It is happening - we are meeting up. // I'm bursting!!!!

[LoveChlorine]

My OH and I split about 3 years ago. We get on well, I think if is fair to say that we are both keen to get on for the sake of our DDs.

Lately I have been getting on well with DD1's coach. We developed a text EA, (his relationship broke down earlier in Feb this year, our texts started about 2 months ago). We have now agreed to meet at a local Beef Eater for lunch with a hotel connected to it on Monday. The plan is to have lunch but I can not help thinking about the hotel next door. I so want to end up at the hotel... Stuff lunch!!! Doubt I will be able to swallow anything anyway... I can't think of anything else. Have made an appointment for waxing etc. this saturday. I'm not sure if this is love but I haven't felt like this in ages and haven't had any ... since OH left.

I feel as if I'm going to burst.... totally terrified... and exited.

10 years younger... make it 15 at least...

Any advice appreciated... Please help.... This can so not go wrong...

Op - you have been having a text relationship for 2 months and have known each other for 2 years so its not like you are complete strangers .... Personally, I'd have no problem taking things further if the spark is there when you meet up

Christ In a cow but you lot take the biscuits being kill joys!

Lol at Christ in a cow.
I meant Christ Im a cow.
No jesus in cows

I guess there is another point of view; if all he was after was a quick shag, why wait two month's before suggesting meeting up? He could so easily have done so before now.

No wonder the OP has left the discussion. Some of the comments on here about choice of venue are very patronising.

She was happy and excited and she gets comments that criticise the eatery or even the standard of the hotel....

"do hotels allow that sort of thing if you have no bags" - is that serious? The Mandarin Oriental would allow that sort of thing if you have the money!

Absolutely Concentrate, but what if that's not the case? My concern is the OP has only considered one possibility and as a result get hurt. None of us can call it. If she'd considered all possibilities I wouldn't be being a killjoy!

*may get hurt.

Agree. Mirrey. Prude tastic

Well, personally i quite like the beefeater and would go there with my DP and DD if i could afford it, but its pretty over priced.

I don't care if the it was the ritz (isnt that a resturant with rooms?) or the local premier in - the OP was excited about there bein a hotel, in fact, she said she wans't bothered about eating. She just wanted to get on and do the deed. This is all good - if i were single, id be, like, wahayyyyy! but im not niave enough to think that this would be the beginings of a relationship. Again, fine, if she is aware and happy with the situation. If she wants more, she might have to find a different tree to bark at. And if it is a fuck buddy she wants, it might be better not to pick someone at her childs school!

She may well have left the conversation and be finishing her ice cream sundae as we speak :)

"I mean fgs if this is your starting point, how low can it go."

It's a budget pub FFS...y'all are cracking on like he's asked her to join him for a Greggs and a tin of Special Brew behind the local Costcutter.

DP and I used to enjoy 'dates' at MaccyD's, Wetherspoons and dirty old man pubs round the back of Tottenham Court Road...and we shagged within the first week, several times.

What a shower of fucking snobs, seriously.

Windsock, are you calling me a prude? Why?

If you're both up for a shag, then go ahead.

But be prepared for that to be it. If you can cope with that then fine, if you're starting to imagine more, then you probably need to be more circumspect, for your own self-respect and due to the connection with your DD.

Try and imagine how it might be if you have a fuck, but then you dont hear fom him again, he doesnt answer your texts/calls and you have to see him, DD in tow, when he's coaching her. Do you think that would be difficult/awkward/upsetting for you?

It is pretty prudish to believe people don't use hotels for sex mirry.

offs what a bunch of old farts!

if you want to have sex, have sex. enjoy yourself.

Go for it

I am actually I remember well when the anticipation was such a turn on.

My first date with my DH was technically in a hotel room so I may be slightly biased! We had been in contact online for around 6 months, I went to the hotel to check in before we went out... which eventually happened about 6 hours later.

Good luck!

Nothing wrong with Beefeater BTW.

Element of teacherliness also makes it more exciting, IMO, but I do sometimes have filthyinappropriate thoughts.

PS Whatever you do, do not discuss your DD on the date/hookup/shagfest!

Oh fgs Teeb I didn't say anything of the sort. I said that I didn't think that hotels knowingly allowed it. Does that make me a prude? She can go and shag whoever she likes whereever she likes as far as I'm concerned. why should i care. Why are you and windsock so determined to twist my posts?

If the bloke really likes you he is not going to care whether you shag him on the first date or not.

If the bloke is just after a shag, he will simply hold out until the third or fifth, or whichever date it is that you shag him and then you'll never hear from him again.

He is hardly a stranger - go for it.

So, even if she wants it, she shouldn't???
Grow up, it's the twenty first century..

What on earth has happened to 'see how it goes and then decide'?

If the date goes swimmingly well and there is a meeting of minds/hearts than I really don't see a meeting of body parts shouldn't follow.
You are both adults, not teenagers, aren't you?

Having said that, I would not throw myself at him and it would be a nice show of his intentions if he made it clear that he fancies you, but for more than just a shag.

Personally, I think not having sex on a first date if preferable and less likely to end with lots of hurt - but feel free to ignore me as I threw myself at DH after a drunken night out while he was still with his then girlfriend - I am still not proud of my actions that night (17 years later). He very gentleman fought me off and tucked me in to my own bed (flat share, long story).

It has really surprised me at how many women advocate not putting out as a way of ensuring that she gets a second date

This is 2012, ladies. Men that think women are easy if they are 'allowed' to fuck them are not worth having.

Hope all goes well on your date, OP. Remember to keep your legs crossed and your ha'penny covered

I can't believe we take the dc to places like Beefeaters for a Sunday lunch and Reality thinks they are nasty

Surely to God I've got to be more classy than Reality????? FFS!!!!!

Haven't read all - errr, shagging the DD's coach seems like a possible horror story for DD. How old is she?