I'm quite happy with a jar of Branstons

[LouP19]

Morning all.

Talking of Toast Toppers, he took 2 tins of that as well. Yes, really.

My pantry is now full of Heinz cheese ravioli and Tesco sausage and beans.

Wotcha... Glad you are having a better day. Still wishing for good things for you.

Just wanted to support Care Confidential as well. I have a friend who is one of their counsellors. Yes, it is Christian based and most people working for it want to see the number of abortions reduced, BUT my friend tells me that they do try to be unbiased, try to encourage the woman to see all their options, and (this is the bit that amazes and humbles me) that, if a woman has chosen to have an abortion and doesn't have anyone else to come and support her, she will go with her (obviously if the woman asks - they don't barge in!) and support her throughout the whole thing so that she knows that someone is there for her unconditionally. Give them a call - if you don't like them, put the phone down.

Anyway, that was an unlurking to say that I've been reading through but haven't had anything helpful to add other than best wishes for the days and weeks of decision making ahead. As easy as it is for me to say on the other side of a computer, just take each day as it comes.

Another one who likes the sound of your boss :)

Did the idiot get in touch with you about your appointment? I suppose not, he's all bluster it seems. At least now you know you can handle these things without him, as you keep proving time and time again.

Is your boss a racing fan by any chance? (just got back from York Races myself!)

Glad you are being supported. Hopefully Chutney has got the message that he is an irrelevance to you now.

At least he didn't turn up.

Well, after having a relatively calm day, I feel like I've lost it again.

Got back from work to find a gift bag shoved under the gate. Inside a very heavy gift box. I initially thought 'Oooh, may be a neighbour or friend has given me something'. Oh no no no! Inside the gift box was lots of expensive cat food, wrapped up in shredded tissue paper. Really! Oh, and my (notice the word 'my') Cee Lo Green CD. This was not wrapped in any box or tissue paper.

I'm very very sorry ladies, but I lost it. I was SO angry. So I walked in the house and called him on his mobile. First off it wasn't convenient because he was about to play cricket. Then he proceeded to discuss how he felt he'd been fair with his distribution of the CDs. His arrogance was so breathtaking I quickly hung up. Big mistake on my part I know, but his audacity is driving me up the wall.

He just won't leave me alone, will he? Fucking cat food wrapped in an expensive gift box and shredded tissue paper?!!!!!!!!

Sorry, gone off on one, but really?!! I've just sat and watched bedding on QVC for half an hour in a haze to calm down. And eaten some ravioli of course,.......

Did I marry the weirdest man on the planet?!

Delurking to cheer you, your GP and your boss. You all sound great. Oh, and your mum too.

Your ex can fuck off. His opinions are not relevant to you any more.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do, and excellent choice on the veggie sausages. I'm partial to cold spaghetti hoops straight out of the can when noone is looking. and I'm not even pregnant

In answer to your question, yes he is the most fuckng weird individual I have had the pleasure of not crossing paths with!

He has essentially "regifted" your CD to you! And what is the thinking behind the cat food?!

My word of the day covers this - NOBBER!

He doesn't bother to ask about the scan but he gives you gift-wrapped cat food???? Wtf??

You should have asked him about the box set DVDs he pinched if he's been so fair.......and the teaspoons, chutney, lampshades, Toast Toppers, etc. etc.

Does he think that giving the cat's expensive food will cancel out his nobbery?

Nobber.

I am so angry I could crush a grape!

Possibly not even on this planet, he's so weird!!!

He thought you rang to debate the finer points of his CD allocation policy?

That is, indeed, very, very weird.

Say it with cat food?

Stunning.

So he didn't want to know about the scan, or what you've decided about the baby? He just gave you cat food? It gets weirder and weirder.

He didn't even ask about your scan? It just shows how wrapped up in himself he is. If only you knew where he lived to give him beautifully wrapped used cat litter and divorce papers!
Hope you enjoyed your ravioli.

It makes me wonder what he'll send if you decide to have the baby.

A gender-stereotype-coloured bucket and sponge perhaps? (Rubbish at describing, I've had three glasses of wine)

Nobber.

Is this his nasty way of saying he is thinking more about the cats than you? .

He is at level 10 on the Wankometer that's for sure.

Hope he has a shite game of cricket too! Wanker.

Weird doesn't even start to cover it!

Expensively gift-wrapped cat food??

I wonder on what day, on which planet, did he sit pondering to himself, and suddenly come up with that fine idea? And how long must it have taken to actually do it?

Maybe by being kind to the cats,knowing how much you love them, he could be trying to worm himself back into your good books

Maybe the chutney will return.....gift wrapped!!!

He gets weirder and weirder.

Don't let him spoil your day. Your GP sounds lovely. :)

It's a little bit of escapism really, I think. Because you would expect that actually, he has more important things to worry about.

You should probably just take it as a further sign of how out of touch with reality he is.

OMG he is stunningly, bafflingly strange!

At least you were angry though. Cross and knocked off balance is not great, but it's a lot better than upset.

Lou, do you have a sweet tooth? I have discovered Sainsburys Salted Caramel and Belgian Chocolate ice cream, heaven in a carton and perfect when you need to chill out and watch QVC. Ignore Shit for Brains and his twattery, breathe deeply and relax.

I deeply regret calling him. Tomorrow it's the solicitors and then all contact through them hopefully. I know you've all said don't respond and you've all been right, but I feel he's goading me in very subtle ways and it's all about his control and his manipulation. I wish I'd just ignored it.

And yes he thought I was calling about the CD allocation policy. He said 'Is there any other outstanding CDs I owe you?'. I think that was the point I hung up. For God's sake, what is he on.

I need to repeat to myself 'I will not respond' over and over again.

It made me wonder if he came back to try and get more stuff, but realised he couldn't get in though,...