His mother should've swallowed

[LouP19]

Is this title too rude?!!!

I appreciate everyone warning caution. Trust me, I'm using this place to rant and rave and swear and all that,... at the moment I haven't done anything. And even if I do manage to locate him (with some first class help!) I might not necessarily do anything with that information just yet. But I would just like to know, that's all, instead of driving round looking for his car all the time,.... Just this knowledge will make me feel a bit more empowered.

All advice on here is very helpful - the calm, the practical, the hysterical, the funny, the 'been there done that', it's all amazing and I value all of it.

Ah houseofplain thank you. I must be dim because I knew Portofino was doubting & in my head I knew she was calling Lou a troll but I didn't put two and two together & get there by myself! So thank you!

Richtea, which threads have you seen porto bullying on? Come on! When a thread is dramatic people will have doubts, anmd porto is not a liar.

Btw, posters shouldn't send nasty pms. At least she was above board.

And mnhq's response is standard. Has nowt to do with whether doubts are founded or not.

Lou, I hope things look better in the morning.

lissie, is porto an MN friend of yours?

if so I understand your desire to defend her but honestly, her posts on this thread have been deplorable

Who's been sending nasty pms? I hope it hasn't been assumed that I have. I've done nothing of the sort. Perhaps Porto should stop posting to this thread as she has been requested to do by Lou & many others.

I haven't suggested she is bullying. I just think her comments & questioning are unfair,rude,unsupportive,unnecessary,unpleasant & uncalled for & that she should cease & desist.

People shouldn't post doubts mnhq have a strong troll hunting policy.

Their response isn't the same fwiw. If they have doubts, they say so and pull the thread. Justsayin

tuckingfits wtf would you think people assumed you had sent them?

Lissie - I don't think this thread is the place to discuss it, but I will answer your questions. And who mentioned 'bullying'? Only you have used that word, so please don't put words into people's mouths. Nobody has accused her of being a liar either - quite the opposite she clearly insinuated that Lou was one.

And nasty pm's?? Who has been sending those? Porto came on a thread last night saying she had received lots of pm's from people agreeing with her but were afraid to say on the thread

Oh seriously mnhq need to jump in here. Not more she said, he said shit stirring by suggesting dodgy pms.

None of you know who sent what. Dodgy pms? Report them. Take it of the thread. Stop the shit stirring on thread. Especially since MNHQ have warned you already.

Yup,in my short time here I have seen a thread pulled after a message from MNHQ revealing it as non-genuine & that thread would be deleted shortly.

Well she would, wouldn't she

Come on, pack it in. If you're not here to support then move along because you are not helping.

Why fill a thread with bulshit?

Lou

De-Lurking... been following for a while and you are so very strong.
I dont feel any need to offer advice as it is quite clear you are very sensible.

But I can categorically clear something up.

Portofino... NO hospital runs a 'Termination clinic' or 'Abortion clinic' just like they don't run a 'Clap Clinic' anymore... its the 21st century and we are a little more sensitive to people's feelings and circumstances. We dont put out a sign advertising that its a clinic for people wanting a termination nor do we shout 'Terminations this way' in waiting area. Some people might know that on such an afternoon its that sort of clinic but only if you have been in contact with the service or know someone who has - the majority of people don't know and its kept that way.
When Lou got an appointment letter it might have been called Gynae Clinic - that way if someone intercepts the letter it doesn't have 'ABORTION CLINIC' all over it. So it is ABSOLUTELY possible that Lou would not have known what the clinic specialised in - her GP put an objective, positive spin on his description of the clinic - that is all.

I think you can move on from this point now.

Lou - when i was reading earlier in the week I knew you had been referred to a clinic which prepared women for termination choices and I am so very sorry I didnt say anything. I didnt realise you didnt know - I work in the NHS (background includes Gynae clinic and midwifery) and to me the termination service is what you were describing though I never present it to patients in that way. However, the process is the same for all that go through the clinic - the service is streamlined so that hospital visits are minimised and so the process is less upsetting. Your story is a reminder that just because it's a member of staff's 'normal' and 'familiar' it does not mean that patient wont be surprised or shocked by the need for such a clinic or service.

Your GP was right to send you to that clinic because it does not mean that you have to have a termination following it but it's all sorted should you decide to. I wish the nurse and / or doctor dealing with you had been more sensitive to you and looked at your history. They are there to signpost, advise to an objective manner not assume you are there for a termination and that is that...

I echo what others have said about BPAS - they are what you looking for - the NHS has merely sorted the practicalities. I would DEFINITELY call your infertility nurse too.

I am so very sorry you were shocked and upset Lou... on the positive side - you know your pregnancy is at the moment viable and real, you have the option of a termination and this thread has pointed you in some good directions for support.

Sorry to Lou for conversing inappropriately here. Not an attempt to divert your support & it won't happen again.

I hope you're having a restful night & that tomorrow is a brighter day for you with the distraction of work & your lovely colleagues.

Good grief.

Sorry - I have reported most of my posts to MNHQ knowing thery would be misconstrued. I am not trying to detract from Lou, just querying some of the advice that has been given,

I HAVE had several PM's agreeing with the points I have made - ie stick to the facts, stop making up stuff about the ex twunt. These posters are supportive but too scared to post as they see a mob of posters ready to condemn them for not agreeing with the other posters - note not Lou! I have had one PM saying I am a bully. For what? Not agreeing that some posters give poor advice?

Well if you are going to say something.....have the courage of your convictions. But most have been removed by mnhq. Not poster requested.

Report the pm. Stop trying to shit stir, despite warnings from mnhq.

Seconding tuckingfits and PissyDust. Apologies from me too for engaging.

Tomorrow is another day, and possibly an "I'd Be Happy With Branston" Thread!

I think go with the Branston one as well was very witty.

"Bring Out the Branston [and Cheese Triangles]"?

I hope Lou is sleeping soundly, her gently purring cats curled up around her, in her lovely new bedding.

Tomorrow is another day, lovely Lou. Sleep well
x

You didn't query the advice that was given at all - you virtually accused Lou of not telling the truth. As Houseofplain said, at least have the courage of your convinctions. Your apology doesn't wash.

Anyway, you should report the thread not come on and cause trouble. You are still doing it now telling us about your pm's . Nobody cares apart from you so move along now.The pm you received from someone calling you a bully may just have been because you were troll hunting - but you play the innocent card and wonder why if it makes you feel better. I have no idea why you are still on the thread. Lou has asked you to leave and you clearly don't agree with most of it so it would be much easier if you left it alone. You are doing yourself no favours at all.

Anyway, lets forget all that and ignore the negative person causing trouble. This thread is to support Lou so please can we get back to that.

Me too, sorry for engaging - I will ignore from now on.

Anyway I hope Lou is able to sleep tonight. It's the end of a really tough day which shows us how strong she is in dealing with this. Go Lou!

I second that Lula

Just a shame Lou has to awake, to her worst part of the day might I add to read this fucking crap.

Please don't engage, we are purely here to support Lou.

Night night.

Another who's been following from the start and has total admiration for Lou. I hope you find some support/counselling soon re your decision about the baby.

On a side note, I have been cutting up vegan sausages and mixing them into my beans (the tinned ones have egg you see). I blame you for this madness. (YUM!)

Pissydust shall I fill it up with Haiku so she can start afresh with a new, non-handbaggy thread tomorrow?