Huffy, illiterate men, scared of peas, it's a weird, weird dating world (No22)

[ChaoticismyLife]

Oh, watch...you mentioned flowers

Tell us more...

Also, his message aside, he has been backing off, he has become more distant, so even without the recent message, things were going in the wrong direction. I would be done with it too if I were you, too much like hard work now.

Agreed..... And you are worth more than that, you know that.

cake and eat it springs to mind. he likes your 'nice emails' but isnt otherwise interested and wants his space.

bin.

The nag tag team have spoken.

:)

Hope you are ok, It's still shitty.

I could just eat some cake. Or apple crumble with custard...

Ahh but Winter is coming, who needs a man in winter when you have cosy PJ's, slankets, crap tele and hot chocolate? Eh?

Sat night tv is rather good.....

I had cherry pie with fresh Sainsburys taste the difference custard. Fuck, it was good, I don't even usually like custard. Next Time I'm forgoing the pie.......

cake!!!!!

Ahh but Winter is coming, who needs a man in winter when you have cosy PJ's, slankets, crap tele and hot chocolate? Eh?

My feet get cold.
But it gets more difficult to remove the clothes, at least without some preliminary warm up.

Lubey, I agree with the others. You are better off without. "Spell"? FGS!

I'd reply short and to the point.
I don't do spells, people are only with me if they want to, so please keep your space to yourself.

Twat.

Thank you

No, it's not worth it, that's why I said I've had enough now.... and yes I'm fuming. I thought I had interpreted it right. I couldn't think of anything else that could mean.... but it's unlike him to be mean, which that is.

Ho hum, so anyway yes I need to execute a dumping then. I don't care that technically I'm dumped anyway, I want to dump him right back.

Yeah I'm ok anyway

So, responses to that mean poke in the eye of his then please?

If you absolutely feel the need to respond and get embroiled in a tit for tat never ending cycle of contact, I would respond with 'enjoy your space. please do not contact me again'.

I don't interpret his message as mean, just a bit...clumsy.

Marks and Spencers custard is delicious! With their apple crumble or without.

I would say he is being selfish Lubey, he is thinking of himself and not of you, but maybe he didn't intend to come across as mean. I do like Snapes dumping.

I do feel the need to respond because I look a right twat now.

Oh I don't know :(

There's a lot to say - having only just realised that I am actually properly dumped and he isn't considering my POV at all.

Perhaps he didnt mean to sound mean,just clumbsy, abd really, these kind of things are quite hard at the best of times.

Id be tempted to just not respond, leave it at that. Or say that you wish him Well.

But then im spectaculary bad at dumping people.

Time, ill be trying the waitrose custard soon :)

I don't think you look a twat. I think you have handled things well. However, you could end up looking a twat, depending on your reply

I LOVE custard Watch. Marks and Spencers is made from real cream, so low carb

I think, Lubey, that since this has happened a few times, that he just doesn't want to be in a relationship....

He probably likes you, but doesn't want it.

I don't Think you look a fool, maybe he wasn't clear in what he said....

Well, there's an excuse to glub a tub if ever I heard one :

Glug

a couple of months a go I would have done that Watch but am more than 2 stone down now, size 10/12 so am refraining. Until Christmas.

Lubey you might feel like a fool but you certainly don't look like one. This is all his doing, you have no control over him, his words or his actions, this is out of your control, so there is no way you look a fool.

DCs and I just had a big bowl of strawberries and whipped cream last night - one big bowl, three spoons. I was a cool mum for about 5 minutes.

Lubey - you don't sound like a fool at all - he's being about as clear as waitrose custard! . Tell him that. Tell him you actually have no idea what he means and that if he is not interested in being in a relationship with you he should just say so. (I'm a big one for making men come out and say it because what it often comes down to is that they're just big cowards and want to make you do the breaking up for them.)

Yoga, thats a good idea. I like that.

Thanks.

It hasn't happened a few times, it was once last month.

We even talked last time he was here at the end of August and said we knew September was going to be horrible with little chance to see each other and that it would test us

I want the thing we planned for October transferred to my name because I still want to go, him or no him! It's in his name with his card details at the moment, and I can't book it myself because the deal was only available through his cool travel agent bloke. He could transfer it though.

And I have loads of his stuff here and he's got some of mine - what the fuck am I meant to be doing with that? Why hasn't he mentioned it? He's been really cowardly and weird about this, and I've completely countered his apparent reasons yet he clearly has his mind made up so i want to know what the real reason is :(

This isn't something that was just a few dates that I can just ditch and forget without a problem and with no further contact.

Then I would say you have reason to contact him, as yet it's unfinished business. There are loose ends to tie up, returning 'stuff' and getting the October event transferred over to you. It doesn't really matter what we say, it's how you feel that's important and you have to go with what you feel is right.

He might not want to tell you the reason, there might not even be one, you know. He might just have decided he Doesbt want to be with someone, as you could have too.....

If you have stuff to sort out, then yeah, contact him, maybe say you are a bit shocked as this isn't what you understood the situation to be, but in light of that ....And then list the practical stuff.

It's always different when you are involved in the situation as to how we view it. We only have the facts, you know him abd know the emotional side. I'm quite sure the same event, viewed from facts and then rl would get different advice.

As long as you are Happy with what you are going to do, that's all that matters :)

As Time mentioned, then, I'd ask him for clarification if he meant that he could not contact as much or with as much thought during this time, or if he meant to break up effectively. But also point out that you are not happy to be left on the back burner at his whim.