It is happening - we are meeting up. // I'm bursting!!!!

[LoveChlorine]

My OH and I split about 3 years ago. We get on well, I think if is fair to say that we are both keen to get on for the sake of our DDs.

Lately I have been getting on well with DD1's coach. We developed a text EA, (his relationship broke down earlier in Feb this year, our texts started about 2 months ago). We have now agreed to meet at a local Beef Eater for lunch with a hotel connected to it on Monday. The plan is to have lunch but I can not help thinking about the hotel next door. I so want to end up at the hotel... Stuff lunch!!! Doubt I will be able to swallow anything anyway... I can't think of anything else. Have made an appointment for waxing etc. this saturday. I'm not sure if this is love but I haven't felt like this in ages and haven't had any ... since OH left.

I feel as if I'm going to burst.... totally terrified... and exited.

10 years younger... make it 15 at least...

Any advice appreciated... Please help.... This can so not go wrong...

I feel pretty rotten about criticising the Beefeater. Yes, it was snobbish. Sorry, OP. Still not sure about him being your daughte'rs coach. Couldn't that be a bit awkward. I couldn't carry off a fun shag but nothing more but if you can, then you can. I hope you are still looking forward to your date.

So, even if she wants it, she shouldn't???

No, if she wants it - and she is fully aware and accepting of the possibility that it could be a one-off and end abruptly there - then yes she should be all over it.

Trouble is, she doesn't appear to be.

So, go on, tell us!

Was it 9 nches long?

Did it make you scream?

Did he show he cared about you?

Or did you feel, afterwards, like you felt dirty, used and discarded?

We've all been there, honey xxx

If you go to that hotel with him, it'll be the last time you go out with him.

Rubbish. I fucked a man on the first date 7 years ago. He's now my husband

I'm a firm believer in go with what you feel on the day. You'll know as the date goes on where it's heading. If you both want it and feel comfortable with it, shag away! Life's too short to spend so long on 'what if's' and all the various possible outcomes and scenarios. But realistically it's going to to go one of two ways - you'll have a great time, want to do it more, and have a relationship (which may or may not last). Or, you'll have sex and that will be that. Either way, if you've got an itch you want to scratch and a nice man to do it with, what's the worst than can happen.....

Erm... You have all shat on her parade and not even noticed she hasn't been back...

If the bloke really likes you he is not going to care whether you shag him on the first date or not.

If the bloke is just after a shag, he will simply hold out until the third or fifth, or whichever date it is that you shag him and then you'll never hear from him again.

Totally agree with this ^

OP I hope you have a lovely lunch today

I am going to add something controversial - one of my friends works in child protection as a prosecutor and she says that a common way for paedophiles to meet children is to start off as friends of the parents, then they inveigle their way into being trusted family friends/partners and have ready access to the child. Obviously this does not apply in every instance however she said it was a very common way for them to operate & would be very wary.

Easy point do you not think that as the child's coach he might already have valid reason to have access to the child without shagging her mum?

*east!

Well...I shagged my poor Dh within 20 mins of clapping eyes on him....he was much more inexperienced than me, so nervous he was.

I also remember that back in the day before qualifying etc. We were both skint. So a night at the beefeater was a treat.

We had sex on our first date.

We´re both adults-neither of whom was going to tell anyone else about it!

We´ve been married 17yrs.

Oh dear - poor OP.
I do agree she was v overexcited about a date and potential shag in years but I think she's got the message loud and clear.

The beefeater?! At least go to pizza hut!

If you're still reading - and I wouldn't blame you if you weren't!! - hope you have a lovely time, enjoy yourself x

Still reading. Interesting views.

We are meeting this lunchtime. Neither of us have been at the BeefEater before. We chose it because it is in a nice and convenient location for both of us and it has lots of room to sit outside. We only know the place from driving past.

I'm not sure why I'm defending a local restaurant here. I think the comments about a first date at a Beef Eater are a bit shallow to be honest. I would rather have a Burger King with a nice guy and have a good time that going to one of those so called classy restaurtant with some stuck up guy who is pretending to be something he is not. Unless of course it will be the posh restaurant at least once every week for at least the next 20 years.

We have been friends for a while, but got closer not that long ago. I think that if it was not for the fact that he is DD's coach we may have arranged a date sooner. So yes, that is the only thing that bothers me...

Anyway thanks to all for posting. Will post later how it went, that is if I don't choke to death on my fish fingers...

Have a good time. You are right about the shallowness of the Beefeater remarks. Sorry from me. Hope it's a good lunch. Be good.

And, as my DM used to say, if you can't be good, be careful!

You know what, I still don't think you should put out on s first date, location is neither her nor there... But anybody who can come back to this thread with such wit and humour deserves the roggering of their life!

By the way, lick the crumbs off first, the finger slips down more easily.

(suggestive arf arf from me!)

@ "choke to death on my fishfingers"

Have a great time.

Have a good time whatever you end up doing

I had a job at a Beefeater when I was a student.

I wouldn't eat there if you paid me.