Chutney

[LouP19]

Where do I go? My thread has gone?!!

Bit upset by the soap opera comments, but understand it probably came out wrong. I like a quiet life. I like reading. I like staying in. I like cats. I like gardening and looking at stuff in Dunelm mill. This is NOT me at all.

Lou,
I've been following this thread and thinking about you every day.
What's happened to you is unbelievable. I'm sure that the whole thing has a wierd unreality to it at the moment, and that you're emotionally and physically exhausted.
I hope all the great support you're getting in RL and on here is helping. I bet there are loads more women ('lurking but caring') have read this and whose hearts are going out to you.
For now, just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
You're doing all the right things, you have the taken steps to get the medical and legal advice you need and you're allowing those who love you to look after you. I expect that your thoughts are going round and round like a demonically-possessed-washing-machine. There are few decisions you need to make right now though, so just work on getting your strength back.
The tablets will kick in soon and will hopefully help you to get a bit of you're balance back.
If its something you'd feel comfortable with a good counsellor might help. Just for you, to help you to work through your emotions and make your own decisions.
One day in the future all this will be a horrific phase you had to go through to get to a much better life.
Good luck. You're bright and you're clearly well-loved, so you can do this.

BubbaOne What relevance does that have now?

Wow LouP (love your name), I have just read your old thread and this. What an exceptional person you are, and what an exceptional fuckwit your x is!

I was wondering about this counselling he may, or may not be, booking. For one thing you don't have to go at all. On the other hand, you could write an account - unemotional and factual - of what he has done and give it to the counsellor asking that he/she read it to your x. You could go early and hand it in, or you could hand it over at the start of the session and leave immediately. This would scupper any plans he might have had of trying to look good. (I'll admit, I had fantasies of you writing the mad boss scenario down the left side of the page, and the devious lying pervert x behaviour matched move-be-move down the right side of the page, with the two being read in tandem.)

Love your cats. That's the only real advice I can give you.

Back off Bubba - pull apart someone else's OP with a less serious subject matter.

She's explained herself twice with regards to her thoughts on that specific subject. Take it, or leave it.

Second that cfc
Lou needs our support, not a Miss Marple style investigation

Lou - I've been a lurker too. You are doing amazingly well. One day (or hour) at a time and it WILL get better, whatever road you take.

Sorry - how am I pulling anything apart? It was a genuine question! I have been there and don't see how Loup decided she wasn't pregnant. She sounds plenty clever. God iwas was warned it could be scary here....

she got a bfp then 2 days later got a bfn and expected her period to start and the next day twatbadger leaves her...I think she had other things on her mind, assumed she wasn't pg and that a would start and then was too distraught to notice it hadn't.

You're trying to pull her OP apart - don't deny it, come on. If you're suspicious, as you said you are, report her. The thread has already been 'verified' if you like, by MNTowers - as far as possible. Read OP's reasoning for believing she had a Chem Preg. Take it or leave it.

You're not the thread police.

exactly ^^

Bubba, I think we are very protective about Lou. She has opened up her heart and soul to us at probably the most wretched, emotional and vulnerable time of her life. And we have all been amazed at her strength, honesty and sense of humour when many of us would have crumbled into a pit.

No offence meant to you tho

Maybe it is not for me!

Lou doesn't need this on her thread.

Buba there are MN talk guidelines, you soon pick up the way on here. This is a really sensitive emotional thread. You could have asked on a new thread on conception, if in doubt put yourself in a posters shoes.

Hi Lou, another one who read your thread with complete .

Regarding your pregnancy, whatever you decide (good luck) can I say please please please take folic acid and eat leafy veg. Its only vitamin B but it will help you with anaemia and run-downness, and whatever you decide will protect a developing embryo. We have several spina bifida children in our town and insufficient diets were the cause.

I am also married to a narcissist (thought your H was one, and several others thought this too) and there is no getting through to them. NOTHING makes them look at themselves or acknowledge you.

Good luck, and keep in touch.

Lots of support for you here Lou. Stay calm and focused and getting what you want from all this. Whatever you decide is the right answer.

Hang in there Lou

The problem with life Bubba, is that it does throw up 'unlikely' blind curves at us that just don't make sense on paper.

My relationship break down had similarities to Lou' s and I used MN massively at the time.
In the end it can seem incredible. But it's just a detail.

Bubba, should you have been on here from the off and needed some advice/support you'd find that along with that you'll be protected somewhat from passive agressive attacks from other posters.

If you have read the thread from start to finish (both threads)then y9ou'll see that OP's posting history has been verified by MNtowers and other posters who have recognised her from the TTCboards.

If you haven't read the threads from start to finish the y9ou have no right to comment and air your suspicions.

Sense the tone of the thread. It's lovely here. It's scary here.

A bit aspie = a bit offensive.

She had a BFN, that is why she decided she wasn't pg any longer.

READ THE THREAD.

I am just being careful and where something doesn't make sense, well then, is it not on to ask a question?

Bubba, we're not supposed to 'troll hunt' it's considered sort of back seat moderating. If you think someone is trolling you just report it but it's considered bad form to play amateur detective.

Why is that offensive when I am talking about myself? I had a negative pregnancy test, after a positive one. But no period, like Loup. So I went to the GP. Anyone trying very hard to be pregnant would know you can get a false negative, but not a false positive. And the only symptom of a chemical preganancy is a period. cfc, I find YOU offensive.

I only asked a question. It was a genuine question. Why is that a problem?