real life challenges vs online misadventures, dating (and non-dating) thread 19

[hatesponge]

I have been to the pub. I'm not pissed but I am happy (well happier at least).

Conclusions reached this evening:

1. I am pretty bloody amazing, and any man I choose to date is very very lucky and should appreciate this fact!
2. Online dating is not for me. But I have learned from it that I shouldnt judge a book by it's cover and not to be so superficial
3. Man from the weekend DID like me, he is either still in love with his wife, or still hurt by her and lacking in confidence, there is NOTHING I did wrong, and he probably will be back at some point, but it will be too late because I will have MOVED ON :)
4. I am joining the gym and losing my remaining 3 stone.
5. I am going back to my old haunts in Essex this weekend because I have the best nights out there and feel at home. I intend to drink, dance, look fabulous and talk to anyone and everyone!

So that's my resolutions for the thread in essence, less moaning, more exercise, to have fun and be sociable to everyone, less aloof unavailable ice queen and more friendly and approachable.

Well gift yourself to him by wrapping yourself up in birthday paper, with a big bow, and as he unwraps you shout out "you WILL marry me!"

I love reading other people's cosmic orders

"I would really like to win the lottery, not for my own benefit, I'd just like to help out loads of charities. Please win me the lottery within the next 6 weeks".

Ok - joking aside, I'm going to put in a cosmic order for a marriage proposal from mr nice guy by the end of 2012 - I'll invite you all to my hen night

time! I shall just have to wait. I hate waiting. It's just not fun!

Ok I've done it.

You watch, he'll finish with me tonight lol

Time wrt the willy. What you need to order is not a big one but someone on the end of it who knows what to do with it

Agrees with chaotic re big willies. Men with big willies tend to be shite in bed, they just think shoving it in and out is all that's required

Right, ok, I'm willing to believe. I just need to think of a very careful wording on the basis that one should be careful what one wishes for. :)

snape totally agree which is why I'm giving it careful consideration before I indulge.

Ok, I've lit a star in the cosmos, apparently. :)

Me too but mine is for a new job.

I kind of like that this focuses ones energies. I mean, you'll be applying for jobs with renewed vigour (one doesn't like to let the universe down...) so it's highly likely you'll get a new job. You're not oing to sit back and do nothing & expect a new job to drop in your lap. :).

I'm retro-searching MN for cosmic ordering stories! :)

I'm going to put another one in for a job. I forgot about that, all this talk of big willies

Do we just leave it with the Universe now Fate or do we have to recite our wants every day or something?

Ok, so I need some POF advice. The rude/stupid/sleezy messages get deleted ASAP. The ones i like the look of I reply to. But what about the ones in between - nice looking guys who can actually string a sentence together but you just don't fancy. Do you reply? Do you say thanks fro getting in touch but I'm not interested? Do you just ignore them? TIA

I used to ignore anyone I wasn't interested in. I figured I didn't owe them anything so didn't feel guilty. If you contact them then you are giving them an invitation to reply so you may have trouble getting rid.

I'd probably just ignore them if I really wasn't interested.

However, I have to say, unless they really leave you stone cold (sometimes you just know) I wouldn't necessarily dismiss them, thinking about watch's experience here.

Reciting to yourself daily can't cause any harm!

When I had my PND I did affirmations every day and it did help keep your focus on what you want to change.

Also I believe most practises of positive thinking maintain that you can't just ask and not do anything but wait. You have to take/create opportunities!

With S I stepped out of my comfort zone (of men chasing me!) and just said if he was single I would be interested.

Ooh yes, MrLovelys profile was brilliant though, even I fell in love with him!

Ok thanks! Having a couple of interesting conversations though .

Can't comment on MrL's profile but it has made me stop and think, or it will do when I finally get back to dating.

It is cheeky to ask the cosmos to sort it out before the DCs come back from their holiday at their paternal grandparents, only I'd quite like to have me some sex and it'd be quite nice if I could have some before pesky children return...

I've just done my cosmic ordering...
I had a drunken phone call from guy I've been seeing last night... he's scared by the feelings he's got for me and it's making him feel vulnerable but he loves me apparently....he also said that while he was away he was going to try to not ring me as he says I'm im in his head all the time an he might need to slow himself down a bit... but he hadn't done well and obviously gave in once the beer had hit! I couldn't believe he was really going to not ring me all week!!
he rung this morning and in not sure if he remembers what he told me last night!!! I haven't mentioned it!!

Not cheeky at all Snape, might be quicker to register for intimate encounter on POF though

Marking ny place on the sofa :)

You should always be careful what you wish for, i could wish to end up with my childhood sweetheart, that he would wake up tomorrow morning and realise he wanted me, and always had, but that would be so wrong, on so many levels it wouldnt work for a second, we both know that.
I know what my cosmic order would be and that is simple "to make my little boy and the two i lost proud of their mummy and give them a loving family, to find the person who will always stand by me, who will cuddle me when i cry. I want the type of relationship where you dont have to say something, but the other person always knows when you are upset, i want to be more than lovers, i want to be like best friends, and connected without thought about the feelings and emotions. It makes it easier sometimes to just know what is going on, sometimes when a nod, or a word is enough, to be able to cuddle in complete silence, but to be able to have space as well, to know that no matter how big or small the problem may be that i can go to them and talk it through and even if we cant solve it they will be there just to tell me that somehow along the way it will be alright. I dont want much, just a soulmate really and to make my son proud of mummy and to protect him from every going through the situations i went through.