Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

[hatesponge]

Time given your success at matchmaking for Watch I might have to ask for your help :)

[watchoutforthatsnail]

time - thats because he is lovely :) he hold umbrellas for me, when i get out of the car so i dont get wet and then throws me around the bedroom like a caveman

In other, stomach churning news, i just got a text from ywk :(
Last i heard from him was on the 10/06/12 saying ' i am really sad'
then, todays ' i really miss not talking to you'
cant help it, stomach lurches, feel a little bit sick, heart races.
Funnily enough i was wondering about him yesterday, hoping he was ok.... i need to not engage. I know this. But i want to say, yes, i miss you too, but you werent who i thought you were, and i have someone now.... but i know ill be sucked in. Because no matter what, a little tiny bit of me will always want/ feel sad for what didnt happen.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

yes, time is an excellent matcher - time, you need your own website!!!
:)

[hatesponge]

dont engage with ykw :) at least now you know he's ok, which is good, but def leave it there.

I think Time should have her own website - lifecoaching and matchmaking. The 2 actually go quite well together

I probably do need someone to matchmake for me, certainly they couldnt make a worse job than I do myself!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Sponge I am happy to help if I can Have you made changes to your profile recently? I think I would start there if not. Write a profile that is completely different to any profile you have had. Get some new photo's, completely different poses to the ones you have already used, different looks, makeup and hair wise. Anything that is different, because you know what I say 'if you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you've always got'. Change brings change, so it's worth a try.

Watch do not reply. Do Not Reply. Anything you say will be misread, he will only take from your message what he wants, if you tell him you have someone new you will become a bigger challenge to him. He doesn't miss you, he misses how you made him feel. It's all about him.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

I expect hes just baffled as to why im not at his beck and call when everyone else in the world is.
incidentally ive just remembered that his gf was suposably moving out/ doing something with her job that required moving - about now.
coincidence? haha. no.

hes not my friend, friends dont lie. I shall not respond.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Good! You don't need him in your life, you are not missing anything by not having contact with him.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

no, im not :)

I know exactly why he wants to talk to me, and it is about how i make him feel, thats an absolute fact. He has told me before he is addicted to me and unable to give me up because of it. But it was a load of shit because he didnt treat me like a human, just someone there for him, he wasnt interested in any part of my life, other than the part that involved him. he wasnt interested in 'me'

But still, my stomach lurches when i hear from him. Probably always will do, hes YWK.

[Lueji]

Sponge, current Mr VN was through the equivalent of matchaffinity here.

We actually got communicating a lot and only met after more than a week.

But the other two dates (and one possibility, that I sort of let drop) were through another related site.

Personally, I'd use dating to get out with company and (hopefully) have an interesting time. If the person is into me and me into him, great. Otherwise, fine.

Picking up from Mrs Todd thread, why not go somewhere you like and have been meaning to go, but don't usually?

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Maybe over time, after no contact, he will no longer have that effect on you. You are seeing him for what he is, he is losing power over you so in time he will have no effect on you. He's only a man anyway, meh!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Sundays are good days to 'do stuff', lots of single dads swimming, in the park, in macdonalds high end restaurants.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

hes has no power over me :) and i know what he is. Still get the lurchy thing. I think some people you get it with forever, i dont think its a good thing, i had it with somone once, they were a very bad person to have in my life. always got it, every time i saw them.... i think the lurch is a warning thing really. Its just frequently mistaken for ' fireworks' its not, its a huge, massive, warning! lol

[watchoutforthatsnail]

sponge - go hang out with a meatastic picnic in the park, and get your boys to play football. near other men with children ( possibly single dads) lure them in with the meat!!!
men like meat.
meat and boobs. use both to your advantage :)

[hatesponge]

I think Time is exactly right about ykw :)

I changed my profile completely about a month ago, and added some new photos. I really like the current one, and it has got me a lot more messages, dates and offers than previous versions, albeit with no more of a successful eventual outcome!

I think I will have to go down the paid site route tbh its the only thing I havent tried.

[Girly]

Sympathies watch I know that feeling, had the same, damn bloody no good men!

[hatesponge]

at meatastic picnic!

Am not convinced there are any single men in my town (well none over 35) it being the epitome of suburban coupledom round here, but will keep on the lookout :)

[snapespeare]

I have a date.

sponge maybe more specialised dating sites around interests or employment? I always have a soft spot for teachers.. how about lovestruck? they have meet ups etc, which might be better for you than internet dating as such..

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Oh, yes, I know that feeling Watch, the 'flight or fight' thing. Horrible! I have learned the difference between butterflies and fight or flight, there is no way I would mistake that feeling for fireworks! It's really good that you recognise it too

Sponge that's good re your profile. I need to change mine, at the moment it's a witty/funny one but I want to go a bit more upmarket you know I want to appeal to the kind of man I want to attract.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

snape - you just cant say ' i have a date' we need details, is it the one from yesterday who you gave your number to? what happened?

sponge - there might be more single men than you think. there arent many single parents in my area eiter, but at the weekends the parks, swimming pools, macdonalds etc are full of them!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

I'm planning to take DD and my cleavage to the park in town, with a picnic, if it ever stops bloody raining!

Snape shouldn't that be a rather than a ?

[watchoutforthatsnail]

yes, it is the fight or flight thing. with mrl i get nice, warm, fuzzy, excited butterflies going on, its entirely plesant. With ywk i get a full stomach lurch, heart in throat, heart racing, bit of sweating. I spent maybe 18 months discounting dates because i thought that was fireworks and that was what i wanted... i was a bloody idiot :)

[TimeForMeAndDD]

I quite like hanging around the mens department in NEXT. That attracts some nice looking men.

When I say hanging around, the mens department is also the collection point for orders so I do have a valid reason for being there.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

You weren't an idiot Watch, you were learning.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

ooohhh, good idea. hanging around mens clothing stores. hahaha, boobs out, pie in hand. guaranteed to work :)

yes, i was learning. Took bloody 60 dates and about 3 years to work out what i wanted!!!
idiot :)

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Last week I was in Wilkinsons. A man stood at the side of me waiting for a woman to move out of the way before we could get down the aisle. I stood to one side and said "after you" and gave him a smile. He smiled back and said "good morning to you" with a nod of his head. I replied with a good morning and went about my shopping but we kept passing each other and smiling. We got to the checkouts at the same time and we went our separate way with a final smile. I didn't fancy him, not one bit, but I got the impression he fancied me because he was following me around the store and not filling his basket and I reckon if I had given him a signal we could have ended up having coffee or something.

Meeting someone can happen anywhere, at any time, you just have to be open to it.

Watch I am nearly 48 years old and I am still learning!