Chutney

[LouP19]

Where do I go? My thread has gone?!!

Bit upset by the soap opera comments, but understand it probably came out wrong. I like a quiet life. I like reading. I like staying in. I like cats. I like gardening and looking at stuff in Dunelm mill. This is NOT me at all.

sticks fingers in ears and screams

Thanks garlic This thread has made me think again about my old marriage, (the world of academia is a funny old place, I'd love to know what field chutneybollocks is in!)

I just want Lou to come through this as well as she can.

So anyway. I do think lou, you should tell your solicitor about the pregnancy. As if, IF, you decide to go ahead. It will delay the divorce and land you in a more favourable position financially, with your job amd the house.

Im not saying you should go ahead for those reasons. But that's the way it is. That's why he's panicking and no more mr nice guy..

By constantly and persistently troll hunting and accusing the OP of not being genuine and open with the facts. By questioning her account of her pregnancy and the veracity of what she's saying when you've been REPEATEDLY told by MNHQ and everyone else the the OP is genuine.

I won't be replying directly to any more of your posts, Bubba.

"been an utter fucker, because he's selfish and he's been having an affair, and graduated from twat school."

summed up nicely there houseofplain

I suspect twat school is a franchise. I wish they had a more recognisable uniform!

Hi Lou.still checking in on you.so many women on here thinking about you and wondering how you are, don't let anything let you forget that x

Can we remind everyone that we don't allow troll hunting on the boards. Please come to us direct if you have any concerns.

MN - thanks for removing the threads, I was about to report them myself.

Lou does not need this...

Another one delurking here. I have no real advise to add but just wanted to send you lots of support. I can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling at the moment but I do know that no matter what happens things will get better and you will laugh and smile again. Just do what's best for you, forget everybody and everything else, just think about you.. And make full use of your supportive friends and family. Also I have always rented, most agents / landlords say no pets, most accept cats. What's that website that gives you a prediction of benfefits you might be entitled to, is it 'turn 2u'? Maybe have a play around with figures on there? Your doing so well, we're all behind you x

Just thinking about you Lou, checking in on you too.

Lou - what you have done with the locks is perfectly fine. Tick that off your job list and we won' discuss it again.

Now, when you feel stronger, ask your friend in the Twunt's office to check his expences claims. (They have to be approved by his boss to receive reimbursement) They will tell a story!

The Italian visit (if true) will have been booked through Admin, but expenses - food, travel etc - will go through the Department as a residual claim.

sadwidow if Lou's friend has already confirmed that twunt's boss wasn't in Italy (as twunt asserted), it's possible it wasn't a business trip at all? May be worth checking annual leave info (provided it won't get your colleague in trouble lou)

Garlic I needed to take a charge out on the house too when I seperated that was five years ago. I think it would be useful for Lou to know her legal position.

I think you ought to be rather careful about trying to find things out from his place of work. If caught this will all count against you, something that I should think you can do without. You can't go through his expenses and confidential personnel files, it is against the law and I think people should stop urging the OP to do these things.

He can not sell the house from under the OP.

Unless there is a specific court order which prevents him from entering the marital home he is allowed to enter at his will. It's not nice if he does, but emotions aside it is also his house. Yes he has apparently chosen to leave it, but that doesn't change the ownership and title deeds.

The OP needs emotional support more than anything and I think that suggesting she does things which are against the law is wrong and very unfair to the OP in her fragile state. The courts will take a very dim view of any of the suggestions made if she were to go through with any of them.

I don't feel that playing the amateur detective with Chutney/OW is really going to help Lou - I think her energy would be better spent looking after herself, getting legal advice etc

MNHQ, I feel it very unfair that posters can diagnose a 3rd party with autismm, and when I challenge that and say that we can only comment on what Op says, that MY post is deleted. Is it not true? Is that troll hunting in any way shape or form?

Hi Lou, I've been lurking because I feel like I can't give you any better advice that what you have already been given by some wonderful people on here. Just wanted to say your strength and dignity has amazed me. Whatever decision you come to regarding divorce/pregnancy/house etc please believe within yourself that your choices are the right ones and try not to second guess yourself too much. You deserve much better than this and I wish I knew you in rl to give you a big hug.

Bubba, just leave the thread, will you? This may surprise you, but this thread is not about you. FFS.

Lou somehow the Rod Stewart comment has made me want to vomit. a) that anyone would think he was a model for anyone and b) that Chunt was openly saying that a sound life plan is to trade in wives for younger ones and father children with them when he felt like it.

Divorce is right up there with bereavement on the list of life's stressors. I think pregnancy is there as well plus a dramtic change in finances. You should be proud of yourself for getting up every day and breathing, let alone making tough decisions and dealing with the pain of betrayal.