Huffy, illiterate men, scared of peas, it's a weird, weird dating world (No22)

[ChaoticismyLife]

Oh, watch...you mentioned flowers

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Sponge a bit of glamour appeals to many men! I am both a project manager and a surveyor myself and honestly looking at some of my colleagues and their partners I think you are doing yourself a huge disservice if you think you wouldn't appeal to at least some of them. The people I work with also come from many different home backgrounds, have different qualifications and attitudes to life. I am a scruffy veggie hippie type, one of my colleagues is disabled, another lives with his mum and us obsessed by football, another is on her third marriage. It takes all sorts. I guess that's a long-winded way of saying don't write off all "professionals" as a homogenous mass if people who you won't have common ground with.

Western it's only been my experience, both of dating sites and rl. I don't know how many 'professional' men there are on sites - but in 4 years I've only managed to date 2 in total! That's really not because I've ruled out men based on occupation alone, but I would hazaard a guess that the number of men with non-manual occupations who message me is a tiny fraction of the total - maybe 5%. I have tried seeking out different sorts of men - I spent a few weeks sending messages specifically to architects, lecturers etc etc - I think I got one reply. If I'd messaged 10 builders, I'd get a reply from 9. I know my market

bootleg jeans aren't fashionable??????

and my other contribution:

if anyone takes St John's Wort - be careful I think it blocks the effects of the pill?

AND. Snape - you rock. I want to date you. But i'm female. And in a happy relationship. Bah

Sponge, hmmmm. I don't know quite what advice there is. I have the same but the opposite way. I had a privileged upbringing, grandparents had horses, riding school, lakes. Boats... ' county posh' etiquette lessons etc. Etc... Apparently I ' speak posh' as I was told last week...
And now I'm a skint single mother. The two things are at odds with each other.. ' posh' men don't want me Because I'm a skint single mother, but I find it hard to find enough common ground ( or. Enough to be In a relationship with)with anyone else...

Ywk is moving tomorrow, I'm currently getting text.updates every few mins about how awful his gf is.... :(

Ive Been chatting to someone on pof through my hidden Profile... Seems really nice, is a teacher with long hair and a beard and a guitar :)

Suffolk.

Phew knew I was being paranoid but I know he is on dating sites and I do worry about some poor woman being suckered in by him.

Though he is northern....

No don't worry, definitely not the same one. Hope he turns out to be lovely and sorry for probably giving you a scare

LOL. It's fine. Its just a few messages... Im not picking out engagement rings..
:)

Oooooh SexVet has been in contact on PoF. He is lush!!!! Maybe he can be my prof heh heh

Watch when are you seeing ykw?

I didn't have a typical working class upbringing - hence the whole posh, stuck up thing when I was at school. My dad was a bus driver's son who spent the 1950s and 60s hanging out in Knightsbridge casinos with millionaires, my mum in her 20s used to get her dresses made based on photos in French Vogue because stuff in shops wasn't current enough for her. They could mix with anyone, and did. It amazed them the posh boys at uni didn't all flock round me, and I think they would be bloody gutted (were they still alive now) that I've spent half the week crying over a sodding scaffolder who was a bit of a perv and gave me a particularly stupid pet name...

Oh interesting chat with SexVet!!! I like it! Not kinky fuckery talk but definitely suggestive . . .

Not that I am going to actually do anything but it's all good fun now I've actually rediscovered my dormant libido

Well then, give yourself a smack with a wet fish then :)

I don't know when I'm Seeing him.... I might not.... I have morals, even Seeing him as ' friends' isnt really right. Because we both know it's anything but.
Tbh I shouldn't be engaging with him, hes doing This ' my girlfriend is awful' thing, but wont leave till I promise and, you know what, it's stupid. Realky is and im not taken in by it..

WW it's great to hear that someone else is in a similar situation to me. It really is hard getting out and about without having the support network for the dc. Potential fwb is about 10 years older, has 2dc in their mid-teens that live with him. Not actually met yet, I like him in some pics but not so much in others so will see if there is something there when we meet (planned for tomorrow, just a quick daytime meeting)...oh and my libido is definately coming out of hiding too!

Good luck for tomorrow Tess and I hope there's something there when you meet. If there isn't, don't be afraid to just have a chat and walk away. I think maybe some of the upfront chat can put a bit of pressure into a situation that can be great if there's an attraction but bloody awful if there isn't, or it's only one-sided! There will be plenty of other men up for something similar . . .

Well Mr Normal has agreed to meet for a coffee. Think I'll wait till tomorrow to suggest a date and time, lest I spontaneously combust with shock. An hours chat with a like-minded adult is all I'm aiming for, so I'll stick to my boot cuts, & keep it simple.

I've totally fallen in love with this red spotty frock though, so will have to stay on pof just to give myself the excuse to purchase & wear it www.amazon.co.uk/CLASSY-POLKA-VINTAGE-1940s-FLARED/dp/B0064Z2ZN0/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1347569953&sr=8-1

In other news someone has messaged me with WISDOM tattooed across his shoulder blades - wot gives? I thought the baseball caps were bad?

Oh dear I think SexVet will have to go - far too rude far too quick! I need a bit of warming up and nice chat and stuff! Never mind . . . Have encouraged him without meaning to as he asked for a pic and I said "Maybe later" which crossed with a very rude suggestion he made in his next message so I think he thinks I'm asking him to do this stuff to me later and he's come over all unnecessary now and wants to phone. No no no!!! It's all going horribly wrong but very funny too!

Boc - I had a message from one with "Life's Too Short" tattooed on his arm . . . You'd never see the Beastie Boys with that kind of thing written on them. Standards are declining.

Closed down PoF, got myself in enough bother tonight!

Been invited to a party by a non-tattooed man - a party???? I'm not a bloody five-year-old!

WW Thanks for the luck, think i'm going to need it! You're right about all the chatting before meeting, i think he's kind of put me on a pedestal already. That's why i'm not to sure, think it might go one-sided from his side. Think i'd much rather go to a pub and meet somene like I did in the good old days lol
Shame about sexvet, silly men get overexcited too quickly!

far too rude far too quick!
usually means he's looking for something to help him jerk off..he thinks you're a free text wank service

Yes that was my feeling too. Closed down PoF and ran away! A bit of suggestive chat is fine but this was just plain rude (and not sexy at all) about five messages in. Will block him tomorrow if he starts up again.

Watch I don't know about seeing ykw. You might be better to steer well clear. That girlfriend line is soooo old. Sounds like one of those situations that can only come to grief.

I just noticed this in the active threads.

I'm sorry, but 'scared of peas'????? SERIOUSLY?

Yes indeedy. Such is the calibre of man I date

And even HE didn't want to see me again!

I drafted a text this evening to the man from Saturday, along the lines of him being a complete twatty bullshitter and I hope he didn't regret swearing on his families lives about the sincerity of his feelings for me. I won't send it of course, I've deleted his number, but it made me feel marginally better.