Honey traps leading to kinky fuckery and other dating adventures (No 21)

[KirstyWirsty]

I want to know what Nicholas's tip was ... and the last thread was full!

I'm really loving my current relationship. With the distance thing it's kind of like FWB but with some nice, personal stuff, feelings and sweet things. But a whole fucktonne of space too. I think what I like is keeping my household single and keeping my DD out of it. I was thinking about it the other day and realised I really don't want this status quo to change for a looooong time yet.

Remind me of this if I start moaning when I can't see him much this month - we spent loads of august together as things were pretty quiet for us both, but sept is a different matter! I am not bothered at the moment though because i'm still knackered from august.

Time it's nowhere near winter yet - autumn always ends up being annoyingly warm and lovely go and get laid woman!

I've bought slipper boots, snuggle tops and cosy PJ's Lubey, I cannot wait for winter!! Candles, lamps and curtains closed, legs and lady garden all unshaved, snuggled on the sofa with DD, watching crap TV. My idea of heaven! BUT, if the chance came to get laid before the clocks go back I would take it, just to have slept with someone other than The Ex!

im not even sure i would take the chance, but then ive just had alot of sex for 3 months. so......

ill be getting some new pjs, fleece, probably with dog prints or something on. I have my leopard print slanket, lots of aa batteries and some malteasers and a new job with a nice discount, essentially thats all thats needed

doubtless men are just as ambivalent about trading freedom/me-time for sex/intimacy...I guess it explains some of the shifting between seeming keen and then backing off :)

It's just that first shag after The EX, you know? I've not had it yet. It's one of those things I would like to do before I die.

I've got a couple of new all in ones and I'm stupidly excited about wearing them See, when you have a bloke all that kind of stuff goes out of the window, compromise and accommodating men gets in the way of contentment and personal happiness!

Yes, yes, I totally agree mercury. I was thinking exactly that about the vanishers. They have a date and then decide a relationship isn't what they really want so don't bother with a second one.

I will have to start buying cosy things soon. Probably not til october though - 26c here the first two days of october last year, it was mad.

That's 26c btw not -26c. Just realised what it might have looked like!

I agree about vanishers too. i think there's a whole host of reasons along those lines

OCTOBER!! The shops will have sold out of all the best stuff by then Lubey! Not sure what the temp is here today but there is a definite chill in the air. I love Autumn/Winter I do

When I come out of hibernation I might try a new profile, one that suggests companionship with a bit of sex thrown in rather than a relationsip, the odd day out with no strings attached, all that kind of stuff, see if that appeals to any nice men.

Nahhh I didn't get anything winterish til oct last year, I'm sure. It will be fine. It will have to be anyway, because due to various things and yet another tax credit fuck up, I have about £1500 of stuff to pay out for, and about £180 to do it with. So yeah, that's gonna be fun

And yes it was like this last year, everyone was resigned to it being cold permanently by the end of august, then sept and oct were completely gorgeous!

Yes, I remember last year. It suddenly hotted up again when the kids were back at school.

Sorry to hear about the money fuck up Lubey. Is there any chance of them sorting it before you need to shell out for cosy stuff?

I have no idea, still can't get through on the phone, it just cuts me off repeatedly, and they are ignoring my letters. Joyous joy. Going to get my MP involved tomorrow, had enough of this now.

perhaps the problem is not so much not knowing what you want, more one of wanting things which are not conflicting, ie closeness and personal space.

All my profiles are in this vein:
one that suggests companionship with a bit of sex thrown in rather than a relationship
mostly men read that as 'I'll be able to shag her when it suits me and ignore her the rest of the time'

time , you made me laugh at the ' id like to shag before i die'. :)
you are so funny.

lubey - sorry about the money, i know how it feels, im always skint, but happy.

it was hot last year. for the first time ever i had a bbq party for my birthday :) AND this year i feel ok about being a year older, i always have massive wobbles about it, and hate it, but i feel good about it, which is weird.

That's disgusting! Yes, get your MP involved, that usually makes them spring into action. Though you shouldn't have to.

I'm glad I make you laugh Watch I am funny in real life too, I love a laugh.

How old will you be this year Watch? I will be 48 in November, and I don't mind getting older at all. Me and DD are planning a nice tea. And for my 50th I might take me and DD away for a weekend somewhere. We are planning that too

i know you are funny. please move closer to me!!

ill be 34. My instant reaction is URGH, but then a second later im ok with it. I properly had this aging issue since about 25, so its a new thing to be ok with it.
my family and i are going to race segways OFFROAD and then have a picnic. Couldnt want for much else really.
:)

I would LOVE to move closer to you!

34 is a great age. You are old enough to be taken seriously and young enough to enjoy yourself. I am loving being old enough that people take me seriously and being confident enough not to care whether they do or not. I love not caring what people think of me. Your birthday sounds fab!! It's usually raining on my birthday so we tend not to do so much but I'm happy with that

yeah, it is kind of that age. I like it. I think i like me more now that i have ever done :)

It will be a good birthday, cant wait. AND - im seeing tim michin next weekend which is some sort of early birthday present to myself :)

That's great Watch, I feel exactly the same about myself but it's taken me a lot longer than you. I'm glad you have got there while you are still in your prime

That's a good self birthday present too!

Ooh watch, enjoy Tim Minchin, he's fab!

My birthday's coming up in October (41 this year) and I just keep thinking - fucking hell, what a difference a year makes! Last year this time my now-ex H was making the most elaborate plans for my 40th (he was always good at spending money on the "right" things). My friends oohed and aahhed at how amazing they thought he was. I was happy and excited and didn't mind the big birthday. A month later he was in the midst of a full blown affair and lying to me at every opportunity. Two months after that I'd kicked him out and he was telling me how miserable I'd been making him for years.

And now I just keep thinking how far I've come since then. I'm not quite back on my feet yet (at least financially) but I'm actually feeling stronger and more positive than i have for years. So fuck him. I don't need elaborate expensive presents, I just need to be surrounded by people I love.

That's great Yoga I'm 2 and a half years down the line from leaving and I am finally feeling totally free, really over it. There was a time when I never thought I would see this day, but it's here, and it's fab My ex was like yours, full of grand gestures, but it was all for show. He took me to a very expensive hotel in Scotland for my 40th, called at Gretna Green and posed over the anvil for a photo, all fake and for appearances sake. And he bought me diamond earrings too. Thing is, he never got me anything I liked or wanted, it was always what he liked. And you are right, you don't need it. I sold all the jewellery he ever bought me to buy my carpets, and they mean more to me than the gold ever did.

Lol Time I'd love a new carpet! (yoga goes off to see if she can find that diamond necklace shoved at the back of her wardrobe...)