His mother should've swallowed

[LouP19]

Is this title too rude?!!!

I appreciate everyone warning caution. Trust me, I'm using this place to rant and rave and swear and all that,... at the moment I haven't done anything. And even if I do manage to locate him (with some first class help!) I might not necessarily do anything with that information just yet. But I would just like to know, that's all, instead of driving round looking for his car all the time,.... Just this knowledge will make me feel a bit more empowered.

All advice on here is very helpful - the calm, the practical, the hysterical, the funny, the 'been there done that', it's all amazing and I value all of it.

I hope you manage some sleep tonight and that the thread has kept your mind off tomorrow. I can't imagine how you must be feeling but I know that you are a wise woman and I feel sure that you will get a gut feeling, as you've hoped for.

Sleep tight Lou, will be thinking of you tomorrow x

richtea, I don't expect people to fawn over me. I don't expect to be popular. I don't care about that. I care that Lou gets proper advice though and that others don't put themselves into danger on her behalf. What I see is more rubberneckers who imagine things based on no evidence, and random 3rd parties stalking people. I have been here long enough to do see people REALLY hurt. And there are some lovely, genuinely kind posters here who I don't want that to happen to.

baloteli "The Chunt needs to know that the world is against him. Get into his sick little chutney infested mind and fuck with it.

He sounds like he is becoming unhinged anyway so if we can push him that little bit further all the better."

Yeah. Good idea.

I'll join the increasing band of delurkers too. Been following you with much respect for days and would like to wish you strength for tomorrow and for whatever decision you make in the next few weeks.

You come across as such a lovely, honest, humorous & strong woman. There are a lot of people around the world rooting for you Lou!

PI work is done
Leather strides are cooling down
Chutney remains a twunt

Lou remains graceful
Supported by kind strangers
Chunt has spoon fetish

A new day is close
Lou needs our serenity
And no more handbags

Xx

His texts 'trapped', 'scared' and 'out of control' are telling. Trapped, not your problem. Fuck him, he decided to stick his cock in another woman.

Scared and out of control: these are linked. He is scared he is losing control of both you and the situation.

Keep going. You're worth so much more than he could ever be.

Ahh it's such a shame you never found him. Good luck for tomorrow x

One thing. I've noticed the same bun fight now. Every thread for several pages. It's the same person coming on and picking the same fight. Repeating the same point. Why mnhq haven't stepped in is beyond me. As there is no advice at all. The same point, the same provocation.

Just ignore her and she will stop.

Lou, I think you are going to be in a very difficult place tomorrow, if that is the date of your scan.

Personally I think it is tricky that you are having to have scan at al, if you are not going to keep the baby.

I do know that the baby was very much planned, in the first instance.

I would just say that if anything on this thread has made me uncomfortable, it is any references to the scan being a special time, etc.

For you , it may be. But equally, it may not, and for a myriad of complex reasons, or for any one of them.

I do really hope that you are well supported, and effectively supported, when you attend. I think you should feel absolutely free to take the time available to consider your decision, and free from the pressures of others, including of course exh.

I did myself have a termination at the age of 28 with a man for whom I cared alot, and for whom those feelings are not returned. I already had two children, but not with him, and it did not make the decision easier. I was also angry with him for his abandonment of me.

I really do not intend to project, because I am not conflicted about that long ago decision (25 years plus ago).

It is very, very difficult decision, and it wont be easy whatever you decide to do.

Finally, I am convinced that you are well able to make to right and sensible decision, whatever that decision may be.

So take care, and hoping the best for you, poor girl.

There's just been an advert on tv with the music to MagnumPI playing - the new money supermarket one!!

It's a sign not sure what of !

House of, I noticed her on other threads stirring up discontent too.

Actually Portofino, I do agree with some of what you've said - it is potentially rather foolhardy to chase a stranger round the country not knowing what that stranger is capable of. However, in this case the risks are small, and have been considered by the relevant posters. It's enough that you've pointed them out when all is said and done. Carrying on and on and on changes nothing and just derails the thread.

PS - sorry I thought your DH was a policeman Babylon! I was confusing you with another poster. Plumber, policeman...easy mistake to make!

Yes Portofino, so you have said on numerous posts, but again you feel the need to repeat it. So you have said it, they don't agree. Why keep repeating yourself? There are many posters on this thread who have been here a very long time too (myself included) and although I can understand what you are trying to say, and have seen the hurt that can be caused on MN, if the 2 posters involved don't agree with you and want to carry on doing what they are doing, then it is time to move on.

How do you know that Babylon is a random 3rd party? She is a friend of Lou's. Do you not have friends on MN that you would trust? Lou can and has made her own decisions and fwiw I think that she has dealt with this very well and made some great decisions during what must be a horrendous time for her.

You are sounding just as hysterical as you are accusing others of being. You have made your point, people don't agree, so leave it there.

Unrequited it's fine!! I just wondered if I'd missed a chapter in my own life for a second there (still suffering with baby brain here)!!

But yeah plumbers and policemen - only difference is the uniform right???!!

Lovely Lou sleep well. I hope the disagreements on your thread tonight don't bother you - see it as a sign that your followers are bickering amongst ourselves as to who has the best advice for you cos we want to help that much.

Thinking of you tomorrow. I hope that the right decision for you comes into focus.

X

Night night, best of luck for tomorrow.

I go to work for ONE DAY and you knock up FIFTEEN PAGES between you!!
Limericks, haikus, more chutney, plumbers, librarians, PIs, deleted posts and even an ahem from MNHQ - what a day!
And best of all a food party at Lou's!
I'll do vol-au-vents!

Hey mushroom you forgot to mention the stalker

Oh no you didn't, sorry

Should have gone to specsavers

Oooh Babylon it's all kicking off!

No - not hysterical - just urging caution. Strange that I have received PMs from posters who agree with me, but are too scared to post that here, as they are affeared of being criticised for seeming unkind. That is how this thread has gone. Too far. Tis not support any longer, tis a braying mob and anyone who says otherwise is evil and unsupportive.

Good luck tomorrow Lou. Try to put everyone else's feelings about it to one side and focus on what you want to do. It's your body and it's your life, your family and friends will rally round and support you whatever you decide.

I think its time for the thread to get back to Lou and supporting her.

All too often on t'internet lines are blurred and crossed. What is important is Lou. She has an important day tomorrow. lets focus on her and getting her through that.

My thoughts are with you for tomorrow, Lou.
I hope it won't be too stressful. Hugs.