Another thought, he said to my Mum in a text he'd committed a 'series' of unforgiveable mistakes. That isn't just one affair, is it? This woman has probably caught his eye more than others, but it definitely says to me he's done it before. Which yesterday when he saw me he denied.
Last summer when he told me he didn't want to have children. That will have been someone else, on the scene, him evaluating the relationship. Or him at least thinking 'I'm sleeping with someone else, and the most inconvenient thing for me would be you falling pregnant'. He told me about 2 months later he'd 'come round to the idea' and was ready to try again. He said this in the most casual way, like he was saying he wanted cornflakes, not weetabix. After putting me through hell for 2 months.
Interestingly my brother said he saw him last year with a young woman, on a weekday, in a shopping precinct. I asked him about this yesterday and he was it would've been a PhD student, and what on earth was the problem with that. Jesus, it is all SCREAMING at me now. This was apparently in late Autumn, so indicates there was someone else last year. He was ok at Christmas, so maybe that fizzled out, someone else appeared by Spring and it was then he started to realise 'This is who I am' (i.e. serial adulterer).
And the woman in the photo from Italy. It's HER at the moment. I know it is. I asked if he'd faked business trips with his current squeeze and he said 'no, but I have extended trips and she's joined me'. It's HER right now, she was stood bare foot in what looked like a hotel room. He said the photo was taken in a restaurant. How do I stop my brain chewing over this, it's total agony.