real life challenges vs online misadventures, dating (and non-dating) thread 19

[hatesponge]

I have been to the pub. I'm not pissed but I am happy (well happier at least).

Conclusions reached this evening:

1. I am pretty bloody amazing, and any man I choose to date is very very lucky and should appreciate this fact!
2. Online dating is not for me. But I have learned from it that I shouldnt judge a book by it's cover and not to be so superficial
3. Man from the weekend DID like me, he is either still in love with his wife, or still hurt by her and lacking in confidence, there is NOTHING I did wrong, and he probably will be back at some point, but it will be too late because I will have MOVED ON :)
4. I am joining the gym and losing my remaining 3 stone.
5. I am going back to my old haunts in Essex this weekend because I have the best nights out there and feel at home. I intend to drink, dance, look fabulous and talk to anyone and everyone!

So that's my resolutions for the thread in essence, less moaning, more exercise, to have fun and be sociable to everyone, less aloof unavailable ice queen and more friendly and approachable.

Definite red flag. If he's acting like that before you've even met then he'll only get worse the further it goes.

That's what I thought. Will ignore him from now on.

Back to the drawing board :(

Yes, you are right Fate, that is exactly what he has done. He has just text telling me he is a gentleman really, that I have got him all wrong, that I think he is just after one thing and he isn't. Oh dear. And you are right Lubey if he can't control himself so early on in proceedings, well, there is no chance really is there? I bet he's crap in bed too!

I will tell you something though, this 'experience', if you can call it that, has made me actually want to find someone decent to date, so some good has come out of it

Oh my god Time, what a fucking womble. You need to cut it off now, he's going to be a nightmare otherwise.....

Crikey.... are you sure he's not just leaving you alone because you said you were going out?

I've just told him 'Look, we are not suited, you are not the kind of man I am looking for. The End'. He replied 'We are suited, we are both good looking and turn heads'. It's making me laugh now. He really is a first class div!! I wonder if he was on day release from somewhere when he stumbled across me

I'm going to ignore now.

Actually, it's been two weeks, now I think about it, because we were texting funny comments to each other through the Olympics opening ceremony.

Cherubim I did think that at first - and thought he was probably busy etc. But it's the coldness of the texts that seems so bizarre.

First time it happened, we'd been texting a lot for a couple of days, then I said "I'm off out tonight" and he didn't reply at all - just sent me a POF message saying "Fine. Enjoy your evening." Completely different to the warm messages he'd been texting.

So, I thought - then it happened again - and again - and again.

Then he seems to "forgive" me and starts talking to me again about 24 hours later.

Did you say he was an accountant, Time?

Ah well, Crikey, that's different then. He sounds like a sulky controlling prick, in that case

Put his number on here, Time, we'll all send tit shots

I'll send him a pic of my droopy boobs if you like, Time. Pretend their yours - you'll never hear from him again .

Yes Crikey he's an accountant, well, that's what he told me, who knows He was dressed smartly though.

at sending him tit shots, his right arm would drop off!

Crikey I don't like the sound of him. I prefer the sex talk to the emotional blackmail yours is putting you through. Do you want the perv?

He just text again "I can't give up, you have got me all wrong". At least he has stopped with the text speak and calling me Luv, Hun and Sexy!!

Crikey!!!

No - to be honest. I was very shallowly attracted to the thought of him being a teacher (moron that I am) but he's not so fanciable that I'd put up with that crap.

Although - he frequently stays at THE FAMILY FLAT in Kings Cross (!!) which impresses me a lot a bit. But no, not really interested.

And I bet, Time I don't believe he's either an accountant or 38. Sounds like he's 18 and at college - wanting an older woman to show him the ways of lurve. Twat!

Grammar fail there. Sorry .

It's probably a broom cupboard

Time tell him that he's now in negative equity and you're cutting your losses.

at negative equity!

crikey I'm finding it difficult to believe he is an accountant. He's a bit dense. I've been rather cutting very straight in my replies but he doesn't seem to notice. Bloody shame really cos he was rather fit, and I will admit the fact he is an accountant did impress me somewhat, bit like you with the teacher. Plus I thought with him being so tall he might be packing rather large assets, that quite excited me and was something I was looking forward to. I feel all deprived now.

Don't suppose you could, er, stick cotton wool in your ears and just go for the shag?

But no - you're probably like me. No matter how hot they are, I just can't fancy total thickos. And, honestly, it sounds like he really is, Time.

I've been out with a couple of really tall men that really weren't packing

Yes, I agree with Crikey. Text speak and general thickery really turns me off. I've been known to dump people over a misplaced apostrophe, ffs

I can't Crikey, I have to feel 'something' a connection of some sort. All I feel with him is frustration, and not of the sexual kind. He comes across as rather inexperienced, for all of his talk, he does seem very immature.

All that stuff turns me off too Cherubim but I wonder if it's me being too picky. And what if I never get a shag, ever again, all because of a missed apostrophe!!

I'm disappointed to hear that not all tall men are stretching the trouser department

Having said that, the biggest one I ever had was an over six-footer.

The height of the man, not the penis, obviously

It's not too picky! I'd rather go without than have someone I had no kind of intellectual/emotional connection with.

And so would you, young lady.

No, I do agree. Feel exactly the same.

Has he texted you again?

I concur, my research findings are that there is no reliable correlation between height and penis size