Honey traps leading to kinky fuckery and other dating adventures (No 21)

[KirstyWirsty]

I want to know what Nicholas's tip was ... and the last thread was full!

Thanks, MO.

I was shocked indeed.
Are you going to reply? :o

Madamo, I need to see this, pm me please :)

Madame O - PM me too please!

Kirsty and Watch - PM'ed you.

I have replied saying that I don't think we are compatible and citing differences in libido. This should have the desired effect. Not the answer I wanted to give, which was delete and block, but I was daft enough to send links to my music. Wont be doing THAT in a hurry (slaps self)

Tbh I wouldn't have even bothered replying!!

:)

Fwiw, and tell me to shut up if I'm wrong, but it seems from his message you might have been discussing very personnal stuff and past relationships. You don't have to tell people this stuff, in fact there is a huge argument why It's not in anyones best interests to do so.....

You are absolutely right watch
Lightbulb moment there. I am cringing now.
Lesson learned.

Just that It opens up all your vunerabilities to people you know nothing about, or what kind of person they are.( there are some men who take great pleasure in vunerable women) They are essentially total strangers.......
Don't tell them anything you woyidnt tell your local newsagent :)

watch again you are quite right. Just because I now have a first-class twat-radar does not mean I can be as open as I used to be. I need to learn to be more guarded with everyone.
[Facepalm]

So..

1. I have stopped flirting with the American soldier
2. Told the Irish musician it's not happening
3. About to text Mr Stax and cancel Sunday cause have decided I'm really not interested and cant be bothered to make the effort for nothing

and...

1. Asked Coffee Man if he wants to meet for coffee (what else!)

Madam, yep. It's a shame as It's nice to be able to take people at face value. But internet dating seems to bring out the worst in people, so, It's best to keep your stuff to yourself.

Ive now cancelled my okc too.
So........ Just going to go with rl stuff. Driving home yesterday with new Swishy hair was checked out a few times. One road worker guy signalled for me to pull over... I didn't, because I was bursting for a wee!!!

Ywk still in daily contact..... He moves on the 21 of this month. Still in shock he's going to be so close....

Hi, sorry to barge into this thread. I am a long-time lurker.
Can I ask the experts ... have been on OKC and had three dates with one man (plus some snogging).
I don't want to turn into desperate teenager or jaded serial ODer. So what's the etiquette re messaging each other?
Both have DCs and this weekend and next week is out in terms of meeting. Have messaged back and forth via the site (I do have his no too) and never sure whether should leave conversations open-ended and when to reply ie instantly or later same day, next day.
Am busy at work at the mo and definitely in the dancing around each other phase. Feel like I'm 15 again and not sure re shark/player/nice guy/quick shag.
MadameO knows I've reason to be extra wary!

Stru, only advice is its meant to be easy, and fun :)

I really woyidnt worry about when you should reply etc. Just be yourself, else how else is he going to get to know you?
:)

Hello Struwelpeter

I message if I feel like it tbh, if I feel I should be playing it cool I instantly wonder why. One thing I have realised is that you don't have to reply straight away. A lot of mine don't message till the following day and on busy days I realise why!

If they are funny/interesting and make me want to reply straight away then I do. As long as you dont give away too much (like me, sigh) then blather on as much as you like.

One thing I've stopped doing is saying things like "If that's ok" or "Is that ok" I just suggest something and say "Let me know". The way I see it, they are having to prove themselves to me, not the other way round.

Their true characters will pop up sooner or later. Actually thinking about it watch there was actually method in my madness. I find getting a little personal is a great way to suss out their true characters. But it's no good in terms of personal safety, so am going to have to think of a different way to draw them out.

Tks. The easy bit so far has been going on dates that were one offs with people with whom there was no spark ... a nice evening out, a chat.
Love reading about all your dating adventures

Just chatting usually does, they tend to reveal themselves as Muppets on their own accord. Give them enough rope And all that.

I was chatting to obe a few days ago, nice, normal chat. Nhs manager. Then he Asked for my number, which I declined saying I don't give my number out ( I do, but wasn't sure about him at that point) we chatted some more, few Days later gave him my number. 25 missed calls later and a series of texts about him not wanting to appear needy and Jealous..... Yeah. Didny even send one Text. Loser met rope and did it himself :)

Hah. Guess that's a good idea. It's all a learning process isn't it?

It really is

Hi Stru - it is definitely a learning process! So far I've found I can tell pretty quickly if there's chemistry or not. The couple of times where the chemistry has been good we've had lots of contact/texting/messaging and I'm usually pretty quick to reply. Also, with these ones, once we've met & I know I want to see them again I usually switch to text or email rather than continually having to log onto a website. And if the chemistry isn't there then, well doesn't really matter does it?

good luck x

Oh dear! Got a really nice, friendly, chatty message on OKC last week from a guy who had a good profile but (sorry, shallow I know) fell into the 'fat, balding, no way I could snog you' category. So I sent him a very brief reply and left it at that. He wrote back again and I ignored him cause didn't want to lead him on. So I've just gotten another message saying "Oh well, thanks for contacting me anyway, I was beginning to wonder if there was anyone on OKCupid." Talk about guilt!

watch. Your hair is AWESOME. AWESOMEHAIR!

stru. Hello! Welcome, not a 'barge' at all. :-)

yoga. It's only guilt if you let yourself feel guilty. Alright he's all passive/aggressive, but get a grip spud-boy.

Home from quick drinks with my lovely colleague who left today, it's been an absolute joy working with her for the last year, :). She was treated to a prof vs. PM run down & gives exceptionally good advice re: do not let him stick his foot in your foof. New dress arrived and it's. Bit 'hot damn Christina hendricks' so all is relatively well in the snapespeare.

Hi Snape! So was "do not let him stick his foot in your foof" meant literally? Actually, nevermind, I really don't want to know!

So should I reply with those exact words - "get a grip spud-boy"?

Looks like I may have a date with Coffee Man which makes me happy

I'm happy about coffee man.

Yes TMI, but, eww. I think it's all a bit of bravado, but it's a bit of a red-flag indicator. Had really sweet texts from the prof today, little filth, we were talking about patriarchal views of single parents. That does it for me a bit. It's the smart-thing.

I like/ get the smart thing. Its ywk's biggest selling point. Never have I found anyone who makes all my synaps's crackle and fizz.

A foot in the foof will never go. Plus it's hot. Sweaty, Athletes foot.... Urgh.
And dress looks fab and boobtastic

I do have awesome hair :) thank you.

Yogagirl- yep, send that message. Ignore the passive aggressive fuckers.

Feet just strike me as rather unhygienic. Eww.

PM 'liked' the dress-pic on fb. I think this is predominately because I got an eBay bargain, not because of any associated hotness. :-(.

Yep, the smart thing was a big part of the attraction of overweight, balding, much-older ex. Also the illusion that he was a loving husband and father who had been cruelly rejected. Buuuuut that's another story.