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Huffy, illiterate men, scared of peas, it's a weird, weird dating world (No22)

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ChaoticismyLife · 11/09/2012 15:10

Oh, watch...you mentioned flowers Grin

Tell us more...

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lubeybooby · 18/09/2012 16:40

Oh urgh. I just don't know really apart from that I'm more gutted the more I think about it. I was sure we would work it out again.

Whatever I do anyway it won't be for a few days. He's having laser eye surgery tomorrow so I'll leave it a bit and gether my thoughts.

Thanks again all.

watchoutforthatsnail · 18/09/2012 16:49

Sorry Lubey. Not nice, kind of worse to be left Hanging.

TimeForMeAndDD · 18/09/2012 17:00

Probably a stupid thing to say, but does it really matter why? He has done the deed, he has told you what he wants to happen, so as harsh as it sounds, it's up to you how you deal with it, it's not up to him to make you feel better just like it wouldn't be up to you to make him feel better if roles were reversed. Personally, I would just accept what has happened and get on with getting over him, because I would rather have no reason at all than a load of well meant bullshit, which is what you may well end up with if you ask him for answers. Plus, what could be a nice ending to a nice relationship could end up going bad. Also, this may just be a blip, he may have things going on that he needs to deal with, if you walk away as friendly and as dignified as possible the door is left open, communication can resume, if you haven't met someone else by then Wink

Sorry Lubey, it's not nice, but endings of relationships never are, even when you do have reasons.

snapespeare · 18/09/2012 17:11

Sorry Lubey. :-(.

Men. Pfffft. Nothing from the prof yesterday, or today so far, although he says I'm not relegated, I'm basically just being used for infrequent sex... Very good sex, but that's about it. As I'm using him as well, that's ok, but I can't really be arsed.

Today's notebook entry a thousand pigeons fall around her feet (those are my feet! And a fuck-of-a-lot-of-pigeons...) a line from a song that makes both of us cry.

TimeForMeAndDD · 18/09/2012 17:18

That Is Lovely Snape!!! God, I hope this book melts his heart.

watchoutforthatsnail · 18/09/2012 17:26

Snape, for goodness sake, you Bloody talented woman :)

snapespeare · 18/09/2012 17:33

And this is the doctor finished 'People fall out of the world sometimes, but they always leave traces, little things you can't quite account for: faces in photographs; luggage; half-eaten meals; rings. Nothing is ever forgotten, not completely, and if something can be remembered, it can come back.'

snapespeare · 18/09/2012 17:33

Blush. Ta! :)

TimeForMeAndDD · 18/09/2012 17:36

Beautiful Snape, it really is.

Yogagirl17 · 18/09/2012 18:32

Amazing Snape

I want a tattoo

HauntedLittleLunatic · 18/09/2012 19:05

Waves across the county to Lubey. If we do a local meet up you will have to take some profile quality photos for me.

waves to everyone else

I can't keep up with you but snape your notebook is stunning.

ChaoticismyLife · 18/09/2012 19:34

Agree with everyone else snape :)

Brilliant artwork.

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lubeybooby · 18/09/2012 19:46

Hi HLL

No problemo :o

OhWesternWind · 18/09/2012 22:19

Well, have been asked on a date by the nice optician Smile. He has left PoF but sent me his number before he went so we have been texting quite a bit tonight. He does seem nice, no alarm bells at all, no rude talk just flirting without crossing the line. I like it!

In other news, have been contacted by one man quoting the love poetry of Elizabeth Barrett Browning (poor cow), another who thinks god was showing off when he made me (vom) and another who is straight up in admitting he still lives with his wife but only for his daughters sake, he's going to split up with her soon and hopes I don't mind (poor cow 2). Having been in that situation myself, I somehow find I do mind, very much, and the thought of this poor unsuspecting woman being played for a fool like this has quite upset me and brought back some bad memories and feelings. Poor, poor woman.

OhWesternWind · 18/09/2012 22:20

And I forgot to say, Snape, your artwork is awesome.

hatesponge · 18/09/2012 22:38

lubey that's rubbish of him :( sorry. hope the next few days help you decide what to do - I totally get wanting some proper explanation from him, not just some fading away, esp given the issues over your stuff at his, vice versa etc. Meh to stupid men.

Western great news re the optician. Not so great re the others, aside from the fact you've seen through them straight off, so not wasted any precious time.

Snape you are ridiculously talented you know :) Why are you not doing the art stuff professionally?!

Yogagirl17 · 18/09/2012 22:45

Western - re poor cow 2, how very unreasonable of you not to be more understanding. Angry Seriously, how the fuck do some women fall for that shit? Having been the cheated-on partner myself you have my sympathy. Poor cow is really too nice a phrase for him, I hope you told him exactly where to stick his sad little cock.

As for poor cow 1 - is it just Elizabeth Barrett Browning you don't like or is it all men who quote poetry to you? Grin

Hope the date with the optician goes well!

snapespeare · 18/09/2012 22:48

western great news re optician, what a sleazy fuckwit the married guy is... Do some women actually get taken in by that nonsense?

Started vaguely teasing PM about the 'notebook of lurve', without actually letting on anything at all.. 'look I have a blister on my thumb from cutting out....things today... kiss it better! ''what were you cutting out?', 'oh. Stuff... You know', 'were you making someone a birthday card?'. 'no.'

Teehee.

OhWesternWind · 18/09/2012 22:50

No, I like EBB (and some poetry-quoting men) but she didn't have an easy time of it at all, a tragic life in many ways.

snapespeare · 18/09/2012 22:57

Poor EBB. nods I quite like a bit of poetry quoting. Anyone that can reel off Shakespeare has my knickers in their pocket heart.

hatesponge · 18/09/2012 23:19

I'd be putty in the hands of a man reciting Sonnet 29 Grin

Quite partial to Donne and Marvell too which my university crush and I could both recite word perfectly as studied them at A level

The lovely Ex used to write rather good poems for me Blush

watchoutforthatsnail · 19/09/2012 07:43

Western, men are idiots. This is true.I Think sometimes online dating REALLY reinforces this.
Good luck with the nice optition!!

Anyway. Must get on, for I Have a date with the snape!!

KirstyWirsty · 19/09/2012 08:05

snape amazing!!!

Yogagirl17 · 19/09/2012 08:58

watch - apparently it's National Talk Like a Pirate Day! Grin

Yogagirl17 · 19/09/2012 10:35

Eeek, wish me luck. Am feeling particularly intimidated by his height as I will feel self-consciously small. And have done something very weird to my hair for no good reason.

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