real life challenges vs online misadventures, dating (and non-dating) thread 19

[hatesponge]

I have been to the pub. I'm not pissed but I am happy (well happier at least).

Conclusions reached this evening:

1. I am pretty bloody amazing, and any man I choose to date is very very lucky and should appreciate this fact!
2. Online dating is not for me. But I have learned from it that I shouldnt judge a book by it's cover and not to be so superficial
3. Man from the weekend DID like me, he is either still in love with his wife, or still hurt by her and lacking in confidence, there is NOTHING I did wrong, and he probably will be back at some point, but it will be too late because I will have MOVED ON :)
4. I am joining the gym and losing my remaining 3 stone.
5. I am going back to my old haunts in Essex this weekend because I have the best nights out there and feel at home. I intend to drink, dance, look fabulous and talk to anyone and everyone!

So that's my resolutions for the thread in essence, less moaning, more exercise, to have fun and be sociable to everyone, less aloof unavailable ice queen and more friendly and approachable.

movingforwards (sorry, it's not all me, me, me...)

I'd leave it to be honest. Ball is in his court, he should know where to find your messages as the last one went to 'other messages', so if he's interested, he knows where you are and if he doesn't know where your fb messages go now, then he's a bit dense... :-)

snape - I would much rather have a guy thats going to bed great in bed, if you dont think PM will be why are you so keen?

yes will definalty have to wait to see what happens. The only thing is if he keeps replying late I will be forced to not reply as its making me feel annoyed really...

See, guy that's great in bed, bit of a lad, or guy potentially not great in bed, but unshakeably honest, generally kind and would never fuck around on me.

S'pose there's a capacity to learn with the latter..

Oh I'm with you all on the hands thing. Blokeychap has MASSIVE hands and size 14 feet. And manly arms and lovely chest (not all pumped up but just perfect)

Hummana hummana :o

Is it Wednesday yet?

Movingforward123 this is just so perfect for me. I wanted this physical type of bloke, with the nice personality qualities as well, to have this kind of relationship with for a long old time. I'm very glad he isn't going anywhere. And I'm very glad I never settled for less!

Oh wow... interesting.

I just took my cosmic order list out of the book on the bay window shelf, and read through my 56 point list of requirements.

Blokeychap I think meets all of them except living within 30 miles of me. I knew he ticked a whole load of boxes but not exactly how many, wow.

Not bad, cosmos, not bad.

Weird thing also, I did it on Septmber 19th last year (I wrote the date on the list) and demanded my man within the year. 19th Sept is blokeychaps birthday. Odd!

Ok, time for a new cosmic order. Mansion, riches, etc etc :o

Just to add - I actually don't believe in or 'do' woo

but maybe there is something in this school of thought about focusing on what you want very specifically, and hence attracting it...

lubey it is not wednesday yet, sorry, sounds like you are excited, i am so pleased for you.

Cosmic order, erm Dont want a mansion a nice reliable car yep.

I do think sports cars are a bit naff, Although at 14 I had a different attitude but that was a mazda, thinks of who drove it, he was 17 and very fit and a fast but safe driver

Morning all

Snape I would be happy with the not so good in bed, once men reach middle age the penis shrinks, it goes into hibernation, the sex will not be 'all that'. Enjoy a bit of flirtation with Mr Staines but don't give up on PM. Just yet.

Lubey That is amazing!! How can you not believe! I am so pleased to read your update, and you never know, he might be living less than 30 miles away before September 19th!!

Sponge Enjoy your date!! Don't be so judgemental until you have met him in the flesh, he may have such a wonderful personality that you don't notice little things like his hands or his car. Give the bloke a chance!

Time I hear you :) But he is annoying me already.

He asked me when we were meeting. I suggested 8.30. His response was that was a bit late but he supposed it was ok.

He goes to bed at 11pm. My BF suggests he is the sort of man who FOLDS his underwear.

I am so tempted to cancel!

Are you worried that he won't want a second date sponge so you're going to get in there first?

I wonder if you are setting your bar so high that you aren't really ready to meet anyone yet?

Time, he used to live less than five miles away, maybe the cosmos thought 'fuck it that'll do' :o

I think 8.30pm is late too, I reckon 8pm is a good time. Maybe he is just excited about meeting you and wants to spend a decent amount of time with you? When I had my date, that time, he text at 7.20pm to ask if I was ready yet, he couldn't wait
And there really is nothing wrong with going to bed at 11pm, especially if you have work the next day. I just think, at this moment in time it's a date, not a marriage proposal, so go along and enjoy it for what it is, you never know, you might like him

Maybe lubey! I think it is all spookily great though. And I am really pleased for you. I can't help but think there are some strong feelings being disguised here

Kirsty I don't think I'm setting the bar unreasonably high though - I know I would have found all this stuff equally annoying (if not more so) years ago before I developed second date-itis. I actually think it's a bit rude of him to comment that the time I've suggested is a bit late, he should be grateful I am going on a date with him at all! But I will go, mainly because it is easier to go than cancel. And hopefully the fact he goes to bed early means I won't have to spend more than a couple of hours with him :)

Time see I am a night owl, I'd only be in bed at 11pm if I was having a REALLY early night, my usual bedtime is 12.30 onwards.

I am really not sure we are a match. He has now started calling me 'sexy' . But I will go and report back possibly about 8.45

I look forward to your update BUT, I can't help but think you will be going along to the date with a 'this is going to fail' attitude, so it may already be doomed!

That's because there is just no woo about it Lubey! If you look at it plain logically, the more you want something and encourage yourself to stay positive even subconsciously then the higher the chances are that you will consciously and subconsciously act in manners that will heighten the chance of having your wants met.

I think a lot of people fill their head with positive thoughts but can be unrealistic with expectations, feel frustrated over the time scale and often still have that quiet little niggling thought behind it all saying, yes I am thinking positively but I don't actually really believe this is going to happen for me.

Take cosmic ordering out of the picture, you joined a dating site, you went on dates and met blokeychap, you rode out the uncertainty of it all. Nothing really to do with the universe at all!

But a bit of woo is always fun!

Had a nice weekend with S for his birthday, he said he had a lovely weekend so mission accomplished!

Been a busy old week though, my eldest DD finally saw the paediatrician who said she saw autistic traits which means I now have referrals coming out of my ears for physio, audiology, speech therapy, educational meetings etc etc. I have my induction day at college tomorrow and start properly full time Monday, how I am going to fit it all in I don't know! Positive thinking!

Hope everyone had a nice weekend too!

Fate he was a real life one, not from a dating site :o

I was still in my stage of having nothing at all to do with dating sites, believing them harmful to the soul and sent from satan himself.

I bumped into him, having co-incidentally found out he was single (knew him from when he lived round here) and he asked me out.

We did dates one two and three within a couple of weeks (coffee then lunch then lunch again) and then came the spectacular date four of dress stripping fame when I knew he had a hotel and was worrying about whether I'd get an invite back there or not... then at the end of the night he said he didn't want it to end, I said neither did I and we skipped off to his room, me stripping my dress off on the way in the corridor. We woke up to a brilliant trail of clothes from the door to the bed... Ahhh that was such a good night :o

I remember the hotel corridor dress story

I remember it too, and was dreadfully slightly envious at the time.

Me too. I aspire to it. It's on my Cosmic Order

Yep on my "things to do before i die" list among other things [angel]
I havent done a cosmic order, Maybe i should, how much do they cost

I did a cosmic order once, was about selling our useless car for an ok price and to sell our house quickly (sold in 3 weeks and we moved about 10 weeks after putting the house on the market). Didn't do one for a man but seems the cosmos decided to be nice to me anyway :)

We are going away again tomorrow, house is a tip. I need to organise and pack things and really cba. Ho hum. Is to various friends and family and so don't need that much stuff I suppose but will at least need some clothes.,.,.

I remember the dress stripping date too

We have torrential rain and thunder and lightening here, I have to go out this evening to donate blood. I just hope it's finished by then.

Lubey either way you can't give the cosmos all the credit!