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It is happening - we are meeting up. // I'm bursting!!!!

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LoveChlorine · 27/07/2012 23:41

My OH and I split about 3 years ago. We get on well, I think if is fair to say that we are both keen to get on for the sake of our DDs.

Lately I have been getting on well with DD1's coach. We developed a text EA, (his relationship broke down earlier in Feb this year, our texts started about 2 months ago). We have now agreed to meet at a local Beef Eater for lunch with a hotel connected to it on Monday. The plan is to have lunch but I can not help thinking about the hotel next door. I so want to end up at the hotel... Stuff lunch!!! Doubt I will be able to swallow anything anyway... I can't think of anything else. Have made an appointment for waxing etc. this saturday. I'm not sure if this is love but I haven't felt like this in ages and haven't had any ... since OH left.

I feel as if I'm going to burst.... totally terrified... and exited.

10 years younger... make it 15 at least...

Any advice appreciated... Please help.... This can so not go wrong...

OP posts:

HotBurrito1 · 30/07/2012 10:14

DH planned a walk for our first date. Some of you would have been horrified

OddBoots · 30/07/2012 10:22

As someone whose first date with dh was a walk to Sainsbury's then help carry the shopping home I think a Beefeater sounds great.

I hope you have a great time but take care of yourself, bring your own condoms if you are even thinking of sex.

Lucyellensmum99 · 30/07/2012 10:23

i think its the hotel that people are a bit Meh about - and what about the walk???? Overcome by passion is different to meeting with the intention of the date being doing the deed. But i reckon the OP is just gagging for it and maybe that wasn't the intention Have fun OP

HotBurrito1 · 30/07/2012 10:39

Well after a lot of walking (and snogging) he bought us burgers from a burger van Lucy. I was smitten.

SerendipitousHarlot · 30/07/2012 12:43

Ooh. I forgot it was today. Lots of luck OP, hope it goes really well

Gibbous · 30/07/2012 14:04

fish fingers!

Sorry OP, I think I mistook your (understandable) giddy excitement for something else and became unnecessarily concerned. NaiceSpam put it all so much better than me, but you sound like you can handle yourself!

Have a lovely time in bed

CuriousMama · 30/07/2012 14:24

I laughed at fish fingers too.

Yes you sound much calmer. Enjoy yourself. I was only worried as you sounded very very keen on him. I know you know each other as friends but once you start exchanging fluids it becomes more complex, as you know seen as you've been married. I've been there, thinking a shag meant more. I got over it quickly though and have found an amazing man. I hope you do to.

Lucyellensmum99 · 30/07/2012 17:44

update?????? was it fish fingers or chicken dippers?

CakeMeIAmYours · 30/07/2012 19:06

Don't think it was the chicken she was dipping

Idohaveoneofthese · 30/07/2012 19:16

I think there should be some kind of thread contract which means you have to come back and tell us what happens. If I can't live vicariously through MN, this us going to be a v long summer hols

Idohaveoneofthese · 30/07/2012 19:17

*is

MoreLithiumPlease · 30/07/2012 21:30

I've pretty much always had sex on the first date.
(Slag.)

But how do you have sex within twenty or thirty minutes of meeting the two people who said they had?
I can't think how? Am I being stupid?
Oh, did you meet at houseparties?

I hope you had a nice time OP, whether the waxing proved necessary or not. :)

CuriousMama · 30/07/2012 22:08

Idhaveoneofthese I totally agree!

CuriousMama · 30/07/2012 22:08

Whoops missed an 'o' off your name do excuse me

PacificDogwood · 30/07/2012 22:20

Original poster

LoveChlorine · 30/07/2012 22:44

Ok, for those of you who want to know what happened here we go in a nutshell. ( those who don't want to know and find it all dirty, cheap etc... not sure why you would carry on reading)

Had lunch as planned. Despite the fact that it are the school hols there were no kids in the restaurant, most seemed like office people grabbing a bite to eat.

Had a salad with grilled salmon, which Imho was not bad at all, so my 5 a day are taken care of. He had steak and chips. Also we had a small glass of wine, again definitely not bad for a lunchtime drink.

Went for a walk after lunch, which was pleasant in the sunshine, however unfortunately I was wearing the wrong shoes for walking and my feet were/are absolutely killing me. In fact while I'm writing this I have one foot on a bag of frozen peas which seem to take the edge of a little. But apart from the sore feet I had a really nice time.

We left my car at the restaurant and took his back to his place for a cup of coffee. I never got the coffee. As soon as we closed the front door we were all over each other. All in all had 2 OMGs.

It was not selfish sex, he was very considerate and made sure I was ok. Got rather carried away, but kept it safe. Definitely the shag of the century and if I never had sex again for the rest of my life than I won't complain...

Had a nice shower together and then he dropped me back to my car on his way to training.

If this is dirty than I'm more than happy to feel dirty every day for the rest of my life. We are planning to go to the Olympics together early next week and we hope to go away for a weekend by the seaside when my DD's are away with their dad.

Thanks to all for posting, those who have been supportive and also those who prefer the posh do and vanilla sex in the dark after 6 months of dating. Different strokes for different folks. Bottom line is that I'm feeling tired but happy bar the sore feet. Think I may need more frozen peas....

OP posts:

ImpatientOne · 30/07/2012 22:46

Yay for you!!!!!

Also a little

PacificDogwood · 30/07/2012 22:47

Glad to hear you had a nice time .

Here's hoping it will all develop the way you clearly wish it will.
Having made plans together - that's good, isnt' it?

HotBurrito1 · 30/07/2012 22:53

He had steak and chips? Red flags all over this one

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea · 30/07/2012 22:55

Did you pre stock the frozen peas?

CuriousMama · 30/07/2012 22:56

Wow making plans, that's even quicker than me and dp, we waited until the 2nd date but then we didn't know each other beforehand

CuriousMama · 30/07/2012 22:58

Oh and glad it was fab sex too. I've had good lovers before dp but when we first shagged I couldn't believe it (in a good way). Glad you've had a great experience too.

Lucyellensmum99 · 30/07/2012 23:00

And the moral of the story: Always wear sensible shoes!!!!

Really really hope it works out for you OP,

ComingtoKent · 30/07/2012 23:00

Hurrah! Sounds like a lovely day (feet and frozen peas aside) and all good with the plans to do more together in the future.

As I thought, but didn't post before, you're a grown woman who can make her own mind up. Nothing dirty or cheap about that. Not being yourself and conforming to a bizarre set of rules that may or may not entice a man to see you again seems much more odd to me.

On another note, I'm absolutely thrilled to discover that "would you like to come in for a coffee" still means the same as it did in my heyday.

CuriousMama · 30/07/2012 23:00

I think OP may be sitting on some frozen peas too?

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