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got a date tonight and I'm getting nervous!

363 replies

CrispyHedgehog · 24/09/2012 16:50

help!!!!

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ChooChooLaverne · 03/10/2012 10:43

Crispy (((((())))))

I've read your whole thread in horror. I'm so sorry.

I believe you. None of it was your fault. Nothing YOU did was wrong. It was all him. What a sinister individual he is.

I also think you're really brave and will be thinking of you today.

Lueji · 03/10/2012 11:09

Just to say that you have done the right thing for you in telling the police.

Even if nothing comes out of this, you have done what you could to punish this man for his actions and have taken control of the situation. Which it was what he took from you through his actions.

Also, reinforcing what izzy said about writing an account of what happened.
It has already helped that you have written it down here, but you should take notes for yourself, including things that you haven't said here.

From a parallel experience, the more we think about it, the more we remember and things that may not make much sense initially then eventually do.
So, even if you don't want to remember it, do try to review the events in your mind.

And remember that it wasn't your doing. It was all him.

LouMacca · 03/10/2012 11:29

Oh god crispy I have just read the whole thread - am just so shocked by what's happened to you. I am so sorry, thinking of you x

foofooyeah · 03/10/2012 15:11

crispy, just came on to see how you were today ? Hope your ok

CrispyHedgehog · 03/10/2012 15:49

Thanks all of you.

Just waiting for the police - they said after lunch but not heard anything yet.
All this waiting is making me a nervous wreck tbh :/

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AnyFucker · 03/10/2012 15:59

< holds crispy's hand >

brianbennettfan · 03/10/2012 16:04

De-lurking to give you Thanks Thanks Thanks

Hope all goes well today, lovely.

NicholasTeakozy · 03/10/2012 16:28

Hope it goes ok love.

SkaffenAmtiskaw · 03/10/2012 17:09

Thinking of you Crispy, hoping it all goes well today. You are very brave.

vintagewarrior · 03/10/2012 17:11

Also here to hold your hand, you are very brave.
Hope it's gone ok today x

KatieScarlett2833 · 03/10/2012 18:22

You are doing an amazingly brave thing.

I am full of respect for you.

kittybiscuits · 03/10/2012 19:18

Love and good wishes to you, brave Crispy xx

AnyFucker · 03/10/2012 19:21

did the police come ?

CrispyHedgehog · 03/10/2012 19:27

No police yet.. I'm guessing something urgent must have come up for them. Although it was quite late when they rang last night, 8.30ish.

I've been writing stuff down on and off all day, in short bursts, I can't seem to focus on it for very long at a time.

I think in a selfish way, part of me is hoping that they don't contact me again.. then it's out of my hands in a way, I'm dreading the process if it goes ahead. I know it's selfish and I know I'm a big fat wuss but I'm just really shit at any kind of serious communication. and I won't lie.. I am scared.

Thanks so much all of you.. you have no idea how much strength I'm garnering from your messages xxx

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AnyFucker · 03/10/2012 19:48

Who could blame you for being scared ?

Police forces around the country are busy today, because they are all covering for each other so as many as possible could attend the funeral of one of the young PC's tragically murdered in Manchester last week. Have just been in tears watching it on the local news.

NicholasTeakozy · 03/10/2012 20:00

Of course you're scared. I think most people would be, I know I would be. Keep writing stuff down, it's useful for you and the police.

HRH008 · 04/10/2012 07:37

Morning Crispy,
I just wanted to say hello and I hope you got a decent night´s sleep.
x

CrispyHedgehog · 04/10/2012 11:09

Morning hrh

Still no word from the police. I conked out last night, best sleep I've had in ages and I do feel better for it.

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ChooChooLaverne · 04/10/2012 11:15

Could you phone them?

CrispyHedgehog · 04/10/2012 11:30

yeah I could.. I'm just hesitant to do so. I suppose I don't want to be responsible for the can of worms that will ensue - if they contact me I can blame them.. does that make any kind of sense to anyone but me?

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Lueji · 04/10/2012 11:38

TBH, they are less likely to contact you if they feel that you don't really want to make a complaint.

CrispyHedgehog · 04/10/2012 18:32

I've left voicemail and sent an email to the officer who contacted me, now I'll just have to wait.

I have to do this. I can't let him do it to anyone else. I know that. So I'm pulling up my big girl pants and going to face it.

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hoopieghirl · 04/10/2012 18:33

Have been following you post since day 1 . I am so sorry this happened to you. Please be kind on yourself you are an amazingly brave lady.

AnyFucker · 04/10/2012 19:17

Good girl. Pull them chest warmers high !

NicholasTeakozy · 04/10/2012 19:40

Wow Crispy, you are an amazing and inspirational young lady.