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Chutney

999 replies

LouP19 · 06/08/2012 17:06

Where do I go? My thread has gone?!!

Bit upset by the soap opera comments, but understand it probably came out wrong. I like a quiet life. I like reading. I like staying in. I like cats. I like gardening and looking at stuff in Dunelm mill. This is NOT me at all.

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ScrambledSmegs · 07/08/2012 21:57

For god's sake, Bubba. I've been lurking as I've been unsure of the best way to be supportive to Lou (who has been confirmed as genuine by MNHQ on the previous thread). My own pregnancy story was way weirder than hers. She's had a miscarriage before, she's been having fertility investigations, she is quite obviously going to be feeling that nothing is going to go right for her in that way. I know I was like that. In fact I still am, and I'm 25 weeks pregnant tomorrow.

If you really are having doubts I suggest you report the thread and don't try to derail a support thread. It isn't fair on Lou and everyone who's been supporting her.

CrikeyOHare · 07/08/2012 22:01

BubbaOne Don't forget that pregnancy tests can be done a week before the period is even due now. Perhaps she didn't realise her period was late because it wasn't yet.

You need to stop this now. This is the one place Lou ought to feel she can come and be supported unconditionally, and you're in danger of ruining that.

I for one believe every word she's said and I bet 99.9% of everybody else does too.

BubbaOne · 07/08/2012 22:01

I am not knocking Loup - who said I was? I asked a question. That was all. Is that not allowed on here?

ScrambledSmegs · 07/08/2012 22:05

Why on earth are you focusing so much on it though? It seems very obsessive. Your question was already answered upthread ^ by lagartija.

Quite frankly it the reason why we're upset is that it looks like you're troll-hunting on a sensitive thread. I get that you think that you're just asking a question, but the tone of it and your subsequent posts have been somewhat harsh.

OhDearNigel · 07/08/2012 22:05

Is this really the place for this ? For the benefit of the OP who is in a horrible place right now maybe it would be nice if you could drop the arguments.

cfc · 07/08/2012 22:05

Blaming your bad form on this thread on being a big aspie is offensive to those with AS.

I've not been offensive towards you.

Just after her BFN Lou's life as she knew it fell apart. Good for you for 'not getting the emotional side of things' and presumably being able to get yourself straight enough to go to the GP during this hellish time, but you'd be in the minority.

CharlotteWasBoth · 07/08/2012 22:08

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ScrambledSmegs · 07/08/2012 22:09

Lou I really hope you're having a quiet evening, and that your cat is going to be ok. I can't imagine what you're going through right now, and can't offer much in the way of practical suggestions unlike many of the amazing people on this and your previous thread. But I'm thinking of you, and wishing you all the best with whatever you decide to do. You really deserve to be loved and cherished, that shines through in your every post.

BubbaOne · 07/08/2012 22:10

I am AS though cfc, do I need to apologise to you for that?

Cartagena · 07/08/2012 22:10

BubbaOne. If you are really an aspie, this is the literal meaning: Your comments are perceived as offensive, you may not be able to sense that or mean them in such way, but they are still perceived like that and are irritating some people. Could you please stop hogging the light, sorry, distracting people with questions about Lou's pregnancy? she has had far too much emotional stuff to deal with recently and may have come to different conclusions on her pregnancy as a result of this. Your questions are making you look as a troll hunter, could you please let the people concentrate in the support Lou need rather than demand an explanation on why she thought it was a chemical pregnancy? Thank you.

cfc · 07/08/2012 22:12

Yes Bubba that's right - I'm asking you to apologise to me for being diagnosed with AS...

Hmm

FFS.

Disclaimer - sarcasm alert /disclaimer

boohoohooshouldhavewongold · 07/08/2012 22:13

Bubba seriously, leave this thread as its not about you, all your doing is upsetting people.

maras2 · 07/08/2012 22:14

Bubba.You are not old so don't use that, or being 'a bit aspie'whatever the heck that means,as an excuse for being belligerent.

OhDearNigel · 07/08/2012 22:17

Anway,
Lou, can you remember which insurance company it was with ? It doesn't matter if you've lost the paperwork - if you give them a call they'll be able ot trace you and tell you if the policy is still in force. If you are nice to them and explain what's happened hopefully they'd be sympathetic and agree to backdate a policy renewal if it's run out and not been renewed by your chutney rustling wankstain H

OhDearNigel · 07/08/2012 22:18

Alternatively you could try PDSA and explain that you have found yourself in financial hardship due to twatface and they may be able to help

PermanentlyOnEdge · 07/08/2012 22:26

Lou I have lurked from the very start, though I havent posted as so many people have been saying the right things so much more eloquently than I could, but I want to say now

Your H is an arse of the highest order.

It is NOT your fault. In any way.

Take your time. Breathe. Decisions which seem impossible today may well resolve themselves in your mind with no trouble in a week or two. You have time.

Cuddle your cats.

And ignore any off topic nonsense on the thread. 1200 posts so far and we are ALL behind you.

I do so wish we could send 1200 jars of chutney to your twunt.

BubbaOne · 07/08/2012 22:27

I am sorry. I seem to have upset everyone, when I only meant to question something that didn't make sense to me. It still doesn't make sense to me at all, but I will leave it. Sorry I am not good at this.

HugeMedalTally · 07/08/2012 22:28

If you have had to claim on the insurance before, the vet might have a record of who the insurance is with? Worth a try.

StuntGirl · 07/08/2012 23:41

I hope you're doing ok tonight lou. Thinking of you.

Babylon1 · 08/08/2012 04:53

Hi lou, remember what I said to you when I texted earlier?
Ignore anyone who is questioning you about the truthfulness or otherwise of your posts - they are not worth a second thought or any brain space Sad

Hope you're doing ok xx

LurkingAndLearningLovesCats · 08/08/2012 05:27

Listen to Babylon1...She is as wise as her name Lou. :)

Babylon1 · 08/08/2012 05:30

Lurking Blush

Am I really? Blush

LurkingAndLearningLovesCats · 08/08/2012 05:48

Yes! You clearly have a very kind soul.

And you're as wise as Yoda Grin

sugarice · 08/08/2012 08:11

Morning Lou, hope you managed a good nights sleep.

panicnotanymore · 08/08/2012 08:20

I just checked in to see how lou was doing, and Shock wtf??? I can't believe some of the comments on here.... ignore ignore ignore the crap lou.

I believe your story, my own is very similar, and weirdly I had some equally horrid comments from a very very close friend who had spent years going through fertility treatment. She accused me of sleeping with H after he had split with me to 'accidentally' get pregnant with a 'band aid' baby, and trap him. I was beyond mad at her, and my pregnancy pre-dated the split anyway.... I just didn't know I was pregnant. Being charitable perhaps fertility problems can warp some women's minds with jealously.