real life challenges vs online misadventures, dating (and non-dating) thread 19

[hatesponge]

I have been to the pub. I'm not pissed but I am happy (well happier at least).

Conclusions reached this evening:

1. I am pretty bloody amazing, and any man I choose to date is very very lucky and should appreciate this fact!
2. Online dating is not for me. But I have learned from it that I shouldnt judge a book by it's cover and not to be so superficial
3. Man from the weekend DID like me, he is either still in love with his wife, or still hurt by her and lacking in confidence, there is NOTHING I did wrong, and he probably will be back at some point, but it will be too late because I will have MOVED ON :)
4. I am joining the gym and losing my remaining 3 stone.
5. I am going back to my old haunts in Essex this weekend because I have the best nights out there and feel at home. I intend to drink, dance, look fabulous and talk to anyone and everyone!

So that's my resolutions for the thread in essence, less moaning, more exercise, to have fun and be sociable to everyone, less aloof unavailable ice queen and more friendly and approachable.

Hello everybody! I last posted on the distant ancestor of this thread about 4 months ago....I feel that I can update now, as I actually have a date tomorrow! This will be the first in 3 years, since before DS. Really trying not to get too nervous...

This is through OKC, by the way, and I did NOT answer any of the questions as I found them annoying. "What is the most important to you at the moment-sex or true love?" Erm.....both, neither, I'm not letting you know that anyway!

Awwwww @ Lubey --spill-

Stubborn Yay! Have fun.

I answered that question by saying "sex" . I got as far as STALE is to STEAL as...etc, and gave up.

Is OKC the same as POF in that you get most messages when you're actually online? Please say yes, or that means I'm an ugly pig woman that no one wants to talk to, and my profile is rubbish :(

Shit. I meant spill. Tsk.

I reckon, Crikey- same as all the online dating sites, whenever you log in, your profile gets bumped to the front of the queue, so it's the first one that gets seen. It's certainly worked that way for me- whenever I've spent time on the site, I've got more messages. I haven't had any new messages for a while, but haven't logged in for a while- when I did, i got several....

Also, Crikey, where do you live? I reckon if you live in London, for example, you just get more messages than if you live in the rural SW, like me- on account of there just being more damn people! (either that or I'm an ugly pig woman whose profile is rubbish

SE, Stubborn

OK - logging on now. So let's see .... :)

G'wan.....anyway, if it doesn't work, you've got all that bleddy sunshine to make you feel better

Just marking my place cause I'm dying to hear what happens with snape - this is better than a soap opera....except if it were a soap opera, just as snape was about to declare her undying love PM would tell her he was becoming a priest/having a sex change/moving to New Zealand!

Catching up with thread.

It's all about finding a balance between being respectable Mummy & irresistible sex goddess.
It seems that Mr Kippling was pleasantly surprised by me in bed. Apparently, in his mind, I was/am a respectable mother of children (child really).
My answer: well, exactly. As in: how do you expect said child was made? Virginal birth?

hiya, i posted once before a few months back now, seems like ages anyway! i'm awful at posting but have been lurking and keeping up with everybody's exploits. thought i'd drop back in if you don't mind

crickey i agree about the being online thing and getting contacted, i'm not sure how pof and okc work as i'm on lovestruck, but on ls you can choose to filter by those online and that's mostly how i would do it so expect most others do the same as (my) reasoning goes that they're more likely to respond if they are actually online right now.

so last time i posted i was stupidly waiting for a guy i'd met once to actually make plans for another date. i waited for a month, yes i utterly fell for him in just one date. he disappeared, still not sure why as even though we talked a few times after that date and he was saying all the right things he then went silent. oh well, although i'm still disappointed at least it made me realise that i should be looking for that kind of a spark, connection and that it can happen even though maybe nothing comes out of it

since then i've met kissed a couple more frogs, met a guy who was really nice, had 3 dates but no spark for me so i've called it off. he wants to meet to talk it over, not sure what more i can say?

currently, i met with a guy i was reluctant to go on a first date with because i spoke to him on the phone beforehand and he sounded really dull so i cancelled but he persisted and i gave in because i don't know how to say no even to strangers off the internet and he turned out to be so funny and lovely in person, very different to how he sounded on the phone. let's see if we get to date no 2 with him.

snape you don't know me i know, but i'm hoping your master plan is working!

I'm on tenterhooks about Snape too.

Please sort it out quickly.

Lueji You're my new hero

I hope we don't hear from Snape tonight.

I hope she's far too busy, ahem, all night to bother with the likes of us.

Piss pots - not one message :(

Hi wow looks like i've missed alot, need to catch up.

Well not sure if anyone remembers my sisters next door neighbour? And my neices were trying to set me up with him? Anyway I messaged him on facebook weeks ago and he didnt message me back. He has messaged me back today

should i message him back or ot? definatly wont today but maybe tomorrow or in a could of days? It has been weeks since i messaged him!!!

I get messages still. Got invited out for tonight to a bbq and allowed to bring friends with someone I was chatting to online. Lol. I didn't go. God no. Essex is a long way to go for some food.

sponge - sounds like you are starting to enjoy yourself and focus on your self now which is great

I am also going back to the gym in september.

Snape what happened???

moving Maybe he isn't on FB much? I'd message him back today

Moving, he could have missed it.

It also depends on his message.

I'd leave the door open for communication, but leave to him to move it along for a bit.

moving - I know a lot of people who are on facebook but don't look at it very often (and depending on his settings he may or may not get emails telling him he has a new message). What was the tone of his reply? Did you get a sense he was just replying to be polite or does it sound like he's genuinely interested in talking to you?

Indeed, a friend of mine has only recently mentioned me sending him a friend request (from ages ago).
It seems he never goes there because the people he was initially friends with only sent farmville requests.

Check his timeline.

We are not friends on Facebook, but I was showing my friend his picture and saw on his Facebook that he had been on there and liked something after I sent the message. But it doesn't look like he's on there a lot!

I'll post the message in a minute!

Haha aww babe I've only just seen your text, u ok? Oh don't worry about it there just kids haha wat u been upto xx

Basically I had messaged him before because my nieces had been trying to set us up for ages and when he was in his garden pushed me over to the fence when he was there and was all weird! But we were chatting after and it was fine! And when I was going he said " see you later babe" and his brother and sister in law were being silly about it like see you late babe! And she even added me on Facebook and wrote that on my wall! And he's meant to be shy so of they start being silly will probably put him off!!!

Nothing to report, sorry ladies. Lovely evening etc, but no shagging There was a horribly heart stopping moment when he was sitting at my dinner table browsing OKC on his phone and went 'oh my god! A 99% match!'. Luckily someone else! I did text him after he left that 'these evenings will stop when either of us meets someone on OKC, right?' to which he responded 'yep, we turn into {friends name recently in relationship we never see anymore} or they learn to love our friends'. Sent text this morning, 'nobody would put up with us, would they? This is a concern'.

Waiting.... Did have a lovely frank discussion on the way back about sex and what he finds attractive, so I have some extra ammunition which is nice. :-)

And thank you for all the goodwill and crossed fingers, I really do appreciate it. :-)

Hi snape, I havnt been online for ages what's going on with you and pm? Are you finally trying to get your man??