Chutney Twunt pt 3

[LouP19]

Back again, is this a record? How many threads can this bastard have? You are all keeping me going this afternoon - you and friends on email and friends on text. It's keeping me angry which is good.

Glad the solicitors went well, I hope she gets you everything you deserve from this.

New bedding sounds fab. Could you change your curtains too? They have such an impact on a room and a change might get rid of the feeling it was ever partly his space.

So glad the solicitor was good Lou-another strong woman to add to the ranks of your supporters!

Seymour, someone who is completely self centered can carve out roles for others in his own head and forget that others are independent actors. It is very illogical.

Love the way MN is now highlighting chutney. Love the self pitying tone of Twunt's texts. Love that you have a good solicitor and new bedding. Sleep tight!

SO glad you're pleased with how the solicitor went. I hope she also gave you some advice about feeling safe in the house or steps to deal with that.

I second turning the mattress and fabreezing it.

Hi Lou,

Another lurker, delurking to cheer you on. I have been following your threads and sending you good vibes from the other side of the world. My own personal twunt left 10 years ago abandoning 3 children and moving thousands of miles away never to be seen since.

These bastard men seem to follow a similar script and like to rewrite history to suit themselves, well the people that matter know the truth!

So much great advice and support here.

I have just seen the Chutney Recipes on the front page

Way to go MN - what an awesome tribute to Lou - and if Chutney Twunt does happen to know about MN, then surely he too will realise that one of the biggest, fastest moving forums available right now with it's squillions of members is inadvertently blatantly taking the piss out of him too

God I love this place!!!

don't know about a glut of marrows or courgettes, we've got a glut of twunts at the moment....hope you had a peaceful nights sleep in your new bed linen. i got some lovely girly stuff for my bedroom, and decorated it. it feels mine now. all traces of ex gone, it really makes a difference.

Arf @ glut of twunts

There does seem to be rather a lot about right now doesn't there

Morning Lou, hope you had a good night.

Hi. Am de-lurking again with another thought.

I wonder if he is taking all he can because he is worried about money? OW may not have much, and with maternity coming up...

Please do all you can to protect yourself financially as, in my opinion, this guy is going to play hardball, when the time comes.

Best of luck.

Morning everyone, hope you are all ok.

I slept from 9pm - 7am, seriously needed it.

Family coming round today to help with the bedroom rearrangments, then the new bedding goes on. Looking forward to it.

Cats will be too. I know they'll be on the bedding before it's even been made up.

Going to struggle a bit this weekend. I've had several offers from people, but I am SO tired, and could really do with a couple of days down time. I'm worried if I say 'no' to people now they'll stop asking though,....... But after what I discovered last week I'd like to try and have a quiet day at least tomorrow just chilling in front of the TV. If that's possible,......

I'm not surprised you're feeling tired Lou! Its normal at this stage even if you've not been sleepless because of the crap that chutney has heaped upon you. After lunch cat naps are a great way of getting a little bit more sleep

Morning Lou!

Take it easy today changing those rooms around, don't strain yourselves! It will be so therapeutic for you, there's nothing like a new room layout to make things feel fresh again.

Just tell your friends exactly that - they will understand. It's a universal pleasure, isn't it, to sit in your pyjamas and watch DVDs for a day?

A good night's sleep at last, doesn't it feel great. It always so satisfying swapping a room's layout around, enjoy it.

morning Lou, if you cats are anything like mine they'll be helping you change the bedding! don't worry about people not understanding if you say no just now to invites, they'll understand, especially if you explain that you need catch up time and a quiet day or two to process everything. as well as the pregnancy, you've had a major change in your life, and i know i was absolutely shattered most of the time, the emotional drain is huge. take care, and let family do all the shifting of furniture, you just supervise and make tea! x

You are doing so well! Enjoy your new bedroom, as 3kids says, you just delegate. Enjoy your quiet day tomorrow

Morning Lou

Take it steady today honey and drink lots of water - today is supposed to be the hottest day of the year. Surely everyone will realise that you need some chill time. Enjoy your weekend. x x

Hey Lou,

Hope you're enjoying your new room!

I'm curious, how have the cats been towards you? Mine are very tender when they know I'm hurting/ill.

Extreme tiredness is a sympton of early pregnancy - I was totally exhausted through the first trimester. It.s good you have the chance to rest up. Now you have had the chance to regroup and find your anger, don't you think you need to arrange to meet twuntney again? Just thinking that you need to have all the information on in his future plans and intentions to help you move forward and make the decisions you need to make.

I would not be able to relax knowing that I was financially dependant on this guy, not knowing where he is or what he is planning to do next.

Hi Lou, glad you are making the house the way you want it to look! Maybe instead of a new headboard you could cover the old one with a nice bit of material? I've always fancied doing that but never got round to it! We've got a wooden headboard and I thought I could pad it with a bit of foam then cover it with pretty material, then it would be more comfortable when I'm reading my book at night!

Morning Lou. Glad you got a good night's sleep. I'm sure if you explain to your friends why you want a night to yourself they won't mind.

On current form I doubt he'd tell her anything useful or true portofino. I think most of what he's saying in calls/texts is probably bollocks to be honest. Let's see how he responds to the solicitor's letter.

Hi, just caught up with your thread(s) after a week away. My - what a lot of developments! How devastating about the news of OW's pregnancy though. I knew you half suspected something like that in the early days, but it's horrible that it's actually the case

However, from what he's said/written to you it really sounds like he's having major second thoughts about leaving you and moving lock, stock, chutney and frozen meat into OW's place. Sounds like maybe his little love affair isn't made of quite the heaven he'd imagined - from the excitement of an affair and weeks swanning around in Italy to domesticity and a baby on the way - there's nothing like it to bring you down to earth with a bump (no pun intended). I agree with you that I give it a few months, at best.

What I really don't understand though is why he was still TTC with you when he'd already got OW knocked up . I cannot, for the life of me, understand why he would do that. Of course, it's just another inexplicable thing to add to his catalogue of inexplicable deeds, but he really must be living in cloud cuckoo land, hoping it would all sort itself out and he'd still be sailing along, no one any the wiser.

Stay angry. It will serve you well. You're a warrior!