Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

[Lueji]

Interesting on the dress sense.

On my dates, and including when I started dating ex, I didn't wear anything showing anything.
Certainly not cleavage, or legs. Just a hint of outline.
Some skin, but really only arms or legs (not much thigh).


MLM, one thing less means removing a necklace/bracelet/earings, even make up (say tone down lipstick, or eye shadow, for example).
When you think you are done, remove/tone down one item.

[Lueji]

Watch, I don't do it, really, and don't think of it.
Just remembered it now, and it's a rule for when dressing for anything.

But, on my last dates, I meant to wear some make up, for example, and then ended up not applying (or applying just a hint), because it was after work.

[snapespeare]

pfft, cleavage will distract from my beer gut. cleavage stays!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Snape the sale is online too so you could have a pre-look.

I've never heard of the 'wear one less thing than you were going to' rule. The only rule I've heard of is don't show too much flesh, choose between legs and cleavage, don't flash both.

I just wear what I feel good/comfortable in. But I do think I have good dress sense so would never flash too much flesh.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Thing is Snape, I find if you have a large chestage, which I do happen to have, you can't help but flash the cleavage. You don't intend for it to be out there, it just is. And if I wear tops that are higher, having the large chestage makes me look frumpy. So I would tend to go with show of chest flesh rather than thigh flesh.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

clevage always distracts from my tummy, im quite booby, i always look clevagey, even if im not trying to be :)

And i dont do dressed up, like, ever. i do the slightly scruffy look. And as mr L commented after a 3 hour session, my hair looked remarkably similar, despite all the antics ( including some upside down) i told him it was my clever plan, in that looking a bit less ' done' i can get away with a mirad of things, and could have gone out, with birds nest hair and noone would have batted an eyelid :)

There will however be a new level to this ' scruffy' look when we are camping next weekend, as i will be rocking some jogging bottoms :) mr l seems to think its a good idea as they will be easy access.... MEN!!

[watchoutforthatsnail]

god, high neck tops make my boobs look even bigger and me look even fatter!
i need a scoop neck, or a deep V. i also have the fortunate/ unfortunate that my boobs are placed very high up on my torso, giving the illusion of being super perky ( despite 9 months breastfeeding) i am well known, in all areas ( including work, where if there is a man, with money who needs sweet talking.. i get sent) for my ' ridiclously perky boobs'
:)
i dont mind, people are looking at those instead of the ' ridiclously flabby stomach'

[TimeForMeAndDD]

I like my boobs. For my age and considering I have breastfed four babies, they are in good nick, full and 'up there'. They are one of my best assets so I resent hiding them away I like a square-ish neck too, one that is wide and so shows off my collar bones. Much better than high necks

[snapespeare]

had a quick look online, but couldn't see them time :(

yes, I have a HUGE chest. HUGE. there is no point in trying to disguise it, round necked tops make it look even more ridiculously bigger - and I agree with the legs/vs cleavage addage. I have fat knees. tits win.

:)

[Lueji]

Found the original quote, by Coco Chanel.
See article about it:
thehousethatdelbuilt.tumblr.com/post/5392722050/coco-chanel-prov
It's really about accessorizing.

Other quotes, some relevant to dating, btw:
www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/c/coco_chanel.html

[MyLittleMiracles]

Well I always wear my silver cross, my three rings, natural make up heels (cos I live in heels) jeans and a top. Which is what I wore last night. I like to go to dates in a dress, maybe that was where I went wrong I looked too slutty.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

I can only find these now Snape eoss.next.co.uk/search?p=Q&ts=sale-v2&cnt=16&isort=score&nxti=0&nxtv=000&sale=ty67w3r921&pfg=HT9048rynb&images=on&w=red+wedge+shoes+&description=red+wedge+shoes&af=&size2=&desprice= they must have sold out of the others. What about a ballerina type pump? They will look nice with your dress too, unless you are wanting a heel?

I'm not a jewellery fan. I sold all the real stuff to furnish my house but I have lot's of fashion stuff, that rarely gets worn. I only usually wear earrings and a necklace that DD bought me.

[MyLittleMiracles]

I love showing off my boobs (mainly cos after having little man I went up 3 cup sizes) and used to be non exsistent quite flat.

Showing some cleavage is good I think.

[snapespeare]

really enjoyed that article - thanks Lueji

I seldom wear jewellry. I wore my mums wedding ring for around 20 years after she died, took it off a while ago, haven't bothered to put it back on. Because I am so tattooed, I tend towards very little in teh way of accessories, as it can be a bit overwhelming. I have a swakowski crystal key on a fine chain that I very occasionally wear as it sits right over the anatomically correct heart on my centre chest. Silver flesh tunnels in my ears and thats it. necklaces can be strage things when you are large of nork, they sometimes disappear down your cleavage... as do quite a lot of things...

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Don't know what size you are Snape but here is a page of ballerinas, with what looks like a pair of navy ones with a red trim eoss.next.co.uk/search?p=Q&ts=sale-v2&w=*&cnt=16&nxti=0&nxtv=000&isort=publication&sale=ty67w3r921&pfg=HT9048rynb&images=on&af=cat%3Awomenswear+sub%3Ashoesballerinas+si%3Ashoesizeuk8&div=womenswear&group=shoesballerinas&size=shoesizeuk8&price=

[snapespeare]

time no problem, think it's ballet pumps if I can be arsed to go and find some on saturday morning, otherwise last years fly sandals...

[TimeForMeAndDD]

To be honest Snape I would go with your fly sandals until you know he is worthy of a second date, and a pair of new shoes.

[snapespeare]

exactly - not spunking away eight entire quid on some bloke off t'internet.

:)

[TimeForMeAndDD]

I bought a new outfit for that last date I had, decided at the last minute not to wear it and took it all back and got a refund the next day. Brilliant outcome!

[hatesponge]

I'd also go with the shoes you already have - not just because of the money aspect but also there is nothing worse than breaking in new shoes on a date, however comfortable they may have seemed when trying them on in the shop :)

am just back from the end of primary eggs and flour carnage in the park with DS2. He is in the bath busy trying to scrape what is now effectively batter out of his hair

[Lueji]

I'd probably only buy a new outfit/clothes for the wedding, really.

On the first date, we don't know if it's worth it, and on the second does it really matter? I mean, he's already seen you probably not at your best.

If you buy anything new, buy it for yourself.

[hatesponge]

I wouldn't buy an outfit for a second date.

I might buy one after, in celebration that the miraculous event had finally occurred

[Lueji]

Also, second dates are overrated.

I had one with the first guy, but then dumped him.
Waste of time, really.

The second guy, I almost had the second, but it would be a waste of time too, so, I wasn't really bothered about it.

I imagine that most people who have second dates, also end up not going to full relationships.
There is no such thing as "success" in dating or relationships.
The ultimate success test would be lasting till death, but then it's too late to gloat (at least for one of them...).

[watchoutforthatsnail]

Ive not brought any thing new for mrl..there is no point. He likes me anyway :)

I wear a lot of chunky costume accessories. Always a big braclet, and one large ring. Colour co ordinated with what I'm wearing. No earrings and not often a necklace ( for the reason snape says!) I have a really cool collection of stuff, that people always comment on, ie - get asked when.I'm.out and about)

[snapespeare]

I will buy new outfit for my next big promotion interview (made to measure vivienne westwood knock-off from China) work more important than men tbh, although I am frothing at the knickers at the mo... all this flirty texting is not good for my rampaging libido.

I like him better by text. He's complimentary & witty.