Honey traps leading to kinky fuckery and other dating adventures (No 21)

[KirstyWirsty]

I want to know what Nicholas's tip was ... and the last thread was full!

I will, thank you.

And you have fun on your date!!

Blimey snape - so the conversation is like this...?

PM - yeah, I think the cinema is great for a date, there are pheremones flying all over the place, and it's nice and dark.... PS. Want to go to the cinema?

LOL

Snapes just not getting it is she?

Or she is in deep denial!

I said aaaaaages ago that PM was interested. And was roundly ignored. :o

And I said yesterday that she should have a deadline of this weekend to declare her feelings...

Nicholas honey, with all due respect, we have all seen this situation for what it is for quite some time. You are merely a newbie. So don't come round here giving it large

Well you are all right!

Ok, so my head is all over the place and I need a little sense talked into me.

I've been chatting to Mr Tall for the last few days, he thinks I'm hot and I'm pretty sure there will be some sort of invite/date on offer by the end of the day. I've decided he's quite funny and sexy (and did I mention TALL!) and although he's been a perfect gentleman, I'm definitely getting some "sex is definitely on offer if you want it vibes". But, I'm really not sure I can be arsed with yet another one who lives an hour away even if there is the very real possibility of some very hot sex ...

Meanwhile, Mr Stax finally got back in touch - I emailed him this morning a slightly cheeky "So, am I not getting that coffee then? ;)" and replied to say he just realised my last 3 emails had gone into his spam folder (possible, right? ) and he's happy to set a date for next week. So far I've not been bowled over by him but there is some potential there and at least he lives in the same city as me.

So...seeing as I once again have the prospect of a local date, do I bother with Mr Tall?

Go for both of them

Yoga, it is possible, but how come this didn't?

Have you sent 3 emails without reply?

But go for both. :o

Lueji I sent two emails without reply earlier in the week. I then sent one this morning that he replied to almost straight away and I've just had another quite nice one to actually confirm plans. I'm kind of warming to him and willing to give him the benefit of the doubt for now I think. Anyway, it's only coffee, right?

Still can't decide whether to give Mr Tall the brush off..

I wouldn't brush off mr tall. This other guy seems flakey. You have no idea if It's going to lead anywhere, or even if the second date will happen.

yoga have a date with both before deciding if you should give either I then the brush off, it's better to have options!!

Hmm, really can't be bothered to drive 50 miles for someone I've never met but I could be pursuaded to give Mr Tall a chance if he does the travelling...

Could you meet halfway? I'm with the others, don't put all your eggs in one basket and all that...

The first one has let you down a bit imo.

Can I just add two words (purely as a side note).... Hot. Lawyer.

Ooh - need a suitably sarcastic & biting reply to 28 year who wants to know if I'm "doing anything wild this weekend"! (who, by the way, is 6'4" - seriously WTF is it with tall men & OKC?)

Ok next door neighbour still hasn't messaged me regarding out date, and look at the time!!!

Should I message him?

Considering the following:

I messaged him first, he replied about a month later and said he hadnt seen my message

When we did get in conversation he was very direct and asked me out, then said so its a date then?

We havnt spoke since!!!

Votes please... I need as many opinions as possible!!

I am wondering if I message him to confirm date if I will look:

A - confident and interested

B - desperate and bunny boiler

Help

Don't message him. He's wasting your time. Obviously that's only my opinion!

Was it supposed to be tonight or tomorrow?

Can you pop round about something neighbour-related, fence panel or something, and see if he says anything?

I wouldn't message him or ask him direct I don't think but go with your instincts.

We didn't say a day we just said this weekend!!

He isn't my next door neighbour, hes my sisters, so Jo I cant pop round about neighbourly things

Why do you think he is wasting my time?

I feel like if he really was interested he would have contacted me during the week sometime, even just for a little chit chat

He isn't interested..if he was he would have Been in.contact and you would have had a date by now..

Sorry.

So Why did he ask me out And come across as being very forward?

Not used to these games as usually I don't even like anyone!!

He Didnt actually set a date.though, did he. Hence you being in on a Friday not knowing whats going.on.

They key to alll this is to ignore the talk, don't analyze it, read stuff into it. It's actions that count.

Had he of wanted a date he would have taken you out or made firm, definate plans, because he wanted to see you.