Honey traps leading to kinky fuckery and other dating adventures (No 21)

[KirstyWirsty]

I want to know what Nicholas's tip was ... and the last thread was full!

What watch said. Word for word.

has anyone's cosmic order happened yet?? just wondering...

Checking in very quickly to wave, say I have an awesome new tattoo that is on my fb for those who have me there, but I'll chuck it on MN profile tomorrow when I'm off iPad. Lovely day, Cardiff was lovely, no real news re the PM-prof-snape love triangle, been texting them both today. Have decided PMs birthday present (mercifully not til october) will be a stetson (because Stetsons are cool & he gave DS2 his 'writing-hat' & I'll write out & illustrate some of his favourite poems/ Shakespeare.

& will catch up on you all tomrrow when my leg stops going 'ow!'

Cosmic order might have happened - ask me in six months!

Yep moving. Don't contact him. To give an example I have had

Man reappear and ask me if I'm free Wednesday. Said I was -nothing since.

Man ask me if he can phone me. Nothing since.

2 men aske if i can meet them next week. Nothing since.

And that is just one week!!

Ok well it's decided not going to message him!! Silly man hmm

I have a date tomorrow night.

moving i agree. :)

yoga yay! :) hope it goes brilliantly! #

anyone who might be interested there are now tattoo pics on my MN profile. :)

Re, tattoo - can I just say "OW" and "WOW"! Stunning. Can't wait for tonight!! I love Matt Smith but I'm still pining a little for David Tennant.

Just had a lovely text from Mr Stax saying he's looking forward to tomorrow but a bit nervous (which I find quite sweet). I"m definitely warming to him.

I'm having a bad day today. I miss my ex and feeling generally low. My ex wasn't for me, he was emotionally unavailable but I miss him as we did get on so well The last text I got from him ages ago says he has moved on so I need to as well. He has moved on much quicker than me Most of the time I'm ok but today not so.
Also, I stayed at my friends last night. He is a bit heartbroken about his ex dumping him so we chatted etc.
When we went out the place was teeming with very glamorous women. I don't fancy my friend in the slightest but I just felt inferior. One of the things he kept doing was looking around the room when I was talking to him. I hadn't noticed this before but suddenly it became very apparent....and annoying.
Also he never asks me about things I'm doing, what I'm up to. It's all about him and his relationships.
When I got up this morning I just felt like crying.
My life is full of good stuff: family, good friends, good social life, interests etc. I have a good job and I'm healthy so there is no real reason to feel so gloomy.
Do others have such days?

Oh scatty. I have a friend like that, he's gay so no question of any jittery-pokery, while I get that he'll look at fit men when we were out (& so would I) he is rather self-absorbed and always on about himself. See this friend infrequently, lovely because while you get on at a surface level, they can be draining. Concentrate on the good things, there are so many, spend time with people you love, try not to judge yourself against others, they might look ok, they don't necessarily have all the good things you have. :-)

Of course Scatty, all the time! Most days i can just get up and remind myself that my DCs are great, my life is moving forward, things will work out, I have great friends etc. And some days I just want to stay snuggled under the duvet and ignore the rest of the world and feel sorry for myself for a few hours. It's ok. Be nice to yourself today if you can. xxx

Hello all. I am feeling a little bored by the whole dating thing. I met a man for a first date on Wednesday and he is SO not over his ex-wife and spent the whole time talking about her and what happened. Dull. Needless to say, I won't be seeing him again. I sent him a message the next day to wish him luck (it was a nice message) and got a long message back agreeing he wasn't ready really and saying I had a lucky escape because he would have used me for sex. Nice. As if he would have got that far...l

The chap I had a second date with texts every day but hasn't suggested date number 3 and I don't know if I can be bothered. Anyone else feel like that?

thanks for posting up your tattoo pic Snape :)
your artist clearly has a talent for getting faces right!
back of calf (?) very 'ouch' :o

'and got a long message back agreeing he wasn't ready really and saying I had a lucky escape because he would have used me for sex. '
prob best to rise above it but I'm not sure I could let that go Llare the fact that he took the trouble to write a long message suggests ( I think ) that he is very bothered that you turned him down, or he's just needy and immature and cant help spilling his guts out everywhere.

Anyway I think I'd send something along the lines of 'use me for sex...yeah in your dreams'
and then TOTALLY ignore any further communication!

Hehe I think he is needy and immature. I can't respond as I have deleted his number and messages. So don't want to engage with that sort of talk!

scatty sorry to hear your feeling down, we do all get days like that. Try to do something enjoyable for yourself today of you can, weather that means eating lots of chocolate or going to the gym!! Hope you feel better soon (((hugs)))

llare I know how you feel. Can't even bring myself to do the online crap anymore, and I thought meeting the next door neighbour guy would be better then online dating but we are not even getting to the dating stage!! well it can be too much like hard work sometimes! Better to go out with our mates having fun I think!! Although that doesn't help with the lack of action

Thank you. Feeling a bit better. Meeting a friend for coffee in an hour and arranged to go to a festival and lunch tomorrow with closet friends.
I think the combination of just seeing the good times with my ex coupled with an evening with my friend which was 'empty' is the cause of my emotional quivver.
Llaregubb. Dating online is so hard. To me it's like wading through treacle. You made contact. You may or may not arrange to meet, he may disappear at any point. You have no idea what other conversations have gone on, what emotional incontinence he has or whether he actually has intentions of meeting. Then you meet and then it all starts again!!
Yes I get very disenchanted with it. You are 100% not alone.

Snape. Love the ink work. Very impressive.

Llare, well, he was right about one thing, you have had a lucky escape! I feel like I really can't be arsed with dating sometimes.

It was so much simpler when you went out, got drunk, snogged the guy you'd secretly fancied for weeks and that was it, you were boyfriend and girlfriend. To be honest, if there was anyone in my circle of friends I fancied, I'd probably be happier doing it like that now! As it is, I've been single over a year, and I know a grand total of 1 single man (apart from the ones I've had dates with from pof). I don't fancy him.

Snape, that's amazing. I've never seen anything like it. But ouch.

Scatty, chin up. You know your friend's just self absorbed because he's just been dumped. I bet those women weren't any more gorgeous than you, but if your mood wasn't 100% positive, you're always going to compare yourself less favourably.

I too have a date for tomorrow! Just coffee, so are jeans and a blouse ok, or do I need to wear a dress?

Jeans and a blouse is fine Fay, you're only meeting for coffee. Enjoy yourself!

Love the tatto Snape, it's bloody good.

ahem....snape, all well & good to distract us with the tattoo but I want to know what the plans are for the rest of the weekend? PM? Champagne? You know in hindsight you really should have gotten that tattoo somewhere you'd have to simply strip naked in order to show it to him.

fayster - I think jeans are fine, have fun! My date was supposed to be for coffee but seems we are meeting at a bar instead (I did say I was happy for him to choose). I don't do bars often but I'm thinking I might need to go one step up from jeans - black leggings & boots maybe?

Thanks, jeans and blouse it is!

Leggings and boots sound nice, but you will need something on top...is it a daytime date? Jeans would still be ok, i think. You have fun, too!