real life challenges vs online misadventures, dating (and non-dating) thread 19

[hatesponge]

I have been to the pub. I'm not pissed but I am happy (well happier at least).

Conclusions reached this evening:

1. I am pretty bloody amazing, and any man I choose to date is very very lucky and should appreciate this fact!
2. Online dating is not for me. But I have learned from it that I shouldnt judge a book by it's cover and not to be so superficial
3. Man from the weekend DID like me, he is either still in love with his wife, or still hurt by her and lacking in confidence, there is NOTHING I did wrong, and he probably will be back at some point, but it will be too late because I will have MOVED ON :)
4. I am joining the gym and losing my remaining 3 stone.
5. I am going back to my old haunts in Essex this weekend because I have the best nights out there and feel at home. I intend to drink, dance, look fabulous and talk to anyone and everyone!

So that's my resolutions for the thread in essence, less moaning, more exercise, to have fun and be sociable to everyone, less aloof unavailable ice queen and more friendly and approachable.

for sure he is several leagues above the usual online dating pond life...like they're barnacles and he's a shark :o
(excuse my mixing of fresh and salt water metaphors!)

crikey he's not a potato but i get first refusal

Leuji that's bloody wonderful that you're blossoming back into the woman you really are and taking enjoyment form your appearance. :)

oh, I can cope with sharks, mercury7 he wont know whats hit him.

I am going to a distinctly average nearby pub. I never go there normally, I'm not taking this guy anywhere I might be likely to go again or where I might see anyone I know

Meanwhile the current humid weather is playing havoc with my hair. Think Monica from Friends in the episode where they go to the Caribbean...

Who remembers Andrew McCarthy?

I'm talking to a saxaphone playing maths teacher that looks just like him. And he's not as creepy & weird as the biology teacher I was talking to last week.

How's your ping pong, sponge? .

lubey I seem to have an accident or two with accidently ordering things I want or chocolate slipping into my shopping

Yep must eye up all good looking men at the pub sponge you gotta take your chance once. I don't like going out with someone if its anywhere I am known I don't like people knowing too much.

Delurking again to say I love this thread and all the stories/advice from you ladies! You are all fab!
I've decided to give up on online dating, I've had enough of the disappearers and weirdos lol. I would like some advice about a guy i've been chatting to via text though. He is 10 years (almost 11) older than me and looks it, i'm 38. We seem to have made quite a connection but have yet to meet. The thing is I don't think I fancy him, I think i've just made an emotional connection through our chats. The whole meeting up bit of dating terrifies me, I get so nervous I clam up and can't get any words out. Am I wrong to keep texting knowing I may not want to take things further? He has said he's happy to be friends. Maybe he could grow on me?
However, there is a guy in rl who I see just about every week as he works where I go for my hobby who I really fancy the pants off. We have had a short conversation, he always flashes me his sexy smile and sometimes gives me a friendly wink. I've bumped into him in town a couple of times too and he's said hi and smiled...I think he may just be being friendly, I don't even know if he's attatched. I'm so shy I don't know how to deal with approaching him...god, I may aswell stay single. It's far too stressful dating! lol

haha snape when you mentioned how amazing mr staines was the first time i was secretly thinking, i bet she ends up falling in love with and forgetting all about PM!

sponge the two times (out of about 12 dates now) i've not really been that excited about meeting up with a first date have been the two I ended up really liking, go figure...so i keep telling myself there's always hope, even when you don't see it at first!

questions2008 I had a thought, that maybe they would get on well too, so it wasnt just you.

And i would say something tessoftheangels? I hope that it will go well for you.Internet dating can be hard sometimes, and it can get you into quite a lot of trouble as well. Staying single is no where near as much fun though I done a 9 year age gap at 15 and i think that was a little too much, but 17 years between my mum and dad worked right up until he passed away, 23years ago. My mum was 28/29 when they got together, they were together 12years.And my mum has never re partnered. Though i would like her to.

Life is good as it is. I am enjoying time with one person at the moment, three was too much. LOL. One is more than enough.

tess the connection thing is tricky isnt it - the date I have tomorrow we seem to get on really well, but I am increasingly sure I won't fancy him. But I know he will like me, and that makes me feel awkward. I'm on the verge of pulling out of this date tbh, so in your position can understand your reluctance to continue.

and before anyone says I know looks arent everything, I dont date men who are model good looking, but they have to have a certain something about them...and I fear this guy has small hands, which I have verging on a phobia about.

Oh and he sent me a photo earlier of him washing his cheapo sports car (i'm not a car snob, my last Ex drove a Mondeo, but said sports car is naff, i'd be more impressed if he drove a bloody Mondeo tbh!) IN OVERALLS.

I really may develop a sudden stomach bug by tomorrow

Tess, maybe you should meet the internet guy just to practice. :)

Hahaha!! Sorry, sponge, am pmsl at that

Eeew. Small hands

Tess 'He has said he's happy to be friends' he probably thinks that if he can just persuade you to meet him/get him foot in the door he'll be able to somehow win you over.

(Men are aware that women will sometimes just go along with what they want in order to avoid an awkward situation)

In your shoes I might still meet him, but make it a quick daytime meeting and if you dont feel any 'chemistry' cut off all contact.
Stamp on his foot and slam that door shut:o

The small hands thing honestly makes me heave.

I work with a lovely guy who on paper is a really good match for me, and I've thought for a while likes me. But despite being 6 inches taller than me he has tiny hands, smaller than mine (and mine are no more than average for a woman). I just couldn't!

Now what do I do about Mr Overall?

Small hands! You know what they say about small hands .

what you want is a builder or a brick layer/plaster, you know, hands like shovels.

All that gripping thickens the connective tissue's...doesnt make his knob any bigger though...

mercury this is the reason all my Exs work using their hands (construction industry, mechanics, gardeners, a butcher even...!)

LMFAO. Sports car? ANY CAR i wouldnt say no to, though to be honest I did see a nice brand new porsche 12 plate in front of a nice newly built house, not that i want one....MUCH

What is it they say about small hands? I dunno please share.

Well it's more what they say about BIG HANDS & BIG FEET...

Men with big hands and feet have huge cocks. True. if you believe everything they say

this makes me sad

small delicate hands are often seen as something essentially feminine..so no surprise that some women find large rough hands manly!

Snape I can't click on that link...I am using DS's computer and your link is blocked by the family filter

MLM I know I'm probably being mean about the car, but it's a bit try hard. Honestly I'm not a car snob (see Mondeo comment above) I'd be more comfortable with him driving a £150 old banger than what is to me little more than a penis extension and not even a nice one like a sporty BMW or even an Audi TT

lubey I thunk I want exactly what you just described

Well next door neighbour messaged me Saturday, I replied Sunday, and he hasnt replied

I see what others are saying that as we are not friends in fb that he might not see the message! But I also think if he was interested he would look for it now that he responded to the first??

Also I didn't send a friend request as I feel I have already made a move by sr ding the first message so ball is in his court! I don't want to seem like I'm chasing him!!

And I think he has my number, as my sister passed it to his sister in law (as they are neighbours and were trying to set us up) so I'm not offering that either!!

sponge. It was snopes saying that any correlation between hands, noses, feet and peniseseses is purely coincidental and there is no evidence to suggest that small hands = tinycock.

Gym with PM tonight, it's agony. We're on huge health kick, loads of sweaty cardio, we've doubled our bike interval training, so all I can hear is puffy panty sex noises. . At the same time, lead to suspect that whip I am gently discouraging too much smut with mr Staines, he gives the delightful impression of knowing exactly what he's doing which is somewhat worrying as I'm busily compartmentalising, because while I love PM to bits, I don't think he'd be a fab shag. I think mr Staines could make my toes curl.