Success, standards and still holding out for Johnny Depp...dating thread 18

[ChaoticismyLife]

Forget the olympics...we're aiming for dating gold.

Only the best is good enough.

As you were....:)

[watchoutforthatsnail]

:)

quite.

hes a fucker for not seeing it
:)

[snapespeare]

agreed.

fucker



ah well.

[Lueji]

Snape, if Ted found the mother of his children**, you can too. :o

I'm sure that man is out there, you just have to find him.


** - How I met your mother.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

So - what are we doing about the next thread?

Seeing as not many of us are dating ( because of sofa surfing, or by some miracle have found someone to be with)

I like chatting to all of you ( obviously).. i think it would be nice to keep up to date, natter etc.... i want to know how you are all doing etc.. etc...

[FateLovesTheFearless]

I'd like to keep chatting too, I don't really join in as much as I used to because I never really dated with the Internet though I did meet S through it. plus I have been stalking you all since the first thread

[snapespeare]

Leuji I need to google that, my appreciation of popular culture extends to Doctor Who and Zombie films (my, I'm such a catch!)

watch oh, people will come and go on this thread it's general, so new people will join and succesfully coupled-up folk may or may not leave, no idea of a title though...

[Lueji]

You are right, of course, Watch, or else I wouldn't have tried internet dating. :)

But there is a difference between defining our worth by being in a relationship and desiring a romantic relationship as part of our lives.

I am sensing that Sponge is drifting dangerously towards the first.

At the same time, it's kind of easier to enter a good relationship if we feel good about ourselves. And that can't happen if we are depressed about not getting a relationship.
All the more dangerous as Lubey said.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

yay fate - we miss you. dont lurk, join in, it really doesnt matter i dont think, whos doing what :)


And time - where did you go??

no idea on thread title either....

leuji - yes, i do get what you are saying, its seeing the wood through the trees really isnt it. Change of perspective and all that.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Hi everyone Apologies for just barging back in like this after my marked absence, just been enjoying real life, you know, shopping with DD, gardening, sorting out wardrobes and cupboards, nesting I think they call it. Anyway, I need to tell you this.

Today I was in town. Noticed this quite dashing man walking towards me, looked at him, like you do, he took his shades off to look back at me, he walked his way, I walked mine, I turned around to have another look at him and he was doing the same to me. This made me laugh.

I went into a shop and saw him walk past, he had turned around and come back my way! I came out of that shop and went into another, saw him IN the shop, he went to the mens department while I scanned the ladies. He left the shop before I did and went to sit on the seats on the piazza. I carried on shopping.

Went into the pound shop and he was just coming out as I was going in, we smiled at each other and went on our way, me into the shop, him outside the shop. I hid behind the gardening section and spied on him, stood outside, obviously contemplating whether or not he should come back into the shop. Anyway, he did!!

I was having a sniff of the candles, which were disgusting and made me pull a face, and this voice behind me pipes up "They can't be that bad can they? Are they not very pleasant?" So I stuck one under his nose and let him decide for himself! He agreed they were foul.

THEN, with a very nervous look on his face he very quickly said "I would really like to take you for a drink or a coffee sometime if that's ok? You caught my eye. I promise I have never done this before but when I saw you I knew I just had to take the chance. No pressure, I will leave it up to you. Or if you want to exchange texts for a while, that's fine too"

Then he stood there, looking at me, waiting for my reply. He was on his way to a meeting so didn't have long. I told him it was very random and I wasn't sure, asked him to tell me a bit about himself. So, right there in the poundshop he told me his name, that he has 2 boys and that he is an accountant and he is in the process of buying a house, which happens to be quite close to me, but I didn't tell him that. Anyway, I agreed to exchange numbers!!! So we did. I figured it's no different to meeting a guy in a club and swapping numbers. Told him I wasn't promising anything but I might meet him for a coffee. And with that he said "Great! It was lovely to meet you, and I hope to see you again." and off he went to his meeting.

He text me almost straight away to ask if it was ok to text me tonight, and "by the way, you are gorgeous". And we have exchanged a few texts already, during his breaks. He seems ok, seems normal. So I might just meet him for a coffee, suss him out.

So, what do we think? Romantic or weird?? I've never done anything like this in my life!!

Oh, and he is 38, so he is 10 years younger than me

Right, off to read the rest of the thread. It's going to take me ages to catch up!!

[lubeybooby]

Dating thread has to keep going, for the newer, fresher members who haven't been utterly broken and destroyed by the experience yet

Maybe something could be included in the title though, like

We've given up, but if you're still DATING come and chat here

or something like that.

[watchoutforthatsnail]

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes

Fuck, YES.

i sound like meg ryan now.

FUCK!!! YES!!!

[watchoutforthatsnail]

romantic and lovely. AND DO IT :)

stuff like that doesnt happen very often, embrace it, and enjoy it.

OMG.

sorry, thats such a teenage response, but, im so excited and its the only thing i can think of.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Lueji]

I'd like it to continue too, as I think I might want to bounce off things with Mr VN with you.

After ex, and being on MN, I feel I am always looking for things that are not right. Expecting the worst, I guess, and wondering if some of his behaviour is a red flag, although usually it turns out not to be.

And, being nosey, I like to know what you are up to. :o

Maybe continue about alternatives to dating?

[FateLovesTheFearless]

Time . . I am all smiley on your behalf! You HAVE to meet him for coffee! Brave fellow he is!

[hatesponge]

I have realised after Sunday that what I miss is being hugged and feeling cared about. Even more than sex in fact - I hadn't realised that before. Hence why I'm more upset about it than the guys I slept with and who never called me again.

Yes I know Mr Walking Red Flag is/was a mistake, but it was nice to think for once someone did care. I can't remember if I said this, but he comes from my town (well its a village really) we grew up within a mile of each other, know some of the same people - there was something incredibly comforting in all that. Hence why I felt so at ease with him - it's not a sign of desperation, that guy I had a date with a couple of weeks ago (who when I knocked him back said he only wanted me for sex) I couldn't get away from fast enough. And Mr Ill too - though I liked him I didnt get the same feeling about him either.

As Watch says, I have tried the FWB thing - well to find one that is. I had high hopes of a guy I met on POF, there was chemistry but he wasn't someone I would date. But although he suggested by text that we meet again, I never heard any more from him. I know a FWB would make me feel less pressured, but honestly I cant find one. And it's not for the want of trying!

I am going out tonight with 2 friends to get pissed and numb the pain of my single state with alcohol :)

Watch I cant access pms from here but will read it later - and thank you (all of you) for caring. I am so glad that I have somewhere to go where others know the true hell of online dating, and didnt just meet their spouse on their 4th internet date having rejected the other 3 for utterly arbitrary reasons!

[Scattylatte]

This thread has really helped me avoid a complete mind fuck breakdown.
I feel very much like Sponge - totally demoralised by the whole thing. Snape: the quote that you put on from the other thread really does sum it up.
I have been feeling particulary low today because I have been texting a couple, sent them an up to date picture....and then nothing.
I had to seriously ask myself why am I doing this to myself. Why?
Its the blankness that is so stressful. The waiting for something is depressing. What am I waiting for? Approval that I am attractive by a complete stranger who has only seen my picture and nothing else? And my esteem is negatively effected by the rejection! This is madness....but it has happened and my esteem is rock bottom.
I am thick skinned but my whole self being has been slowly eroded. I was alarmed to read someone has ended up in therapy as a result of internet dating, but I can see why.
Sponge: you are not alone. Snape: Im glad your male friend is having a hard time as well!
Up with the Sisterhood!

[Lueji]

Time, that is so romantic.

I think that he should be as worried, you stalker.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

As he was asking if we could exchange numbers, I was think of you lot, wondering what you would say, I figured you would tell me to go for it, so I did!

He must have been stalking following me for a good 20 minutes, I walked slow so that he didn't lose me

[snapespeare]

time



You have to go for a coffee with Mr Candles. If i'm not getting any, someone has to take it on the clit chin for the team and get twice as much sex to even out the universe.

but i do know it's just a coffee and that does not mean sex

I'm SO PLEASED at REAL LIFE! screw you INTERNETZ!

[Lueji]

Sponge, your mission for tonight is to have fun. NOT to get pissed about not getting a man.

And strike conversation with a random stranger. Even if the bar person.

[Scattylatte]

Time: Definitely go for it. Your experience sounds so refreshing. Enjoy the coffee and the compliments.

Years ago I met a man in the street who asked me out for coffee. Apparently he had seen me in the hospital. Apart from the fact he was an Elvis Impersonator (nothing wrong with that but he carried it over into all parts of his life) we had a great time for quite a while. It was empowering for me.

With online dating i feel I have lost my empowerment

yes ill be on the next thread

[TimeForMeAndDD]

Snape. I never had faith in the dating sites, Watch will tell you that I always said it would happen this way. It's much better. I will meet him for a coffee, because I've already met him, it will be so much easier than arranging a meet with someone from a photo.

And he is tall!!!!!!!! And 38!!!!!!!! And he thinks I'm hot!!!!!

[FateLovesTheFearless]

It's a real life mills and boon!

mildly jealous no one other than a crazed neighbour has stalked me about town before!

[TimeForMeAndDD]

I must admit that on the bus home, I did find myself wondering if he would have a big willy or not. And I need to buy some fancy new knickers, just in case

38!!!!!!!

[Lueji]

Worst case scenario, join the Moonies or The Holy Spirit Association for the Unification of World Christianity en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unification_Church

The Rev. will find you a match. :o