Honey traps leading to kinky fuckery and other dating adventures (No 21)

[KirstyWirsty]

I want to know what Nicholas's tip was ... and the last thread was full!

I'm not actually offended, texts were exchanged last night post date which got slightly heated (no photos though!). I honestly don't expect much to come of this even if I do see him again, he's a lot younger than me and still lives at home. But for me just getting beyond date 1 would be an achievement of herculean proportions!

sponge did you ask for pictures of his cock? ( I doubt this, i just felt the need to ask...)

I did get unsolicited pictures of the profs cock. As I accept it for 'just sex' that didnt bother me so much, I dont think I want a relationship with the prof, baring in mind my silly hand/heart PM nonsense.... but I do echo watch's advice. If you want to boff him, boff him. If you want a relationship, tell him off and see what his response is.

watch oh stuff him and his ice-cream of shit! that's horrible behaviour. I absolutely get what you mean about not wanting to send him back to recluse-ville and you are being very mindful of his long-term well being, even if he does act-the-cock. first class rail travel! cant buy you an ice-cream after you've cleaned yourself out buying lovely stuff for DD. the mind boggles!

ohWesternwind lovely that you had a fab date! :) shag him when you want. i honestly dont think there is any benefit in holding off - all these 4th date 5th date rules are really just there to confine women, make us appear less sexual, stick us in a teasy unobtainable pedestal. you want to fuck him? he wants to fuck you? Go fuck.

just got a text from the prof. :)

have not heard from PM.

Sponge, how disappointing. I really cannot understand why some men think a cock shot is appropriate or wanted.

Western, whenever feels right for you.

Watch, you're being very kind to MrL, something he doesn't deserve. Kudos.

Snape, good luck with the tattoo tomorrow.

snape - cleared myself out buying food for him. He also has food issues, and wont hardly eat anything, so i had to get special stuff just for him, which cost more ( he knew this) PLUS, while i was away at newmarket, my family went off to the shop, they asked, beign polite, if he wanted anything, and he gave them a long list of things, which came to another £8, which he then didnt pay, and i had to pay. He said he thought they were offering to buy him stuff - WTF.
So - if he cant be bothered to buy me an ice cream after coming away for three nights and eating for free for 4 days, then he can get stuffed.

BUT - i was very pleased with dd's bits. I never see second hand, nice bits like that. None of it looked like it had been worn either. AND, had i of had the money he owed me and said he was givng me friday, i woldnt have been short.

pm is sulking because he didnt want you to go out on a date, much as you would sulk if he did. You need to talk with him, you really do.

Sponge - hmmm, i know you have this second date thing, and i get that. BUT - you are NOT desperate, you arent. If you want sex, then have sex, but dont think for a second it will be anything more. If you want more, then dont do it, or not with him. ( id dump for the pleasure of being the one that gets to say no :) )

western - agreed with snape - rules are outdated, if you want to poke, poke. If its not the right time, its not the right time. Just do what you like and what you are comftable with.

watch sorry just saw the stuff re Mrl & the icecream. One thing I cant bear is meanness - or people being if not deliberately mean then 'thoughtless' where money is concerned. You are so well rid :)

snape no, I didn't ask him to send it. It won't be a relationship, I'd really like to see him again though. But not sure I will on any basis.

nicholas my experience of online dating is such that I've come to expect it now. in fact if a man doesn't send me a cock shot pre or post date I'm actually pleasantly surprised. I'm not sure what that says about them, or me.

Snape.

Whisky and Plan B.

Just wondering, does anyone on here like getting sent pictures of men's cocks? I'm surprised how popular it seems to be (with men). I'm honestly not really sure how to take it .

sponge - hes tight. not thoughtless, we have many times been round tescos express for thigns for OUR dinner, as in him and me, hes put things just for him in the basket, and then walked off when its time to pay. Leaving me to pay for not only the whole meal, but all his extras as well.
The first couple of times i didnt mind, its my house, im happy to host, but only if its recopriated, in a meal out, of offer to pay, or going halfs, i am not his mother, im a skint lone parent working part time, i cant afford to feed him. Add on the 20 mile round trips, to his, which he has never paid anything towards, and thats before we get to days out and stuff....
:(
sex hormones have a lot to answer for.

You are very right re sex hormones! I'm sure they are entirely responsible for my attraction to last night's date.

I think he might well be the same age as MrNot soL. And also still living at home. He's only had one 'proper' relationship which lasted a year.

I do like him a lot, but that will be the sex hormones talking :)

I kind of have a medical curiosity/comparison interest, but it's more from a point of view of fascination in the variances of the human body, rather than drooling at the sight of some chaps disembodied penis.

Plan B (whichis really plan A I guess) is to talk to PM on friday or saturday - if it's friday I need to get off of late coach with bleeding leg in clingfilm, text him to see if he's home; if he is, then invite myself over with a post-tattoo bottle of his favourite whisky and see where the whisky takes us. if it's saturday, it will be in the jacuzzi. I will not bring up the subject, eventually he will (like when you're a kid and you've got a wobbly tooth and its really sore, but you cant resist making it bleed ) so he will ask, 'so how did it go' and I will reply, 'it went OK. he's very handsome, kind, attentive, accomplished & funny. Although money doesnt really matter to me, he's very, very rich. He thinks i'm beautiful, he laughs at my jokes. I'd rather be here.'

[head+desk=thump!]

Tight and selfish watch you're going to be well rid of him

Lovingfreedom I mentioned the cock shots from POF on a Facebook thread and the blokes wondered if there was a site where women would send photos of their bits to men .. so my thinking is that they would like it from women so why would women not like it from men ... ??

sponge to go on one date and then get photos of genitalia that you hadn't actually seen in person is totally bizarre to me (but then I haven't signed up for OD yet) maybe you should tick him off and hopefully he will reign it in as snape's prof did

Sex hormones have a lot to answer for

we had a facebook group - didnt we? where we shared our unsolicited cock-pics. cant remember what it was called (it's been a while...) (off to check)

I've just remembered something else about last nights date.

We were talking football, and got onto the topic of football shirts etc. DS1 has just bought one with his birthday money, but no name on it, because at 14 he thinks thats 'a bit sad'.

Date said 'oh yes, I need to get the new one. I normally get my name on the back of it, but I'm thinking now maybe I'm too old for that?' hmm]

He is so not someone I could have a relationship with. Even if I do like him and he does make me laugh bloody sex hormones

lol KW - Hi!!!. Yes, I thought that might be it. I know that men appreciate pics of women and their 'bits'...I was just wondering if some women feel the same about men and actually think 'great - a picture!!'. I got one when I was in a queue at the airport for the first early morning flight and I thought 'what's that...erm....oh I see...erm...blimey'.

Snape I like the thought of your bizarre catalogue of curiosities! Made me wish I'd kept a scrapbook.

Re unsolicited pics, I haven't had any but I do weed out those sorts of things by saying at the first suggestive text that I am not up for that with someone I haven't met yet. Been there, done that, and it makes me feel like an extension of a porn mag. It can be fun for sure, but it isn't what I am looking for.

I've got a first date this afternoon - coffee at costa. Got to go out anyway to pick up school uniform so might as well. Really so much less bothered by these dates than I was. When I went on my first, first date I'd practically picked out my wedding dress.

I've got a date at lunchtime for coffee - but it's with Longingfreedom

lovingfreedom rather!

lol!!! I'll share some of these pics if you ask me nicely, KW

Enjoy your lunchtimes coffees :)

Another thing about last night's date. He doesn't eat any vegetables other than potatoes and cucumber. And despite being 8 inches taller than me his hands are only slightly bigger than mine.

sex hormones

i would type [wetfish] but i think it has a slightly different, slighty misogynist connotation when taken in the context of [sexhormones]

Watch it strikes me that your mr-not-so-lovely is a variety of cock lodger.

Granted he's not actually lodging with you but still he's manoeuvred you into paying for him in return for sexual favours

unsolicited cock pics make me feel queasy and very inclined to drop the sender like a hot brick!

text from PM. am I going to gym tonight as he's no longer going out (hoorah! NO DATES FOR PM!!)

watch I am astounded at his behaviour! It's not onlytight (which I hate), it's also rude and horribly bad manners (which I hate more).

I'm sorry for him and all, he seems a bit socially inept and I'm sure he's nice, but you're not there to fund his lifestyle! Fuck me.