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It is happening - we are meeting up. // I'm bursting!!!!

180 replies

LoveChlorine · 27/07/2012 23:41

My OH and I split about 3 years ago. We get on well, I think if is fair to say that we are both keen to get on for the sake of our DDs.

Lately I have been getting on well with DD1's coach. We developed a text EA, (his relationship broke down earlier in Feb this year, our texts started about 2 months ago). We have now agreed to meet at a local Beef Eater for lunch with a hotel connected to it on Monday. The plan is to have lunch but I can not help thinking about the hotel next door. I so want to end up at the hotel... Stuff lunch!!! Doubt I will be able to swallow anything anyway... I can't think of anything else. Have made an appointment for waxing etc. this saturday. I'm not sure if this is love but I haven't felt like this in ages and haven't had any ... since OH left.

I feel as if I'm going to burst.... totally terrified... and exited.

10 years younger... make it 15 at least...

Any advice appreciated... Please help.... This can so not go wrong...

OP posts:
skyebluesapphire · 30/07/2012 23:37

I slept with my STBXH the first night we met. (we had seen each around around for the past few months but only briefly chatted) . He walked me home from the pub, i was legless, he was merry, we ended up in bed and that was it really, together from that moment for ten years (married for 6).

Neither of us are the one night stand sort of people. It just happened and it wasn't a one night as we ended up together.

I hope it works out for you.

MusicForTheMasses · 31/07/2012 07:08

Really pleased you had a great time, wishing you the very best. x

ElephantsCanRemember · 31/07/2012 07:12

Yay! Glad you had a great time Grin

And the moral of the story: Always wear sensible shoes!!!!

Love this ^^ Grin

dranksinatra · 31/07/2012 07:44

Ahhh, a happy ending.

OhEmGee24 · 31/07/2012 08:44

2 omg's? I presume that's mumsnet for orgasms?Hmm Well I'm glad you had a good time and stayed safe. I'm afraid I'm still of the belief not to have sex on the first date but we're all entitled to opinion aren't we? My dp and I def don't have "vanilla only in the dark sex"!

nkf · 31/07/2012 08:46

It sounds like more than your five a day were taken care of. Fnarr Fnarr!

youarewinning · 31/07/2012 09:01

Oh Fab update.

Love the fact you were worried about having sex in a hotel on the first date and you went back to his for coffee and had sex twice there. Grin

Hope all works out. Envy at going to olympics

TheKnackeredChef · 31/07/2012 09:07

OP, I'm sitting here grinning like a loon. Good for you!

Auxey · 31/07/2012 09:07

Good for you having some fun on a Monday afternoon! Why the bloody hell not?
And can I say I'm more than a little Envy Been a long time since I've needed a bag of frozen peas. Grin

BunnyLebowski · 31/07/2012 09:15

I cannot believe the level of misogyny from the MN Mary Whitehouses on this thread Hmm.

OP - glad you had such a bloody good time! It sounds like a great date Grin

And he wants to see you again even after you had sex on the first date. Shock. Horror. Wink

Enjoy Smile

Idohaveoneofthese · 31/07/2012 09:26

Good for you Chlorine, sounds like a great way to spend a Monday lunchtime! You obviously have fantastic chemistry, and as you knew him before, you know a lot more about him than anyone on here.
Seems like a good thing that you went back to his for the shagathon!

Lucyellensmum99 · 31/07/2012 10:53

mysogeny? Mary whitehouses?

Arranging to meet for an afternoon fuck is not the basis of a relationship. I think the OP did not actually do this, they met for lunch and ended up shagging, yes it was on the OPs mind that she wanted it to happen and on his no doubt, but that is very different from arranging to meet just for a fuck.

I think people were just pointing out that meeting for a shag, whilst good fun etc, and perfectly fine, often is just that - but in this instance, the OP and her new man clearly really like each other so why shouldnt they jump each others bones, people were just advising caution. HOW is that mysogeny? just how

Ormiriathomimus · 31/07/2012 10:59

Hurray! Grin

The spontaneous coffee shag seems much more decorous than a planned one in a hotel. Call me old-fashioned....

BunnyLebowski · 31/07/2012 11:11

The misogynistic notion which has been perpetuated on this thread that women who have sex on a first date are not girlfriend or wife material.

The outdated misogynistic idea that a man can fuck who he like when he likes but us women have a moral code to abide by. One that we'll be judged by.

"If you go to that hotel with him, it'll be the last time you go out with him."

Chlorine hasn't made it known that she's looking for her Mr Darcy. Maybe, just maybe, she wanted an uncomplicated fling with this man? Given how well it went maybe they'll fall madly in love and be together for ever. Maybe they'll never see each other again.

My point is that these potential outcomes are frig all to do with her 'letting' him have sex with her in a Beefeater or his house on the first date.

Consenting adults can fuck who they want when they want. And there's nothing wrong with being practical about the wheres and whens. I might be wrong but I think the 1950's ended a while back Hmm.

Lucyellensmum99 · 31/07/2012 11:22

That is rubbish, it is more a reflection on men than women - It is perfectly feasible that a man would meet for a fuck date rather than want a relationship (and a women for tha matter) but the OP said she wanted more. We were just pointing out that he may only be in it for the fuck date. NOT that if she did it on the first date it would put him off her, i don't believe anyone said that. As it was, it seems they both want more - so thats a good thing.

nkf · 31/07/2012 16:53

I don't know where the mysogny is supposed to be either. Sure, a lot of people advised against it but why is that mysogonistic? How do you spell it? Looks wrong.

MagicHouse · 31/07/2012 19:38

Misogyny?? That's a bit strong. I think people were just worried about the OP getting hurt. Nothing to do with misogyny - just the possibility of the OP wanting more (relationship-wise) than her date.

Original poster
LoveChlorine · 31/07/2012 20:01

Got a nice text and a large bunch of roses delivered at work today. Grin

My only regret, the shoes.... still very sore feet.

OP posts:
Lucyellensmum99 · 31/07/2012 20:11

EnvyEnvyEnvy Sigh, the heady days of love and lust - i remember it well, i think :) sigh sigh sigh lucky cow

nkf · 31/07/2012 20:37

Blimey. He sounds lovely.

PacificDogwood · 31/07/2012 20:41

Oooooh, he investing big time into you: thought, time, money.

Gibbous · 31/07/2012 21:08

HOW DID I MISS THIS??!!

OP, thank you so much A) for updating and B) for making it such a lovely update. You've made a cynic (regarding when it comes to meeting a lovely, keen man not with regards to first date shagging which I've both done and not done) very happy too. He sounds as keen as a bean. Enjoy it!

Now, tell me, how old are you and how old is he? Just in case that makes me feel even better!

And has he got a brother?

Gibbous · 31/07/2012 21:09

Meant to say: (regarding when it comes to meeting a lovely, keen man not with regards to first date shagging which I've both done and not done and therefore know it makes no difference to whether a man wants to see you again or not)

Lizzabadger · 31/07/2012 21:26

Have fun!!

ninah · 31/07/2012 21:29

lol at it's ok to shag on first date as long as it's unpremeditated and not in a travellodge
good for you op

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