Honey traps leading to kinky fuckery and other dating adventures (No 21)

[KirstyWirsty]

I want to know what Nicholas's tip was ... and the last thread was full!

yoga - lots of the younger ones have a thing about ' older' women. Bit of a fantasy, if you arent interested, just ignore, its most likely he just wants to tick it off on his list :)

Ive not heard from mr not so l all weekend, now, bearing in mind last i told him was i was feeling ill, but for him to have fun at his event, thats pretty shit of him. Im going to dump him today or tomorrow, i was going to lie and say it was me, i have a lot going on and not the time nor emotional capacity to be in any relationship right now. BUT, im now considering telling him its obvious by his lack of contact that he gives not two shits about me, and i deserve better.

Mr cheese sent a message last night. TBH im not convinced i can be arsed to date anyone at all :)
I had a lovely evening, by myself, in my pjs at 6pm, roasted pepper and feta foccacia, fuck ton of cheese, some wine, tv. slanket. Lovely :) I havent done that in about 3 months....

Scatty
'It's because I think they all want me to commit to have sex with them before I meet them so I'm really guarded.'
dont just be guarded with those types, ignore them, they're just ignorant chancers looking for a one off quickie.

Dont even bother!

actually, i cant be arsed.
:)
he was talking about how he likes playing practical jokes on his team at work, filling ones umbrella with hole punch bits and other things, and how it was important they all thought he was funny, i asked him if he thought he was david brent....

AND - he was most keen about dressing up in fancy dress for some work thing. Theme was school disco, he was going to go as a school girl, Skirt, knee high socks. URGH. Sorry, hes mid 30's. Dressing up is my idea of hell, a man who find it highly amusing isnt my type. I think i was suposed to find it hysterical.

AND he had an i phone, i said andoid was bettter, and he said android was for poor people.

Bollocks, hes not getting a second date :)

he said android was for poor people
thats an appalling thing to come out with..makes him sound horribly smug & superior

Watch Bleurghhhhhh. I'd actually block him.
Well I am thoroughly bored with OD. It's really becoming apparent that it's not for me. I know it's not been five minutes since I started but already very bored of all the potatoes, receding hairlines, shortarses and people who would like to meet "a lady who..."
Also seeing an excess of thirty-six years old in "middle-management" who look about ten years older than they are! What's that about?
I'm pretty sure I know what a potato is but I'm feeling bitchy this morning so please tell me your interpretation of "potato"

Was out last night with old friends and it was lovely. Married platonic friend was also out and we met up. More loveliness. I quite like his friend and told MPF to let me know if he was single. Bu for now, if this is life without a bloke I'm quite happy aside from bitching about lack of good specimens
Off to look at your tat now Snape

And he was going as a school girl?????

Regarding the other stuff, it's alto the type of man I try to avoid.

dumped and deleted from FB
:)

( text read - unfortunatley for you, i want to be with someone who gives two shits about me. Your silence since i have been ill and you arent getting laid has said it all. I think it best if we leave things, dont contact me again )

I am FREEEEEEEEE!!!

My internet, tv and phone service went bust yesterday afternoon, but lovely tall, young, handsome and dark technician came by this morning and all is sorted.

Now, that's a really good way of meeting new men.

So, off to catch up with the rest of the thread.

Watch - Yaaaaayyyyy! Well done!
Enjoy your freedom and knowing you're making space for someone much, much better.

yes, he was going as a school girl, was going to wax his legs and everything. I think i was meant to find it hysterical and think he was ' out there and wacky' - i just think hes a knob cheese

and his face looked a bit like a squirel.

:)

madam o - online dating is shocking, it really is. Ive just cancelled my POF after it being up for a few days, i cant be fucked. Ill leave okc, but again, cant be bothered. Going to have myself a nice long break i think :)
I might put in some kind of rl action plan, maybe. if the lure of the sofa and slanket arent too strong :)

Potato is as potato does. For me its bald headed, or shaved head, over weight ( and im chubby, i have nothing aganist fatter people) football shirt, pics with a car, interested in football, beer, thinks xfactor is good tv... that kind of thing. BUT - i should think ' potato' covers different things for differnent people.

and i dont even know if i want to make space for someone else. This last week i have been very pleased not to have my time with DD invaded by someone else. Its been very very nice just to be us. ( even though he had only met dd a few times, i was seeing him and it sort of squashed all my free time up, if that makes any sense) Ive realised i do really like being single, actually.
:)

Yep, that's how I interpret a potato too.
I wish I hadn't signed up to not one but TWO effing dating sites. I wonder if I can have a word with my credit card provider...

watch. Freedom! Tastes good, huh?!

Mr cheese sounds vile. Ugh.

fuck yes.
:)

it really does. I feel a whole lot better. Really.
:)

and excited.
and i like feeling excited.
its exciting
:)

Mr knobcheese was a bit vile. ish. Pretending to be nice, under a david brent, trying too hard, ' look at me, im wacking' type way.

and he doesnt drive, i mean, really, WTF is it with ' men' in their 30's who dont drive, COME ON PEOPLE!! get some damn independence.

( no offence to anyone on here who doesnt drive, or doesnt currently have a vehicle, but i just find it shocking, the sheer number of men, who dont drive. I london, yeah, i understand it, but here....!! the mind boggles. )

I really cant be fucked.

haha, mr l has replied
' i do care and did offer to come round, you said no, you didnt feel up to it. ( incidentally, he would have been coming round at 10pm) so i thought i would give you some time. I didnt know what was going on, so left you to it. I did ask how you were on friday. I understand how it might look to you though.

bollocks, not even replying. esp so since it was a bit of a ruse.

Interesting: I have a friend request on FB from a guy I don't know, about my age.
I suppose FB can be used as an OD site.

Obviously, I won't reply...

And I know exactly what you mean, Watch.

It was nice having Mr K around the other weekend, but it did feel good to have the house to myself. and MN and midnight snacks

Mr was-L doesn't understand the 'don't contact me again' bit does he.

Ooh here's a good one! "Hi hows u I think I love you!" Ha Ha

Still thinking I might actually tell the 25 yo to go play with someone his own age. Just for my own enjoyment.

watch you sound well rid of MrL and Cheeseman! well done u.

Madame O: For me a potato is sweaty looking male or one with obvious bad teeth. By that I mean not looked after. Teeth imperfections are ok. Also, for me it one of those specimens on pof who are posing on snow boards, on top of mountains and in hanging off ledges. For some reason that doesn't do it for me. At all. Arrogance equals potato.
Yes....I get a lot of 'I want a lady who.......'. It's irksome, tiresome and not necessary.

Watch; I get you. OD makes my heart sink not soar and that's not good.
My ex was one for always trying to be the life and should of the party, dressing up and I'm not into that. I'm much more introverted. I don't want to spend too much time taking about other peoples antics either. I think at some point your brain gets saturated with the silly nonsense of it all.

I want to tell my friend who I saw on friday that he is unkind. Kindness is very important to me. By that I mean empathy and politeness. I always knew he was self absorbed but didn't realise he was unkind. On Friday he told me he was sitting outside a pub and a very good looking woman asked if she could take the chair. He told her she could take the chair but wasn't hot enough to sit in the chair next to him. I was so annoyed. He then went on a blind date and asked the girl if she had her clothes made for her and commented on the size of her bum. I really don't want to have contact with him again and even though he is a friend only Im going to say something.

Snape. Are you happy with your fab new tattoo? It goes through my mind to have one now and again.

Don't leave the thread watch even if you join a convent!

Scatty Sorry but your "friend" is a dick and doesn't deserve you, or anyone! His comments were sexist, arrogant and pig-headedly smug.
I wouldn't bother explaining if you want to dump him. Someone that self-absorbed would be too thick-skinned. I would find it frustrating and hurtful not to have my comments acknowledged (obv I am speculating here what his response would be) but if you'd appreciate just getting it off your chest then go for it.

oh heck, im not leaving, what would i DO with my time if i wasnt complaing about how crap men are :)

Im not even introverted, i like being the centre of attention, im as extroverted as them come, just dressing up as something stupid for the sake of enforced fun does not not it for me. In fact there is something slightly depressing about it....

I would tell your friend. No friend of mine would be so rude, if they were they would not be friends anymore!

Anyway - im feeling all awesome. Ive had much stuff going on in rl. EXdh being one, had a fab kick arse solictors appt friday, so one empowerment there.
Something else which i cant say yet - slightly MASSIVE, but im getting there and should work in my favor despite it initially looking devestating. - so, another empowerment there
dumping mr not l - hurrah, another empowerment ( though have since recived begging text)
Realising i actually much prefer being single - another empowerment.

Hurrah - its all good. AND im going to roast lamb later. Frankly im living the high life....! hahaha.

That's all good Watch especially the roast lamb I am with you on the preferring to be single. I bloody love it! I do try to convince myself a relationship would be nice but I'm sure that once the initial excitement wore off I'd be longing for my single life back. Anyway, Winter is approaching, I don't so dating in Winter so I'm getting cosy on the sofa and will happily read the posts of all the daters Bloody Bliss!!

dating is not a winter activity.
I agree.

:)

I like being single. Like you time I try and convince myself a relationship is nice but then when I'm in one I want to be single again. I'm not even bothered about the sex tbh. What I'd like is an arrangement every couple of weeks and I like doing stuff like cycling and camping. I've some friends to go with but something more concrete would be better.
Watch, lamb sounds lovely. I love lamb.
I may just have to get stuff off my chest to friend. I'm prepared for him to not even acknowledge it.
Off for a roast myself....

I'm not bothered about the sex either Scatty, honestly, I've not had any for over three years and the longer I go without the less I'm bothered. I wouldn't mind the odd night out, in Spring/Summer, a hug and a kiss and all that, but I don't really want anything permanent, especially not a live in arrangement. Not yet anyway, I'm not ready for settling down

I've been single for 2 and half years now and I can't say I have missed having man or living with one at all, not ever.