find it odd that a bloke can sit and post on a predominantly female forum for days on end to try and tell women how they should be feeling about certain subjects. Shouldn't you be doing something a bit more manly like have a lap dance?

[OneMoreChap]

ledkr

Have to just quickly say that I do find it odd that a bloke can sit and post on a predominantly female forum for days on end to try and tell women how they should be feeling about certain subjects

Mumsnet = by parents for parents...


not female for women...

Though, actually, an awful lot of it does seem to be women telling other women how they should feel, or behave...

[Offred]

Ha, have agreed with you so much on this thread OMC, what to do, what to do...

[ledkr]

One more no offence intended and yes put in my place about the parenting point but its the length of time and effort that some guys spend on here trying to tell women how they should feel about the sex trade when opinions are bound to differ that amazes me. I can't imagine dh doing that or even wanting to that's all.