Honey traps leading to kinky fuckery and other dating adventures (No 21)

[KirstyWirsty]

I want to know what Nicholas's tip was ... and the last thread was full!

I'm always wary about Internet dating sites just as much as the next person.

Since moving to the big smoke 18 months ago due to my job relocation (Government) itself quite often reflects many different female profiles via the web, I've made quite a few friends, some closer than others.

I'm always open to ideas, suggestions to improve ones social life & even better still relationship status although seeing as getting all the hard work chatting online supposed to make meets easier.

Is primarily stating "seeking friends" a mislead in others eyes?

PM me if anyone has female advice

Yoga, there kind of isn't any point sponge texting him, if he had wanted to be out with her today, nothing, and I repeat, nothing, would stop him, not 2 hours sleep nor a pack of lions.

They are the cold hard facts, as much as we don't like it, It's true. Which is why sponge knew when She hadn't heard from him first thing, that she wasn't going to.

Giving internet men the benefit of the doubt after only one date, is not going to be good for the woman...

I did text him at 10.30 to say I hope he got home safely, etc. I was actually a bit worried about him. What a fool I am!

My predictions in order of likelihood are:

50% I'll never hear from him again

49.99 % I'll get a text in an hour or so saying he's just woken up/feels ill/whatever and sorry he cant make lunch, will text me etc. and THEN I'll never hear from him again

0.01% I will hear from him, he's just overslept and is coming over.

Tbh with the 'concerns' over asthma and needing an inhaler I would be looking to make sure he had actually got in safely IYSWIM.

Bit then I haven't actually.got anywhere with OD yet.to develop the cynicism.

I Think you are about right there sponge. Shit as it is.

Especially so as you Text him hours ago and he Didnt reply Yet. Can you see when he last logged on. Online?

Yes, but that's kind of like me waiting outside a restaurant for 40 minutes for catweazle & then worrying that he might have passed out in the cubicle. We're nice people, we've been brought up properly, if he doesn't contact sponge, it's not because he didn't get to his inhaler in time and has been hospitalised, it's because he's a flaming knob.

Lol
Indeed.

:)

When you online date, any assumptions about general behavior, decency, poiletness and manners need to go out the window.

It's shocking how some/ many people behave.

He hasn't been online today. Yet. Which is something.

We were discussing last night - just as he was leaving - where to go for lunch today, and him saying how he only had £x til he gets paid tomorrow, and me saying that was more than enough to cover it (having first said we'll go halves which he wouldnt hear of)...HONESTLY what was the point in talking about all that as he was on his way home? If he had no intention of seeing me again?

This stuff makes my head spin :(

Snape thank you so much for the offer of coffee btw, we should definitely do that next weekend, hopefully by which time I will have reached the bottom of the abyss of despair and be on the way back up again... :)

And there are too many flaming knobs around!

I like your predictions Sponge, they can be applied to lots of situations.

He isn't in hospital....

Yes we are nice people and we are up against it. Im in the cynical gang. Thing is when you don't believe anything they write or say it

Fuck knows sponge, it makes no sense at all, I've had the same happen... Sure most of us have.

Logically its just nuts.

I can get him agreeing to lunch per se and then doing this, but not going into all the discussion about it - where we'd go, how much it was - and this wasnt in the expectation of getting anywhere, he was on his way.

I really am giving up on it all this time, I cant deal with any more of these weird twats with hidden agendas.

Just got back from last night

And????

Thing is, Sponge, they often mean it at the time. Which is why it sounds genuine. It's not a hidden agenda so much as basic immaturity. I realised pretty quickly that what seems like a good date can feel very different the next morning, but some of them get caught up in the moment and go "yeah yeah, we'll do this"

I'd actually be wary of that kind of response now. You need time for it to sink in and process it.

ohwesternwind!!!. Details! All of them! :-)

Chatting with the prof... Meh.

So, he text 5 mins ago to say he's just woke up and feels like shit....

Bloody brilliant! Romantic and sexy and just plain nice. He wasn't at all pushy, wanted me to be comfortable with everything, did some really good talking too. The more I see him, the more I like him.

All my stupid worrying about clothes/saggy bits etc was a total waste of time. Think he was quite impressed (ha!) which has done wonders for my self confidence.

sponge. But he has texted, let's just see what happens next despite the fact we've been calling him a fuckmuppet for the last few hours

ohwestern. . Excellent! :)

well I replied...and nothing.

we'll see I guess.

Meh x infinity.

He IS a fuckmuppet until he definitively proves himself otherwise.
[harsh]

something a bit scary has just occurred to me.

When I met the evil Ex, he was 34, with a teenage DC, living at home with his mum, and driving a slightly flashy car (which was basically his only asset)

Man from last night is 34, also has a teenage DC, also lives with his mum and has a flashier car (and likewise).

He's the same height as the evil Ex as well

AND he did the thing about my house.

The one thing I hate. The Ex's favourite comment too.

Why do I want a house this big?/what do I need 5 bedrooms for?

I am really not sure why I am bothered about seeing him again. I suspect tis the work of stupid sex hormones...

Forgetting the ex, unless he's just split, living with mum would be a no to me. Particularly with the flash car.
Shows where his priorities are.

Other than that, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt about today, but would leave tha ball in his court.

Sponge
Run.
For.
The.
Hills.

MadameO

There are (fairly valid) reasons for him to live at home tbf, none of which applied to my Ex, although the similarity between them (they also support the same football team and have a weird thing about cold drinks...) is a bit spooky.

I was annoyed about the comment about my house, but at least he didn't say the other thing that really gets my goat 'wouldn't you be happy in a smaller house that was finished?' ....