Hello again all
Things once again not rosey with me and blokeychap. ffs.
I think I need to execute a dumping.
Ok... full story:
He went a bit quiet and distant on me and I pulled him on it and asked why. He took it the wrong way and seemed to think I meant I wanted constant contact from him - I don't, and I tried to make that clear... I want quality rather than quantity and I know we're both busy and so it's fine to not be chatting all day long.
So I was sort of dumped again - he said he wanted space for a few days (even though we actually hadn't spoken at the point for two days) and he said that he can't give me what I need (clearly still thinking I want to bloody chat all day long... aaargh!) and he also said that he isn't coming to talk face to face this time because he'll fall under my spell again and change his mind... wtf?
I said ok fine take all the space you need, and also wrote in very plain speaking about the issue of how much contact we have an made it very clear what I think (which again is quality rather than quantity is better)
So a week passes and we exchange a couple of general hello how are you how was your weekend type texts.
I'm confused at him not mentioning the result of having had some space, but I leave it.
So, a couple of days on again... it's his birthday, and I emailed to wish him happy birthday, he thanked me for it, I then went on to say that I'd love to be doing something nice for him but don't feel I can given the current situation.
He replied with:
"That's a very nice thought of yours, and much better than socks and boxer shorts...
I'd love something for my birthday, everything always gratefully accepted....
I'm very happy that the thought is there, in fact I am very touched by it.
I'm also happy that we can keep talking as total radio silence is a bit awful for me!"
I replied that I was confused as hell and he had requested space and that's what the radio silence was all about, and that I meant that I'd like to do something nice or get him something but I can't while I'm still in the dark as to what his thoughts are
He then replied:
"Right, let me explain, I'll try.
I wanted space, that's true.
What I meant by radio silence was never hearing from you again ever again.
I was really pleased to see your nice emails in my inbox.
That make sense? Probably not!"
I have interpreted the above as
'you are still dumped, but I like chatting to you, and never hearing from you ever again would be awful. I'm letting you work out for yourself that you're still dumped'
So er yeah... that's where it stands at the moment.
Help me daters!
I have only put up with this, this time, because we had something very nice planned in october and it's horrible to think we won't be doing it. But if I'm right in my above interpretation, then that's it now... I've had enough.