lou,
Sorry sweetie, but you need to start being very very very smart. THis man is a coward and lies with such ease it is very worring.
Ok, here is a suggestion. Add an alarm (you can buy cheap ones from B and Q, get one with an auto dialer this needs to be hooked up to a phone jack) put the auto dialer as far as possible from doors / windows. They set it to call your biggest friend / family member / etc. You will then have a LOG of how many times he enters the property. OK, I know you are about to say I have cats, get one with door and window contacts ONLY that way it will go off when he enters the house. friedland do one, they are easy to install if you have a family member / friend that owns an electrical drill.
Ok, next photo graph the paperwork on the table and ask very nice neighborough if they would please write down what they saw, times, dates and sign it.
Give the solicitor your parents / friends address, same with the building society. Ask for it to be noted as a forwarding address.
Next call the solictor and give her this information as an emergency update.
Finally have a bloody good look round and see if ANYTHING is out of place. a draw ajar? a door that is open that was shut, mail out of order? ANYTHING if there is something look very hard and see if you can work out what has been touched.
Ok, now go and buy a big blank book, make it is pretty or not as you like and start keeping a diary. Keep it by hand (ie do not type it on a computer) it needs to be in your normal writing. Write EVERYTHING down, you can probably get away at this point in back dating a week or so. Write down times, dates, phone call, how you feel, when exactly a new bit of information comes, todays breaking and entering (and I know it is house in his joint name, but he picked the padlock) and keep updating daily. This is going to come in really handy later, so be factural and as emotive as you feel (no death treats)
OK, do you have any friends that are into gadegts? you need something like this
amazon, lots of choice
if you have an iphone
Now I know someone will be long in a moment and say it will not be admissable in court.. BUT it will give your solictor every bit of information she needs, and it will mean you have a record of exactly what was said and when.
Can you have a big strong man stay with you tonight? Dad or brother maybe? I know you might not need a man to stay but it may help you feel safer if you do.
Good Luck Sweetie and keep posting.